Another reason is teen pregnancy, when a single teen parent struggles between school or a job taking care of a child makes it harder. So instead of abandoning the child they choose to give the child a loving home to parents who can take care of them. Adoption can also help the birth mother by giving her a chance to receive an education or achieve other goals. There are also cases where the mother or parents per say don’t feel like they are ready or capable of taking care of the child. Children are a lot of work but do they deserve to be abandoned?
It is imperative to spread an awareness on the resilience gap of these abused children and to educate communities on how to create environments that foster resilience for these children. One of the contributing factors of resilience is for these children to have a stable and caring relationship with an adult, which is not always available for these children, especially those that are removed from their home for safety reasons and are bounced between homes; however, it is something that can be created with time and effort. There are existing mentoring programs, but more research needs to be done to ensure their reach is catching the needs of these abused children, perhaps reevaluating existing programs and expanding them to ensure the needs of this vulnerable population are met; hence creating that stable, caring
As they reach maturation they find it difficult to adjust to these physical and emotional changes. Making them feel frustrated, anxious. Some have mood swings and show behavioural problems. Change in learning environment, separation from friends affect participation in activities and learning process. Apart from these some personal and particularly untimely changes may happen in a children’s or young people’s life Change Effect on child or young people Having sibling(s) Having sibling(s) causes sharing parents’/carers attention.
Some of these children may not be old enough to have a voice or they just are too shy. By having those in society aware of the signs and symptoms of child abuse we are hoping to break down the cycle. Some parents may not even believe that what they are doing to their child is a sign of child abuse but it could be something that has been passed down from their parents. What parents have to remember is that there are many ways of parenting around the world, this does not mean that anything goes, as long as it’s “cultural”, parents must adapt to what is acceptable in the dominant culture around them (Pennsylvania Family Support Alliance website, 2016, para.
New parents are hard to accept, especially when the child has been passed home to home. These attachment issues may restrict the child from moving forward in their lives and excelling in the new environment provided (Robin). The lack of stability in the system is only setting up the children up for failure, according to Stone, “we treated foster children as if they were our own, yet many of them never felt as if they were.” It is difficult for young children and adolescents to comprehend the separation of their parents let alone the process of moving to multiple foster homes while under the guardianship of the state. Other children mask their hesitation at being attached to a family by letting others see only what they want to see. The children are attached, but only on a “superficial level” (Robin).
Sometimes because of the hectic work, the parent forgets to put in that extra effort which is taken by the child as disinterest towards him. Uncertainty as well as concern for the deployed parent is depicted by the child by various ways. Toddlers often end up giving a warm welcome after crossing the initial stage of ambiguity while most adolescents refrain from opening up and hence end up being aloof. Thus, in order to maintain a healthy level of attachment with the child extra efforts from both ends should be made. Certain methods should be developed in order to ensure that the transition from Pre deployment to reunion is
Living in a Restricted World When an adolescent asks his or her parent about the issue of morals, they tend to receive the frequent response, “You are too young to worry about such things.”An excerpt of “I listen to My Parents and I Wonder What They Believe,” by Robert Coles, theorizes that parents avoid uncomfortable questions because parents do not know their own beliefs. Parents, under the false presumption that children do not encounter moral issues in their adolescent years, strive to protect their “innocent” children from the harsh realities of the world. As a result, the moral abdication of a parent restricts the advancement of a child’s personal morals. First, children replicate established beliefs and mannerisms set by parents in order to gain an understanding of the world around them. Robert Coles interviews one child who says, “You should honor your father and mother most of all; that’s why you should find out what they think and then sort of copy them.”(Coles, 1980, p.439) The moral abdication of parents restricts the advancement of a child’s personal morals because children are under the presumption that they are to copy their parents.
Moving you family can be filled with mixed emotions for everyone involved. It can be a very exciting time in their lives and for yours as well but also a move can be a sad and stressful time. There are a few things that as a parent, you can do to support your child or children through this emotional time of uncertainty in their lives. Just because you and your spouse may be excited for all the changes that lie ahead of you don 't necessarily mean that the children involved share in your enthusiasm. Children process change of any kind very differently and have to learn how to cope with several changes at one time with a move.
Studies have shown significantly that children need both parents in their life, especially during times of development. Girls growing up without a father, or emotional bond with their fathers, can cause them to search for love in men elsewhere – which could be cults. Children hold resentment to parents who leave, or are absent in their lives, often having feelings of loneliness and abandonment. Parent Alienation Syndrome can also prompt children to want to find a new place to participate in to get away from their parent/guardian. It is imperative for parents to understand some indicators of their child potentially being involved in a cult.
The separation from the mother and the child creates room for the child to grow estranged from the mother. In many cases, the child will no longer enjoy the same things, such as foods , hobbies, etc. As the child gets older and is raised surrounded by their guardians that differ from the biological mother it can create a commonality later where the biological mother must reintroduce herself to the child. During their prison term mothers may want to write their child in hopes to reconnect with them and establish a mother and child relationship. Often times the child may be afraid to write back or not know how to respond effectively, leaving the communication skewed from growth.