The disadvantages of using this REBT approach is that a serious problem can arise when the child gets upset with the behavior of important adult figures in their life (as they most often do), and this gets misconstrued by the therapist (Diguiseppe & Bernard, 2006). It could lead to more harm than good for the child if the therapist decides to go the disputational route, ignoring the fact that the data supports the child’s perspective and the elegant solution is a better alternative to treatment (Diguiseppe & Bernard, 2006). Many therapists tend to do this because they believe that a child’s realization of their parents being uncaring, unfair, or disturbed may cause more emotional distress than they can handle (Diguiseppe & Bernard, 2006). Let’s suppose a child is confronted with such an unfortunate reality of an unloving parent. The therapist decides to pursue an empirical strategy and tries to relabel the parent’s behavior as caring, and convince the child that the parent really does care.
Lead In: Cultural conflict in a family can lead to many events that can affect a child’s life. The child may become confused on what life to live or how to live it, especially when their goal is to ultimately make their parents proud. The child will also have a hard time growing up as he or she tries to figure out what path to choose regarding culture. Cultural conflict though, can make a person become stronger and give them a sense of being their own person II. Introduction Paragraph 2 Overview and Background In the novel Bless Me, Ultima, by Rudolfo Anaya, it deals with the protagonist Antonio Marez, having to go through cultural conflict.
For example, children who are in a good relationship with their parents while still remaining in contact with them prior to the separation or divorce, transition better into adulthood . Children who tend to be avoidant Children who rely on avoidance or suppression of emotions tend to display less satisfactory adjustment (Greenberg, page 8). Due to these issues involving child custody, there are services available to assist families and to help reduce the amount of conflict. B. Ethical issues in child custody involve more than just the child and the parents and sometimes professional help is needed to help resolve the dispute and decide what is best for the
It’s not the child’s fault that the parents have inadequacies and want to live vicariously through their child’s success because the parents couldn’t achieve it themselves. This concept is demonstrated when Kluger says, “parents [begin] to reach a state of emotional enmeshment with their children. ‘Parents begin to see their children as part of their own identity’, he says, ‘and their kids ' ambitions become their own.’ ” (2015, p. 58). The enmeshment of a parent to their child is not healthy and should be
Other parents want to protect their children from experiencing or even knowing about unhappy or unpleasant events so they decide to tell them very little about the actual reasons for the divorce. There are parents that tell their children too much about the causes of the divorce. When a parent is hurt they often want someone to talk to, so they talk to their child. This is not necessary, especially if the child is very young because they feel that they have been told that information so they would be against the other parent. Children want their parents to talk to them about the divorce but this has to be to some extent.
But, parents believe that having a disabled child is also having disadvantages as to them. Seth, as a psychologist and parent of a special needs child of his own, detected several adverse effects such as parents of a disabled child would resent their child in such situations. Another, moods of the parents will suffer because the environment is so demanding than before. Some parents are stressed enough to get angry at their disabled child, but because they love their child, instead of getting mad at them, they will put their anger on other people. The romantic relationship of the parent will be affected too as well as their interpersonal relationships.
What they do not realize is how much this can affect the children’s brain, not only will they feel pressured or stressed but, also they may also go into depression when they fail to prove that they are winners. A child going into depression is not what a parent would want to see. Not only this, but majority of the parents force the kids to go for subjects or careers that they may not like or prefer. Being a parent we should understand our children instead of pushing them to win, we should give them the freedom to choose what they want to be in the future instead of saying do this and be that. Moreover, childhood is the only age we are able to enjoy and have fun doing activities so why are the parents taking away the golden age of children.
The children are attached, but only on a “superficial level” (Robin). Furthermore, studies have shown that foster children have a higher chance of severe insecurities and attachment disorder (Harden). These disorders cause complications in future relationships. The long-term negative effects of this is the foster children maintain their suspicious and untrustful manners which makes it difficult for new bonds in relationships to form (Robin). As a result of attachment issues foster children tend to feel uneasy in the home they are placed in.
Absent Parents Why do people decide to have children, but don’t want to take care of them when the kids get here? Children shouldn’t grow up without both of their parents. They need both parents so they can focus in life. These children may suffer in life because of not having their mom or dad in their life. According to Raiford, “children may develop behavioral problems if there is an absent parent in the home”.
Unfit parents negatively affect the child’s emotional development, which leads to behavioral problems. Most parents have o intention to hurt their child on purpose, but sometimes they do it out of lack of experience or parenting skills (Lackovi-Grgin, 2000; Aberle et al., 2007). Adolescent Self-