Justin Luna Eng 90 September 25, 2015 Have you ever wondered why we lie? Is it to make ourselves look good or is it because it's too embarrassing to tell the truth? I believe everyone lies in one way or another and that not all lies are intentionally told to cause harm. In fact, lying sometimes might be the best approach when it comes to protecting our privacy and ourselves. The story I have chosen is Stephanie Ericsson’s The Ways We Lie, and it covers the different ways that we lie to each other and why we do it.
However, we are not alone as human begins it's in our nature to lie. In the essay "The Way We Lie," Stephanie Ericsson explains a few of the many reasons why we lie, "We avoid confrontation, we spare people's feelings, we conveniently forget, we keep secrets" (1992, p. 159). We want to avoid a big argument or fight that might make matters worse. We lie to protect another from the truth because it might be unbearable. A lie can come out of our mouth without much thought.
It is in our human nature that we lie, we do this for many different types of reasons; parents to their children, to keep surprises and secrets and lastly, to protect themselves and others. What makes you lie? From the first few years of our childhood we’ve been lied to. Parent’s aren’t really supposed to lie, but of course, they do, most of these lies aren’t necessarily crude and dishonest. It all depends on how we tell them to our children.
A lie is a lie no matter how you try to put it. Some lies can be small and you think that it can do no harm and others are big and can really mess up something that was going good for you. That 's why throughout this essay I 'm going to tell you why I feel it 's not okay to tell a lie. My three reasons are as follows I told someone I liked them when I really didn 't, telling my father,I was moving back to Alabama and when I told my grandmother we didn 't have school when we did. Over the course of my life I 've told many lies that have put me in really bad positions.
On the one hand, I think lying is not always the answer; I personally avoid telling a lie because if you are going to lie you have to be carefully thinking about the consequences that those bring. I know that big lies can be a problem. For example, hiding your relationship with someone saying that you are single when you are not. That would bring so many consequences for yourself and for others too. That is why it is better to not tell big lies because that would affect you and other people negatively.
We like to keep our self-worth when we are in someone’s company. We also care about our position when we are with our boss or someone who is in higher position. In this case, people lie to cover up some failures they made or to compliment others to make them have good impressions about yourself. Lies in friendships or workplace may help the person achieve his/her social position, although truth should still be told. First of all, people simply do not like liars.
When you lie, even if you think others will never find out, you will create a barrier in your relationship. When the other person finds out about your lying, it’s nearly impossible to gain trust. Also the people that you are lying to almost always find out, if you are lying it is better to come clean and tell the truth after the lie, because if you don’t it is only worse. Lying hurts us because it becomes a hurtful cycle that is
For, example, lying about the pronunciation [of my name] to make it easier for people to say or, at times, tuning down my ‘blackness’ as to not make people uncomfortable. It sucks, but its happens sometimes.” From my viewpoint, I agree with the Asian contributors. Whenever I attend a family reunion or visit China for the summer, my close family and friends tend to bluntly
People like to pretend to be good friends. It is for attention or to be mean. Should everyone have only one way of acting or two ways of acting? Also, how would they like their lives being mean to everyone talking behind their friend’s backs. Personally I think it is messed to do that, but who am I to judge?
It’s painful and unfair, but it’s the only way to find out who you really are. It’s easy to look back and point out the mistakes in our lives and wish we had never made them but the fact of the matter is that our lives are built on these mistakes as much as they are, if not more, on our successes. They make us who we are and that isn’t something worth letting go. Finally, like one of my favourite authors JK Rowling said, we’ve all got both light and dark inside of us. What matters is the part we choose to act on, that’s who we really