Response to Conflict Kyriaun Davis, Liyana Karim, Ciyaliz Manoj, Gavin Hua Conflicts can’t be averted; they’re a part of life. There are many different ways to deal with conflict, but many disagree on how to resolve it. Although it is true that every situation is different, some methods may be considered extreme. The best way to respond to conflict is with reasoning and civility, but many disagree by saying that the best response to conflict is force and violence. First of all, reasoning would be one approach to solving conflict.
"Mind Over Heart" An action can either be made by reason or be influenced by emotion. The same thing can be said about solving conflicts, we either choose the reasonable path or allow the pressure of the problem to consume us, deterring us from the coherent path. People are often dubbed as rational beings, yet there are times we forget the gift of reason and act solely upon how we feel, overall making us unreasonable beings. The three narratives we have encountered are dissimilar in terms of solving conflicts because one uses reason as a guide on how to face the problem, while the other allows his emotions to blind him from what is right. Agamemnon is one of the key characters of Book One of Iliad, as a matter of fact, you can even say he was the one who made the whole story go round.
During the course of one’s life, one will encounter situations in which one strongly feels a particular way despite a lack of evidence. Often, the strength of such convictions will cause one to act rashly, projecting one’s views onto others due to one’s tumultuous emotional state. More often than not, this rashness results in one making decisions that will harm both oneself and those around one. The rifts that are created as a result of such difficulties lead to tension and differences between individuals for years to come. From such divisions, one must find a way to be forgiven for what one has done, as only then can one obtain peace with others and oneself.
She even realized when the people also fighting a similar cause were taking the wrong path in either the way they pursued their shared beliefs or how they dealt with her and her Nina (Kidd). That also seems to be a common problem in our day to day struggles. We will find people who think similar to us, but we are so against how they go about things that we are either abandoned by this group or we are forced to find our own path. The most common example for me is politics, people like me may want to be part of a party; however, the party continues doing disgusting things that makes me ashamed of even being remotely affiliated with said party. I end up going my own way after being told what to do in order to be part of that party.
Negative Attitude Towards Conflict What mindset is best to have during conflict? Mr. Van Daan was always moody, and never really appreciated what he still had. Most people deal with conflict in a negative way. A positive attitude towards conflict may be the best way it handle it but, some people have a negative attitude towards conflict. There are many ways that people can argue about the negative effects of conflict.
I have so many painful memories that I would like to forget about and that I prefer not remembering. I agree with this idea that your coping mechanism or survival instinct might hide these memories away from you to protect you. Although I personally don’t remember having any repressed memory but there are many things that I feel are too painful for me, without ever realizing why they affect me so much when they should not. Going to the article again and to our book, I do agree with points expressing that how repressed memories can also be false memories that are just making monsters by the active imagination. There are some cases of repressed memories that lead to false accusations and might destroy someone’s reputation and ruin their
Survival doesn’t always come easy, most of the time you will have to make decisions that will make others judge you, whether you like it or not. For example, if someone left their friend to save themselves, should these people be held accountable for their actions? People shouldn’t be held accountable for those actions because when it comes to life or death that’s so much pressure to that person so of course they’re going to make mistakes and everyone makes mistakes we just have to learn from them. However, people will argue that if they put themselves in that situation they should be held accountable for their action In a story titled The Seventh Man, The story is about a boy and his friend who go to the beach after a storm and they end up in a life or death situation. When they were on the beach out of nowhere a huge wave starts to come towards them, which can kill them both, the Seventh man makes a decision “i told myself to to run over to K….
I would choose the non- judgmental approach only because I know that being judged is one of the main things that people worry about in life. Even if a personal is doing something positive in life they still worry about being judged so I know for a fact that if someone is doing something negative they are also worried about be judged and most of the time they are. Just because being judged is a known risk of allowing certain people know that an individual is performing a harmful act a lot of people normally choose to do their acts privately or keep in a secret from certain people. I think that they do this just because right off the back they feel like someone will label them in negative way. This is not always the case but it does happen.
For avoidance I do this quite frequently where I just leave the situation so that I don 't say something I will regret later. To make this even more effective I could say something along the lines of “I need a few minutes to calm down and think, I 'll come back when I am ready to talk.” For me this has been extremely effective compared to some of the other strategies I have also used. Blame and verbal aggressiveness have been ineffective for me because when using this form of argument the other person involved always ends up getting hurt and it “is destructive” (pg.301). During this form of argument the whole argument consists of “inflicting psychological pain and attacking the other person 's self-concept” (pg. 301) once I realized I was occasionally using this form of argument I immediately stopped.
Conflict management styles refers to the key perspective of how an individual deals with conflict in order to strike a balance in satisfying personal needs and goals between self and the other party,(refer to text book). The key argument is the different conflict required different management style, an individual free to choose anything style that is suitable to his or her conflict, but if the wrong style is deployed, the conflict could be worsen or remain unresolved, (Weeks, 1994 as cited in Ang, 2013). There are five primary orientation of conflict management styles, “avoidance”, “competition”, “compromise”, “accommodation” and “collaboration”, (Blake & Mouton, 1964; C. Brown, Yelsmer, & Keller, 1981; L. Brown, 1983; Canary & Cupach,