What defines a good parent? What defines a bad one? To what point do these terms become subjective? The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls Illustrates the impact that parents have on their children and how nomadic life does as well. The Glass Castle follows Jeanette's experience with nomadism and tells how it shaped who she is and how the members of her family molded her into who she is today. The text documents the struggles and challenges that she faced from childhood and how her upbringing correlated to her doing so. In the text, Walls characterizes her father as an arrogant man that struggles to juggle parenthood and alcoholism, frequently neglects and endangers his family, and does so all while instilling his philosophy and beliefs in his …show more content…
One example in the book is when Rex takes Jeannette to a bar to attempt to con money from a regular customer. In the process, he knowingly puts Jeanette in a dangerous situation. He allows the man to take Jeannette up to his apartment, where Jeannette quickly escapes and confronts her father. When she confronts him she tells him that the man attacked her, only for him to say that it was a sensible risk and stating “I knew you could handle yourself” (Walls, Pg). This scene at the bar shows Rex’s negligence and inability to prioritize Jeannette’s safety over his booze money. This scene also indicates that Rex’s interests and goals are fueled by personal gain and interest and that he is willing to achieve his goals by any means necessary, even putting his own daughter at risk. From this scene, we can deduce that Rex is willing to even put his family members at risk in the interest of fulfilling his …show more content…
It was his responsibility, he'd say, to handle the family finances. And he needed money to fund his gold leaching research”. Another example is when Rex had been asking Jeannette for money. When she asked him what it was for Rex reacted by stating "Goddammit, since when do I have to explain myself to my children?". The first example shows that Rex was willing to impede his daughter's recovery out of spite towards the medical system and out of pride. The second example implies that Rex holds on to the traditional masculine Ideologies that he was presumably raised with and sees himself in a place of authority due to him being the father of the household; He did this even when he was squandering the family's earnings on meaningless experiments and alcohol. The third example once again shows how Rex thinks that his “place of authority” trumps the needs and concerns of others. Throughout these examples, we see that rex
Walls demonstrate how pervasive traumas such as poverty combined with parental neglect create overwhelming feelings of depression among children, who must bear witness to not only physical but also emotional hardship caused by being born into difficult circumstances through no fault of their own. She tries to self-medicate by excelling academically and graduating at the age of 17, but her abandonment issues persist. Jeanette revealed herself to be a fully fleshed-out individual as a result of her pursuit of herself, and her values grew as she grew distant but never far. Jeanette seizes the initiative by becoming a parent, not only to herself but also to her other siblings. Her determination to reach out and pursue greater development not only through her siblings but also through her
Rex is a man who uses his gifts to plan a future, a man that puts his skills to use.
In the book it’s not just Rex who gets out of control it’s sometimes Rose Mary. On pages 42 and 43, we see Rose Mary’s chaotic behavior, “Mom got upset at Dad‘s blasphemy, reached her foot over to the driver’s side, and stomped on the break. It was the middle of the night, and Mom bolted out of the car and ran into the darkness. ”(Walls 42&43).
Rex Walls is the father in the memoir, and though he cannot acknowledge his neglect, a psychoanalysis can be made to see that his power is held over his family despite his constant neglect that is a result of his alcoholism and potential mental health issues. Rex frequently hold power over his family in various ways; “And why don't you act like a dad?” I could see the blood surge into his face. He grabbed me by the arm. “You apologize for that comment” “Or what?”
Rex leaving his family after taking care of them is what makes him a complex character. He will show affection to his children, and then later that night he will leave his family. These actions are contradictory, thus making him
Rex and his wife Rose Mary have arguments as well when it comes to money. They started getting into fights about spending money, and how Rex behaves. One night they got into a fight and it startled Jeannette and her siblings. She tries to take her dads side when she describes what Rex was doing, “Dad explained that he was out trying to earn money” (69). Jeannette knows that her father is trying to do whatever he can do to help the family.
As a parent, you are supposed to have a positive impact on your children, whereas the father (Rex) has a negative impact on Walls children. Finally, Jennette’s family has been struggling for food. Jennette's father was coming home decreasingly, which added to the family's tension. Furthermore, this causes a “maggot” situation to take place. For example,“Mom was sitting on the sofa bed, eating the piece she'd cut.
And without the capability to assess future risks and repercussions of a decision, Rex almost kills his wife in the process. Struggling to cope with their father’s rages and without a means to restrain him, Jeanette’s family is forced to face Rex’s violent
Jeannette described that this experience made her feel used by her father and gave her a sense of self-worthlessness. Rex knew that Jeannette had a soft spot for him and he took advantage of this. Jeannette has a psychological scar from this for the rest of her life, and it produced long-term effects of distrust and diminished self-worth. As a child she had been through more than most adults, and in one case she even wakes up in the middle of the night with a child molester in her bed. “One night when I was almost ten, I was awakened by someone running his hands over my private parts” (Walls 103).
Up until this point, Rex has thought he was perfect, only ever telling his kids they must think he's a failure just as a guilt trip, not knowing that they actually think of him that way. Now that Jeannette has pointed out the one thing he thought could never be true, he begins to realize things are falling apart. Rather than acknowledging that he might be the reason for the family's troubles, his delusions keep him from the truth. Following Jeannette and Rex's fight, Rex begins to reminisce about the previous events, only to come to the conclusion that their "family is falling apart". But rather than acknowledge that he might have been the problem because of all of his drinking, gambling, cheating, and putting his children through a living hell of a childhood, he instead believes he is too good for that and believes his children aren't grateful and that it is their fault for
Readers first learn that when he speaks. For example, Rex gets “into an argument with the doctor” because he “thought [Jeannette] shouldn’t be wearing bandages.” With his words, he continues to force his opinion when he suggests “[b]urns need to breathe” (13). This greatly shows how Rex openly expresses what he believes should be said in the moment. He has no filter which is part of what makes him an exciting parent, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t ways of being exciting without causing problems with the things he says.
She also had to deal with finding exciting things that were only to be taken from her, like when her mother inherited all the money and told Jeanette she had a huge home in Texas. Her mother told Jeanette and the family that she had inherited all this money just for her and Rex to use it all and send them back to having no money and barely a place to
He knew I had a soft spot for him the way no one else in the family did, and he was taking advantage of it” (209). Although getting played by her father, Jeannette learns a valuable lesson about managing money and how to be strong. We see in the end of the book that almost
They think they can bend the rules and do what they think is necessary. Jeannette is exposed to these understandings, making her the person she grew up to be. Jeanette demonstrates how she struggles with her family throughout numerous portions of the novel: “The Desert,” “Welch,” New York.” These struggles developed and defined who she came to be.
In this world, there’s learning things the hard way and the easy way; in Jeannette Wall’s world, there’s only learning things the hard way. The Glass Castle is an adventurous story that reveals the painfully miserable story of Jeannette Walls. A selfish mother, a careless father, and terrible social encounters- these are some of the elements of a harsh reality Rex and Rose Mary Walls failed to shield their children from. Growing up poor was already difficult, but growing up with a selfish parent, specifically an unfeeling mom, made life hell for the Walls children. The family barely had one source of income from Rex Walls, and instead of helping out with the family’s finance issues, Rose Mary spent her days at home painting.