Essay On Healthy Egoism

Chapter 6: How to Talk About Healthy Egoism
How will your daughter know where is the end of her needs and where is the beginning of the needs of other people? Where is the boundary of healthy egoism?
Teaching young women to be empathetic and compassionate is like skinning them alive. As a general rule, empathy is a sign of a developed and a sensitive personality. But there is also an uncontrolled empathy toward the whole world, including the living and the artificial, the imaginary and the real worlds. Metaphorically, this is a world without skin or without a backbone.
Why do we call this process skinning alive? Because it describes a personal world without boundaries. The skin is the boundary where your body ends and the outside world begins. This

Maybe he is yelling at you because he has problems.”

Slowly, your daughter will start thinking about everyone else first and put herself last.
Indeed, why should anyone think about themselves, when they can think about others? This is so noble!
Being generous and noble is appreciated in theory, but works poorly in practice.

Who appreciates nobility? When people encounter very noble and giving persons, they tend to think more about personal interests. This unhealthy empathy often creates the equally harmful dynamics of taking too much of what’s on offer by the givers. Somehow, you are never enough for others. You can hand over your heart on a silver tray and it will get ripped apart!

It’s extremely difficult to learn self-care and self-protection when the emotions have grown into habitual skeletal patterns in our bodies. It’s like holding the whole world on your shoulders. The situation stays the same for a long time, without any faith or clue of what to do and how to change it. When you become aware of this, you only know that you need to save yourself from the uncontrolled empathy, while there is still time. When your daughter is a teenager, she has more time to build healthier