I Chose forgiveness as my strength because you must be strong to forgive someone all though it can be hard to do, it frees you as a person, and it makes you feel happier and healthier. Forgiveness is not something that can happen overnight. It takes time. Holding on to grudges can make you a very unhappy person. Forgiveness is a primary key to eternal peace and life. Once you let a grudge go, you automatically feel better. People who forgive are happier and healthier than those who do not. Holding on to grudges can harm your health by causing stress. If you are unforgiving, thinking of the event can ruin your day or mood at any time. Repeatedly thinking about the harm that’s been caused can raise your blood pressure and put a strain on your heart. Over an extended period, this can make you more …show more content…
My parents had me in high school, so they never had a stable relationship or home to build in. My dad eventually built a family of his own and moved away to get a better job, so we occasionally talked on the phone. The phone conversations with him were brief. The discussions revolved around how I was doing and promises that he would come to visit; he never did. Sometimes he would come to visit and not tell me. I eventually developed resentment towards him, but no matter how upset I was towards him it wouldn’t change the fact he wasn’t there. At around ten-years-old, my disappointment passed quickly. I believe this was because I didn’t miss someone I barely knew. My mother eventually marries and started a family as well. She married my sister's father, and he became my dad, but that too came to an end which sadden me. At a certain point, we choose to hold on to anger, hate, and pain, and it shows. I realized that I could overcome that pain, forgiving them was easy. I knew growing into a young adult I had to get over it because they had moved on with their lives, so I had to do the
Finally, Kor expresses the importance of forgiveness. “Anger and hate are seeds that germinate war. Forgiveness is a seed for peace. It is the ultimate act of self-healing. I look at forgiveness as the summit of a very tall mountain” (Kor and Buccieri 133).
The “perpetrator” then reflects on their comment and feels guilty for it then transforms their attitude so they aren’t the “bad guy” anymore. I believe that forgiveness allows the perpetrator a chance for inner transformation and “to escape the whirlpool of wrongdoing” (Matthieu Ricard- 236)that they may feel caught
If you don’t forgive someone it can haunt you for the rest of your life and may affect how you see different objects and
Harboring a grudge is often accompanied by unpleasant feelings capable of guiding one's self towards petty means of retaliation.
People choose forgiveness because they want to release the initial offender from their guilt and past action to form a better relationship with them. As Chernoff discusses, "When we release others from the penalties of their actions, we create a space where our own thoughtless actions against others can be forgiven as well”(1). The quote above explains how forgiving others can allow for a better relationship based off of forgiveness between the initial offender and the avenger. People forgive because they see it as the right thing to do. In the text, "In reality, I was just a man who got somebody mad-- mad enough to want to kill him-- and survived it.
Tough Love In The Glass Castle the Walls family has lots of ups and downs, as most families do. Every family has a story and every family has their ups and downs, this story is about the down parts in my family’s lives. When we were little, we always have big dreams about what we were going to be when we grow up. Everyone thinks their family is perfect and when they hear bad stuff about other families they always think, that could never happen to me.
It’s true you won´t deep down always forgive someone because their actions are irreversible or may be unforgivable, but it’s better for there to be an effort of forgiving in order to move on. Or you may argue that people can move on without forgiveness and just not care or hate that person and what they did. Though just as Elie Wiesel noted in his preface, ¨the past lingers in the present.¨ (Wiesel vii) There will always be a part of you that'll hold onto what happened. For example, after the Nazi´s freed the prisoners Elie said not one of them thought of revenge.
According to the text in “What’s With These Guys?” Kristen Lewis it says, “When we see Thor try to save his brother even after he his brother betrayed him, we are reminded of the power of compassion and forgiveness.” (18) This explains to me that people can have forgiveness on things that would be really hard to forgive and be compassionate about other things.
We are humans and a majority of us have dealt with heartache, pain, broken promises, along with the joyous things like dreams, aspirations, and successful futures. Humans mess up and make mistakes, but we have to remember that forgiveness is a very prestigious and powerful thing. Forgiveness affects people’s lives in positive ways through the hardships, difficulties, and struggles of life. There comes a time when forgiveness should not be available to some individuals. However, this depends on the past situations that have occurred in your life as well as other individuals.
1. I feel that forgiveness is not for the other person, it’s a process that provides you the energy and the self-confidence to move on. One reason why is forgiveness is not for the other is because in my experience, forgiveness is a situation where serious harm has been done to you physically or mentally. The next steps are finding a way to relieve your conscious of the harm caused.
From age 9-14, I spent most of my time with a babysitter. When I was old enough, I stayed home by myself. I grew lonely, and during those times was when I missed my biological parents. Though I love my dad with all my heart, we never established the bond that I had with my biological dad. My biological father, unfortunately, passed away May of this year.
Knowing that a loved one bothered you and showing them the mercy is a part of forgiveness that is an effect of that connection. That’s because breaking that connection is worse than any other emotion. Diane Ackerman's states “It is an emotion that scares us more than cruelty, more than violence, more than hatred. Just think about it, you would never care more than if you did something to a stranger than to a loved one. Forgiveness shows mercy through love.
(pg 114) This passage shows that we are meant to forgive ourselves or others no matter what horrible things have happened. And once we forgive we learn to see the beauty in our lives rather than the struggles and pain that we have gone through. “‘ I could be wildly wrong. But my sense of you is that you’re a good person, not a bad one.”
I had to forgive myself, and help myself to let go of my anger, hurt, pain, and start to love myself and all that I am. I had to understand that what happened wasn’t my fault; that I wasn’t the cause of all my mothers’ anger. Only then was I able to grow into the person I am today; only then I was able to start on the path of truly forgiving others. Forgiveness is a decision to let go of all the resentment and thoughts of revenge. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
Lord Ganesha The Applications of Erikson’s Stages of Psychological Development Trust vs. Mistrust (Birth – 1 year) When I was born in this auspicious earth the first face I saw was my parents face. I used to cry a lot and mom usually thinks I’m hungry and feeds me every time when I do so. So I got to know my mom a lot