I’m writing this guide for my kids as they grow up and go out into the world — but it’s for anyone who wants to connect with others. I’m writing it for my teenage self, who was shy and awkward and self-conscious. I’m writing it as a reminder to my current self, who is still those things. But I’ve been lucky enough to make a handful of good friends, awesome people who are sucking the juice out of life, who wake up every day with gratitude and energy. I’m lucky to have them, and it makes me reflect on what I’ve done right, and what they do all the time when making connections with people. Here’s what I’ve learned. It’s not a comprehensive guide, nor will it work for everyone. I still hope it’s useful. Guidelines for Making Friends In my experience, …show more content…
While it’s OK to share your struggles with people (I recommend it), if you’re complaining all the time, and are generally negative about other people and life in general, then people get tired of the complaining and negativity. We have enough trouble in life without having friends who are negative all the time. That said, a good friend will always listen when you’re in need, so don’t take this as “never complain.” Instead, just generally try to be a positive person, and if you have struggles, also try to show how you’re tackling those struggles with a positive …show more content…
This is just something that’s good to do for yourself. Be happy with who you are, even the flaws. If you are, you can be confident that you’re good enough when you meet someone else. People generally don’t respect someone who is constantly harsh on themselves. How can you learn to be happy with yourself? That’s a whole other post, but in general, become aware of any tendency to be harsh and critical of yourself, and don’t let yourself stew in those kinds of thoughts. Start to see the good in yourself, the genuine heart and caring nature, and let that be the story you tell yourself about yourself. I don’t claim to be an expert at any of this (my friend Tynan is a much better expert, and wrote an excellent book you should check out), but this is what I believe to be true right now. I hope this helps, and if you find yourself lacking in any of these areas, see it not as confirmation that you suck, but as an exciting new area for you to
I have met various amounts of people, who all have different views on my “flaws” and my “imperfections.” In my experience, people tend to prefer traits that they themselves have. This is why I do not
I was struggling to find out why I was losing sight of my favorite trait: being a social butterfly. When I first entered college, I was so energetic and spontaneous with all the people I met. But, after my sophomore year, I realized something changed within me. I stopped trying to keep friendships alive and barely surrounded myself with others, besides those who are close to me. Through this course and backpacking trip, I was able to gain insights on why I was like this.
Where would we be without technology?Think of the etiquette that has changed, because of the use of technology. When is it and isn’t OK to be on your smartphone: The conclusive guide By Caitlin Dewey and “Is Technology killing our Friendship? By Lauren Tarish are two articles that are fiction. In the Conclusive guide you will read about ways how to use modern technology.
I relate to this quote deeply. I have always struggled with my body and my self image. When I was younger, I was a lot chubbier than I am now. I would look into the mirror and hate the girl that was staring back at me. I would notice my imperfections, and instead of loving my body, I hated it.
Getting to know each other and form relationships with those around us can make all the difference.
Once I think why I have no friends, I find out, I have to change and improve myself. Before, I wandering for friends, but after I change myself, I become an insider. I got friends, but even I have friends, I could see some outsider with no friend. The insiders act kind to the outsider, only when they are face to face. The inside may find some ways to walk away from the outside.
After all the quotes, there is also a second half of this book called a “Friendship Book”. In this book, you write your thoughts, favourite quotes and compliments to your friends, or even problems/things you want to talk to them about. You pass this book from one friend to another each day; and they write what they wish. I included this because sometimes you’re too nervous to talk to a friend about what is bothering you and so instead you could write it to them so they too understand. This could also be used to cheer you up if you are written compliments or photos are pasted into
We all like to agree on that. But we never like to think about our flaws. We all have imperfections just like every other thing in the universe. Most of us just do not pay attention to them. We are not perfect, after all.
I just did not know how. No one is perfect, we all have weaknesses. My weaknesses include being shy and taking charge, but I do outgrow after
As 7th grade started, my social life came to a definitive close. I struggled greatly with friends, primarily because one of my good friends had left Trafton in 6th grade to receive home schooling, and because all of my other friends from elementary schools attended other schools. I attempted to reach more friendly terms with people who I previously
Just do anything which helps you bring out your confidence. You have to know yourself and be true to yourself. Sometimes, that isn’t as easy as it may seem (especially for women because we are very deep thinkers when it comes to matters like these). You are who you are, and you want what you want. The idea of misrepresenting your looks, your thoughts, your desires, and even your weight to the masses is not a novel concept.
Me as student found that it is hard to connect with others and make a new friends with new people outside our social normal groups. Is it true? 2. Actually,
However, it's giving the opposite effect. It makes me feel as if I’m not trying, which I am. It makes me feel as if I must rush and figure it out and I have to be stuck in a job I might end up not liking. I feel as if I need to live up to everyone expectations of me. I was always the good and respionble one in my class and school which lead to people thinking highly of me.
The thing is that people complain when problem gets to them. The problem will never be solving if you just keep complaining but instead try talking to someone. Talking to someone can help deal with those complaints and work with it. Although it can be annoying to some people there is always someone in your life who cares enough to listen and help you out. When that happens, you should let them help you.
Social location could be defined in many different ways due to all the aspects that influence it, but mainly it is a person's place in the world based off of things such as race, religion, sexuality, gender, etc. All the factors that influence a person's social location not only tell their standing or place in the world but how they were brought up, who they are looking forward to becoming, and how they will fare in the future. A person's beliefs weigh heavily into social location normally more than most other things later in life, but early on, it's normally the unchangeable things like gender and race. The main things that have contributed to my social location are moving, sexuality, education, and the beliefs I have started to have. Throughout my life I have experienced many different things that have helped me to shape my social location starting with when I moved here at the age of twelve.