Perfectionism has been in my blood since I was a young kid always lining up my toy tractors against the wall in order of size or color. I have always had this burning passion in me that I need to do more; achieve more. Looking at the long list of activities and causes I dedicate my time to has been an eye opener. I am the busiest person I know but it doesn’t always appear that way to me.
+ Judging your self-worth basing on your ability to achieve unrelenting standards. + Overcoming negative consequences of demanding standards, never give up even though you need to pay the huge cost. If you always think “I can’t be a perfectionist, because nothing in my life is perfect.” But being a perfectionist isn’t about things being perfect; it 's about
I have always been curious why perfection is so strongly sought after, even with the knowledge that such flawlessness is unattainable, and imperfection is often equated with failure. It is human nature to want to succeed; no one strives to do poorly, but it is not fair to limit ourselves to a system of either passing or failing. I used to believe that I must be the best at everything, regardless of my actual skills, interests, or talents. I wanted to be the distinguished athlete, the brilliant student, the amusing socialite and the compassionate friend at all times, and more importantly, I wanted to be the best in all of those categories simultaneously. The day I realized I couldn’t be perfect at everything was the same day I thought it would be best to drop out of AP Calculus.
This is something that I try to keep in mind in my daily life, that I will never be perfect, those around me will never be perfect, and that it’s perfectly okay to never be perfect. However, even though most can agree that the notion of perfection is unobtainable, that doesn’t stop us from setting our goals there. Heather Lende talks about this idea and about “shedding” the idea of perfection (19). Instead, we need to focus on what’s pretty good in our lives, whether it be our family, the hobbies that we enjoy, or the friends that we make throughout our
OVERCOMING PERFECTIONISM “Perfection is annihilation. It paralyses us from working from the heart. Humans by nature are not perfect and imperfections are what makes the world beautiful.” Mistakes Are Normal One of the very first things you must reflect on is to accept the fact that mistakes are meant to be made.
All individuals are not born perfect. Every individual has their flaws that has a positive or negative impact to those around them and the society. All individuals have flaws that can or cannot hide from the rest of the world. Scholars of psychology argue that obsessions cause individuals to achieve perfection and can have a positive or negative aspect to an individuals’ life. Perfection is the conditions, state, or quality of being free as possible from all flaws or defects.
The pressure to be ‘perfect’ is strong, however very difficult to attain. However, most people, if not all, do strive to be successful in meeting these qualities of perfection, whether
“Oh, the difference between nearly right and exactly right. ”(H. Jackson Brown, Jr.) What this quote is saying is that perfectionists do struggle with making sure that everything is exactly right. They always focus on the tiniest of details. In the story Pancakes by Joan Bauer, Jill, a waitress at a pancake house, works on the busiest day of the week and gets overwhelmed with all the work she has to do.
They will perfect themselves and what they do until this all manifests. So when you see characters in movies or books you also see that they indeed do it too. In the book The Wednesday Wars you see this is the main character’s family, especially the father. The main character Holling strives to become better, but his father will do almost anything until he gets it right. That’s understandable until
They are essentially aiming at the younger generation. However, the real problem we are facing is the way the media is portraying and defining what the “perfect” body image is. It goes as far as to having television shows such as “Toddlers and Tiaras” in which little girls are competing with each other to see who has the prettiest hair, who are most photogenic, and to see who
In “Want To Get Into College? Learn to fail” (2012), Angel B. Pérez ,Vice President and Dean of Admission and Financial Aid at Pitzer College, argues that students are not okay with failing and are pressured to only show their success, Perez believes that this problem exist because teachers and parents taught them to only show their success and not to show their flaws. Perez supports his argument with his own personal experience .Perez supports his argument with “I wish I could tell you this is an uncommon story, but kids all over the world admit they are under tremendous pressure to be perfect,” (pg. 1 )
What social media is doing to teens Social media is a very dangerous place that makes teens feel insecure. Teens spend more than one-third of their day on social media looking at stereotypical images of “perfect” bodies and people. As a result, they become insecure about themselves because they are not like the people in the pictures. The media states that a perfect person is skinny, tan, has shiny hair, straight teeth, and completely clear skin. However, because teens are going through a lot of physical changes they do not usually look like social media 's definition of perfect and they become insecure.
Many people begin to develop issues concerning their body and image. Teenagers, especially, feel the need to conform to society's view of the perfect body. They feel the need to have flawless skin, to be thin, to be tall, and to be perfect. They don't understand
Teenagers have become much more focused on what he or she looks like. This is because, they are searching their identity, and trying to be someone that the media expects them to be. With social media, comes the stereotypical version of what a man or woman should be like. For example, women are expected to dress sexy, and have the perfect barbie doll body. Whereas men, are expected to be muscular and tall.