The Importance Of Positive Change In Society

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“I am angry. Gender as it functions today is a grave injustice.” Said the Nigerian writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie during her Ted talk in 2013. She states that anger is important because it has a history of bringing positive change. She then said that even though she is angry she still has hope because she believes that people have the to ability to remake themselves for the better (Adichie 2013:online). Positive change is exactly what our society needs. People should remake themselves into kind, open-minded and accepting beings that does not… Adichie’s quote might make you wonder how is gender an injustice? How does it function? And why should this change? This essay will address this.

First we should look at what the term ‘gender’ entails.
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These ideologies of gender are forced onto us from the moment we come from our mother’s womb; we are wrapped in a blanket that collarets with our sex. Boys are told to play with cars and girls should play with dolls. Adichie argues that the way boys are raised is unfair; “We define masculinity in a very narrow way. Masculinity becomes this hard small cage and we put boys inside the cage.” (Adichie 2014: 26). Boys are taught to be strong to never show fear, be weak or vulnerable and to prove their masculinity in contrast to women. This is not fair, men have the right to express these emotions just as women do. One should not be forced into living out a prescribed gender identity; it should be the individual’s choice. Gender is a performance…show more content…
Adichie states that gender expectations, which obligate men to be ‘hard men’, frequently leave men with “very fragile egos” (Adichie 2014: bl). If a man cannot afford to pay for the women’s meal, he is left feeling embarrassed and incompetent. If a man is sensitive, dependent or not physically strong he is left feeling like less of a man. Adichie mentions how, in this case, women are taught to care for and serve these men with their fragile ego’s (Adichie 2014: bl). Women are taught to strive for marriage, to be a good wife, a good mother a ‘homemaker’, while men are expected to be successful and provide for his family. But why can’t women have successful careers? Why can’t she provide? Because, women are told not to flaunt their success in front of the man or admit that she is the breadwinner, because this might ‘emasculate’ the man. Why can’t men be caring ‘house makers’? This is a viscous cycle. A woman’s success should not threaten a man and all the financial responsibility should not be laid upon the man. There should be equality; women and men should have the ability to live out both roles. Both sexes should have the equal right to choose to preform the gender identity of their choice; this will prevent disappointment and the feeling of failure to meet
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