The parenting paradigm style most exemplified by the Walls family in The Glass Castle a memoir by Jeannette Walls is permissive. Permissive parents are often justified as merely disciplining their children (Cherry, “The Four Styles of Parenting”). Jeannette states that “Dad squatted in front of us” and asked, “so what happened here” to his children who got into an altercation with one of the neighborhood kids (89). Rex Walls demonstrates his inability to rightfully discipline his children for a crime that they committed, by simply just brushing it off and agreeing to skedaddle, or run away from the incident, once again. Permissive parents are also described as being more responsive than they are demanding (Cherry).
Walls Parenting Style In the memoir The Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls, the Walls parent use permissive parenting style, they have little rules, being more nurturing and communicative, and strive to be their friends. The Walls parents have few demands of their children. Rex and Rosemary Walls only expect their children to stand up to fear and for themselves. The Walls parents don’t have and set rules for their children and only expect small things out of them.
This action of leniency in the discipline of the children, followed by the death of the parents, shows that the author thinks that parents need to be strict and stick with it, or there will be consequences that follow. “... he would reach back with his non-controlling hand and swat at her affectionately, and yesterday they’d shared a good laugh when he’d accidentally knocked off her glasses. (Saunders). This action retold by the mother shows that “well loved” kids, may actually be spoiled kids. The mother had an unrealistic ideology of how kids should be raised because her childhood was so dark, so she could not see that her kids were being rude to her.
I have also learned an important lesson. We never get the opportunity back for each time the parent pushes the child away. I should try my best to acknowledge the child’s feelings and meet the child’s interests, needs and wishes at any time. 6. Experiential Activity: (game, activity, hands-on, role-playing) Topics/Titles: Giant: Explore authoritarian parenting style
In the book The Glass Castle Jeannette Walls, the narrator displays her parent's parenting skills as authoritative. According to Cherry, Kendra. “Psychology: What They Are and Why They Matter.” The Four Styles of Parenting. she defines authoritative parents as being “... more nurturing and forgiving rather than punishment”.
For example, consistently throughout the film and story, the children control their parents through the nursery and tell them when they will be coming home, where they are, and what they are doing. “At dinner they ate alone, for Wendy and Peter were at a special plastic carnival across town and had televised home to say they'd be late.” The children, Wendy and Peter, are constantly thinking about and threatening their parents through the veldt and the actions of the lions. In the end, we see this sense of control, become domination as the kids take out their parents. In addition, in the film and story, from the beginning Lydia suggests that there is an issue and throughout the story is the driving factor of the therapist, the vacation idea, and the shutdown of the nursery.
The permissive parenting style best exemplifies Rex and Rosemary Walls’ parenting because they rarely discipline their children, they act more like their kids friends than their parents, and they do not believe in their children’s success. Rex and Rosemary didn’t concern themselves when punishing their children for doing bad things. “It was self -defense, I piped. Dad had always said that self- defense was a justifiable reason for shooting someone” (89). Most parents would have punished their children for shooting someone, so parents who wouldn’t are considered permissive parents.
In the book The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls, the parenting style that best fits the parents is permissive, they show every characteristic of a permissive parent. They “rarely discipline” Jeannette when she burns herself cooking hotdogs (Cherry, “The Four Styles of Parenting”). “I was on fire. It’s my earliest memory.
Also, her permissive behavior is seen when she finds the pictures Julie and Todd took while being intimate, and although she was in a state of shock, no punishment was made and Julie was off the hook yet again. Throughout Parenthood, different approaches are made to parenting and each parent seemed to be worried that their method was not doing their kids well. I believe that the democratic styling is the best method to teaching children proper ways of functioning when they get older. With this method, the child will eventually learn how to be respectful and understand boundaries that will help
In the film the Incredibles is story about super-heroes Frozone, Mr. Incredible and Elastigirl we learn this in the prologue. Mr. Incredible who is vigilante hero, and when they make a couple of mistakes they sue after helping people who didn't ask for help the government has to pay the fines. The disgruntled superheroes had two choices, either live as a super-hero or go into hiding many choose to go into hiding. So, in act 1 Mr. Incredible AKA Bob Parr gets married and we see him fifteen years later living a regular life where he works for an Insurance claims company he hates his job. Bob helps all his clients and shows them how to get their claims filed and processed and writes a lot of checks for the processed claims.
Figure 1 Macoby and Martin’s simplification of parenting styles as seen in Bee’s The Growing Child (Source: Adapted from Macoby & Martin, 1983, Fifure 2, p.39.). Parents only want what’s good for their children and for them to grow intro great adults, for their children to be independent and to be able to undergo hardships. There are quite a few advantages of being over protective parents. Because over protecting parents control their children’s decisions and day to day activities, they are able to monitor their children and ensure their safety (Overprotective Parents, n.d.).
Permissive parents usually support their children to become sucessful in their life by being nurturing and kind. Children of lenient parents are normally really creative. It comes down to the fact that they are not bound by rules or procedures and are free to try new things. (Home: Raise smart kid article) Their creativity gives them the ability to come up with their own unique initiatives that can be surprisingly helpful.