MAGGAY, NERISSA 4JRN2 Birth Order: The Relationship Expert Are you an uptight person or a risk taker? A perfectionist and a planner? Or you just feel alone and alienated most of the time? In whatever birth order we fell in, it will always play a big role in developing our personality and how we handle relationships. According to William Cane author of the ‘The Birth Order Book of Love’, our personality is directly related to how we interact with other people.
It is also how I deal with it in effective, nobler, greater and grander way. It occurs to me that we as people evolve through cultural mindset. And no society and people have evolved without borrowing from other cultures, learning from other people’s experiences and being part of them in some way or another. What has elevated the spirit of some and broken down that of others should be the core of our evolution or demise. And learning from other cultures is the makeup of my hybrid culture.
Kira Salak once said “ If a journey doesn't have something to teach you about yourself then what kind of journey is that.” Expeditions place one in very uncanny situations to test their capabilities. While being put through their ordeals they improve their competence in the areas of that require refinement. These changes help them with their ability to accomplish their initial goal that caused them to expedite and give a deeper insight into themselves. A journey has many reasons to take place but the longing for home and the conquest for the truth about oneself spearhead such expeditions,often improving the rational, physical and metaphysical makeup of a person to be more synchronized and poised, as seen in Kira Salak the author and protagonist in the “The Cruelest Journey” and in the epic poem The Odyssey by Homer. Odysseus was one to be driven purely by his urge to return home through his long voyage where his rational and physical abilities were sharpened.
Self-awareness is the conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feeling, motive, and desires. Looking at myself steps that be taken are self-reflection, being able to reflect on my life helps me to understand how I can become a better person each day. In a sense being better than the person I was yesterday is an understatement, but it leads back to reflecting over life and choices that we make. Being able to take control our emotions is a key fact for increasing awareness. Taking me, for instance, what I have noticed is that I tend to let my emotions get in the way of my everyday life.
The Relationship Between Birth Order and Personality Background Birth order is basically the order of birth of a person into their family which has an important role in the individual’s personality development (Stewart, 2001). Whereas the definition of personality is the characteristic, and the patterns of behavior response of different individuals that evolves, consciously and unconsciously throughout his or her life (Mcleod, 2014). First-born, second-born and late-born children will have different experience as they will be treated differently and these experience will affect their personality (Adler, as cited in Wong et al.,2016). Firstly, First-born children are more likely to be reliable as they are known as the leaders among their siblings, they are the ones that will take care of their siblings when their parents are not around (Voo, 2017). They are taught to be conscientious and also cautious when it comes to
Galton, Rogers, and Rowe answered the question by stating, “Everyone has birth order, and it is easy to observe and talk about… characteristics, quality of schooling, quality of parental support are more subtle, less obvious, and more difficult to discuss” (Eckstein and Kaufman 61). Furthermore, personality theorists agree that childhood experience does influence adult life (Eckstein and Kaufman 62). Separately, Galton created a study to observe the effects of birth order hoping to find the key to perfecting the human
While I was growing up, both my mother’s and father’s parenting style was a combination of permissive and authoritative. I believe them being a mix of both influenced me in both positive and negative ways because no type is perfect. Although I am not a parent yet, I hope I am the same way my parents were with me. Based on what I know, I would explain to new parents that being too strict on your children can do more harm than good and it is a good idea to let your child express themselves. To begin, while I was growing up, my parents were a combination of permissive and authoritative with me and my three older siblings.
The debate over nature vs. nurture is widely known, and many psychologists are trying to understand whether our personality is derived from our genes and DNA or our everyday lives. (McLeod, Saul A). But does this phenomenon also affect our viewpoints on important societal issues? An ongoing issue in our society is the concept of a “perfect body”, but what really fits into the term perfect, how may this idea affect individuals, and most importantly where does this idea come from nature or nurture? Keeping in mind all the influences a person has while growing up, it is safe to say that nurture is the reason why the theory of a perfect body is now integrated into the society.
When reading about Bowenian Family Theory, it was different in the sense of what I was used to reading about psychodynamics or behavioral theories. Being able to see members of a family or a person as being the main focus and having universal traits in them rather than being born or developing a specific illness is an interesting perspective because it establishes that anyone can be predisposed to it but those that do have that disorder have it because they have elevated levels of that specific trait. The idea of a family or couple being part of an emotional triangle was also an enlightening because when reading about it, I felt that it did hold true especially with members of a family experiencing anxiety or stress. This concept was appealing because it laid out a framework to describe who the people involved in the conflict are and what is causing the differentiation among them. The third aspect of that was most appealing was the focus on anxiety reduction among patients.
Human instincts are behaviors that are genetically wired into us that help us react to our environment, but most of the time they are more hurtful than useful. For example, one of them is to follow and be influenced by our surroundings. Since birth we adjust to what family setting we may have and conform to what we see on the outside. At some point this human instinct becomes hurtful to us as conforming makes us act and think like everyone else. So how is it that conformity affects individuality in our society?
After reading the articles for this week, I could not help to come to a conclusion on how important identity is for the youth of America as well as the youth around the world and what it truly represents. There is power in understanding “who you are” and “what makes you “special” as an individual? Qualities of our individual identities make themselves present when we stimulate and practice the natural gifts we have come to inherit from birth. Whether it is physicality, intelligence, creativeness, or perseverance, we all have unique qualities that make us special. It is because we have the need to feel special about our identities that many educators our testing the intersections of identity and individuality within schools.
Never the less, Head Start is complex and consist of different components. The article should have explained how it helps families and emphasize personal experiences of families with success stories. This program has helped countless children and their families and their experiences will be my motivation to provide Head Start with the reputation it deserves. It is no simple task working with children and parents with high needs, nonetheless, I imagine without our support, these children would have less of a chance of becoming motivated students and life skills. I feel enthusiastic in researching and providing a detailed paper to promote the effectiveness of Head Start and the continued need of the