Derek also provides an example of Hypothesis 2: Post decision dissonance creates a need for reassurance. Festinger defines post decision dissonance as “ strong doubts experienced after making an important decision” (Griffin, et al). Derek experiences strong post decision dissonance after leaving the Aryan Brotherhood. When he leaves one of the members tells him that he will be punished. This causes dissonance within Derek, he wonders if he made the right decision, and he feels regret almost.
Throughout the story, Georgie learns more about being forgiving and learns that it is good to forgive. At first, Georgie had a hard time forgiving and would always hold grudges. The reason for this is because since he has been abused all his life, it affects his character and his personality. That is why he wouldn’t forgive Mrs.Harper.
The narrator of “The Seventh Man” should forgive himself because the blame he puts on himself, is not logical, because he couldn’t have done anything to save his best friend, K. In the short story, “The Seventh Man” the narrator describes the guilt and burden he carries throughout his life and how he lives a difficult life full of sorrow. The guilt he feels is called “survivor guilt”. The thought that someone could of done or should of done differently is considered “survivor guilt”. The blame that the narrator feels is very irrational.
In the book “The Things a Brother Knows” by Dana Reinhardt there are many characters that all possess different traits. Often, these traits can have negative effects on the characters, causing their downfall. In this particular story, Boaz possess the trait of selfishness that is shown throughout the story. In the story, Boaz puts his own interests in front of those of his family, friends, and peers. Often, causing problems for those who care about him and eventually causing his own downfall.
In Khaled Hosseini’s the Kite Runner, Amir initially tried to hide from the responsibility of Hassan’s rape, but when he takes responsibility and finds Sohrab, he finds forgiveness within himself. When Hassan was raped during Amir’s childhood, he takes the blame on himself, but instead of seeking forgiveness from Hassan he hides from his problems. This is clearly seen when he hides the money and watch under Hassan’s pillow, and starts him on a long road of regret and guilt,which is further worsened by Hassan taking the blame for his actions. “I loved him in that moment… I wasn't worthy of this sacrifice; I was a liar, a cheat, and a thief...except that part of me was glad...that this would all be over soon” (105).
The shame of not standing up for Hassan turns Amir into a cowardly liar. As a result of everything that took place, Amir frames Hassan to get him to leave, despite their previous friendship. Therefore, the shame caused by Amir’s lack of courage caused him to develop cruel methods of solving his “problem”. Also, shame has the ability to put unnecessary tension and strain, even when one of the contributors has died.
Amir remembers the precise moment when the rape occurred tried to escape the guilt for years. What called him back was his past of unatoned sins. Hosseini writes, “That was a long time ago, but it’s wrong what they say about the past, I’ve learned about how you can bury it. Because the past claws its way out. Looking back now, I realize I have been peeking into that deserted alley for the last twenty-six years.”
The repercussions of Krogstad 's values and actions not only had an effect on his own life, but the lives of those who surrounded him; particularly Nora. His treatment of Nora was morally wrong and was the start of great change in her life. During their first meeting, Nora was terrified of Krogstad and the turmoil that he could potentially bring into her life. With the blackmail attempt, Krogstad had Nora cornered between two equally difficult situations. Either she could convince her husband Torvald to let Krogstad keep his job, which was a nearly impossible feat, or she could let Torvald learn the truth.
Furthermore, a greater portion of Amir’s search for redemption is derived from his guilt with Hassan. Amir lives with the guilt knowing that he betrayed Hassan and therefore his guilt is the underlying drive in the rest of his actions. For example, Amir’s journey back to Kabul, to rescue Sohrab, and his confrontation with Assef. The author expresses redemption in Amir’s actions when he reaches adult hood by proving he has the courage to stand up for what is right. Throughout the novel, Amir evolved as a character.
The following are four events which made me question my existence and meaning: A brutal father, a son filling his shoes, two loves walking away, and my personal narrative. This paper is written around the trait of losing trust, but in reality I’m telling the events which made me hate myself, and men, the most. I should have told someone about these things, but who do you tell when you can’t even trust family, and you have a new fear of masculinity? I’m not here to play the victim of a tragedy, or to make people feel sorry for me. These are my mistakes; I should have handled every event differently than I did.
Individuals will have to confront their own personal problems which would lead them to feeling guilt. People feel really guilty throughout their lives that this would lead them to redeeming themselves. Basically, they would have to accomplish something to make up for their guilt. The book The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini focuses on the concept of guilt. One of the main characters, Amir has to deal with his own guilt that he’s developed in his life due to an incident from his past.
Emerging Themes Khaled Hosseini’s development of the character Amir, in the novel The Kite Runner, uncovers two emerging themes. Amir’s struggle with the death of Hassan goes over his guilt, and how guilt can cloud a person's judgement. Rahim Khan’s words effect Amir in a major way as well. When Rahim asks Amir to retrieve Hassan’s son he has a shot at redemption for what he has done hinting that in life it is never too late to make the right decision.
Shame means that you feel remorse for something weather it is your actions or the actions of another. But having shame about a certain action or event doesn't necessarily mean that you have to regret or even take back what happened because there may be justifications and sometimes you can’t justify how you feel or why you feel that way. That being said shame is both the greatest motivator and the greatest deterrent, a lot of people build their lives around forces like shame. Amir is a character that is very concerned with what people think about him which leads him to publicly detaches himself from Hassan.