The Major Elements Of Self-Awareness And Emotions

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A. Self-awareness. The ability to recognize an emotion as it “happens” is the key to your EQ. Developing self-awareness requires tuning in to your true feelings. If you evaluate your emotions, you can manage them. In Goleman’s competencies, self-awareness is the building block of all the others. Without recognizing what you are feeling, you cannot proceed to the other competencies. The major elements of self-awareness are:
a. Emotional awareness. Your ability to recognize your own emotions and their effects. When we are not aware of our feelings and the causes of them, leading a happy, productive life is difficult if not impossible. Sure, there may be outward signs of success, such as money, prestige, or career success. But to be truly happy, we must be able to determine what makes us feel good. At the same time, we must be able to determine when something makes us feel bad. Then we must use this knowledge to inform our actions.
We cannot truly be happy and productive until we are aware of our feelings and what causes them.

This sounds deceptively simple, but it is surprising how few people are actually able to determine exactly what they are feeling when they feel it. Being fully aware of our feelings requires not just acknowledging them, but identifying them and, eventually, accepting the message that they are trying to tell us.

Unfortunately, our society is not geared around feeling our emotions, but instead tends to result in most of us attempting to ignore them.
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