It helped me gain better understanding on the pro and cons of consequences of divorce in children. I will use this source to contrast my idea on how divorce affects children and adolescent. Chase-Lansdale, P. L., & Hetherington, E. M. (1990). The impact of divorce on life-span development: Short and long term effects. Life-span development and behavior, 10, 105-150.
("10 Side Effects Of Divorce On Children"). "They slip into a state of shock seeing their parents separate forever." ("10 Side Effects Of Divorce On Children"). They become depressed because their parents are always fighting and quarrelling. They can do nothing to help their parents solve their problems.
In addition, young adult. Children of divorce parents’ can have some lasting divorce issues to deal with in the process of forming later love relationships of their own. (psychologytoday.com, accessed 2017) The impact of divorce does not only arise during childhood or adolescence, there is a big challenged when they began to form their own romantic relationships. Lasting effects of parental divorce can complicate significant love in adult hood. Some young adult are reluctant to commit because they have seen parents’ marriage vow broken and they don’t want to go through such experience in life.
However, beings that I have seen both what a marriage should and should not look like, I think I will be more inclined to have a strong, healthy, long lasting marriage. In conclusion, my parents’ divorce impacted me greatly, and not necessarily in a bad way. After the divorce, I managed to maintain a good relationship with my parents and their new partners, even through the birth of two new siblings. Contrary to many studies, I did not become depressed and was able to maintain good grades in school. Finally, my parent’s divorce did not deteriorate my view on marriage, but showed me the difference between a marriage that is healthy, and a marriage that is not.
Divorce itself has many hardships on the parents as well as the child, but custody potentially creates even greater problems. Child custody can have a positive and a negative outcome on children. Most people lean more towards the idea that child custody has a negative impact because of what caused it in the first place, divorce. When parents can not come to the point where they can agree on where the child should live and other important decisions in the child’s life, guidance is required. This happens in mediation and or going to court.
Couples can manage to balance out the responsibilities and regulations to children. There is always that one tougher parent than the other, making such balance in the family unit is key to a steady household. In addition, after divorce children’s principles and perspectives towards marriage differ and become meaningless that destroy the importance of a family bond. Some people claim that divorce has a positive side, but there are many reasons why divorce destroys family life. In fact, divorce lacks the factors of stability, consistence, and passion.
Chapter 4 How Divorce Effects the Child, Family In this book, our purpose is to make the world a most habitable place for the children- the future leaders of this world. We must be able to temper heated emotion with a not so heated temper. We must be able to walk away from volatile situations to prevent crisis. Divorce on children is absolutely dreadful. It affects their moods, personality and has potential to be a detriment to their lives especially when growing up.
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“Among effects of divorce on children are negative emotions like bitterness, stress, emotional pain, anxiety, fear, feeling betrayed and loss of self-esteem.” It is normal for a child to feel these different emotions because of the impact of his/her parents separation. Another article Children’s responses to separation and parental conflict. “High conflict typically includes significant levels of anger and distrust.” Child’s response depends on how big the impact of the situation to him/her. Like on the statements and researches that other authors and articles said parent separation leads to a roller coaster of emotions to children, they can’t even trust themselves because of the lack of parental motivation in their early stage of growing. The number of affected teens is more likely higher than those who took the separation positively cases in other places such as early pregnancy and so on are highly mainstream and increasing.
Besides what the women and the couple goes through during the dissolution of marriage, most studied all so report a major impact on children and parent child relationships. These relationships are predictive of immediate as well as long term psychological as well as behavioral adjustment of children (Amato, 1993). Study by Cooney found that children’s feelings about a specific parent were strongly correlated with the contact the child had with that parent, this suggest that family relationships might become more of a voluntary choice after divorce. Therefore, the time as and the quality of the relationship as well as the frequency of the contact the child had with a given parent is by choice, there for the relationship that the child had with the parent is also by choice. A meta-analysis that studied 92 studies, compared children who were living with a single parent who was against