While reading the story, you can tell in the narrators’ tone that she feels rejected and excluded. She is not happy and I’m sure, just like her family, she wonders “why her?” She is rejected and never accepted for who she really is. She is different. She’s not like anyone else and she knows that. She had “yellow eyes, pink teeth, red fingernails, and dark hair on her arms and chest” (225).
In the text, it says,” I can feel myself shrinking right there in front of her. But I can’t bring myself to tell my mother that I think I understand how I made Abuela feel. I might be sent into the old lady’s room to apologize, and it’s not easy to admit you’ve been a jerk—at least, not right away with everybody watching. So I just sit there not saying anything” (Cofer 19). Although, she does feel resentful for what she did, she cannot get herself to apologize.
Restricted in movement and stripped of her opinion by her husband, the narrator forms an obsession with the obscure background pattern that “skulks behind that silly and conspicuous front design” (80) on the wallpaper. As the dim shapes become more distinct, she ultimately deciphers the true figure to be a woman. This is a metaphor for the realization of her mental and physical entrapment as she proceeds into a state of insanity. The intensive need for helping the woman escape reflects the need for her own liberation. As the woman quickly flees upon her release, the narrator refuses to follow as she is so unaccustomed to the “green instead of yellow” (89).
She decided to start listening to her body and to work with it instead of against it. She states that, “Now I stretch and I consciously feel how far I can go. Its a matter of consciousness. But I needed the injury before I could do that” (Aarten, 2005). Sometimes, the body makes its presence
Listening skills in my view is an art and creative discipline of the counselors’ therapeutic relationship. James and Gilliland (2013) points out that, listening skills is an essential characteristics of the counsel which should be used to encourage the client that you are listening. In watching the video with Drs. Drs. Christine Wallace and Kristin Wilkinson on occasion the counselor was not demonstrating active listening skills as she paraphrase statements that the clients made wrongly.
How she relayed the message to the readers were very smart in the fact that she was unbiased. This was an article that anyone could read and it wasn’t just pointed to a particular group of people. Her personal experiences throughout the story made us sympathize for her, which is another great tactic that she used. Her tone throughout the story are both defensive and sympathetic which, again, pull you into the story even further. Ultimately, I do think that the message that Balsamo was trying to make came across to the readers.
‘I hate you,’ she mouths silently,” (5) it is noticeable that Melinda lacks many of the five basic needs, but the one that she lacks the most is love. All throughout the novel, Melinda is isolated and treated as if she is no one. This makes her realize how lonely and weak she truly is. Laurie Halse Anderson states, “And I don’t have anyone to sit with. I am Outcast” (4).
I hate to say that it took her sharing vulnerabilities to make me comfortable with sharing mine, but that is how it ended up happening. This dialectic has shattered all of my previous standards of what human interaction is “supposed” to look like. This has allowed me to let go of detrimental expectations and spread more love. Going through this journey has shown me what is really important in life, following your heart and loving people. During the dialectic, I was able to apply concepts that I had previously learned and validate them through her thoughts and experiences.
Louise Mallarad is a very selfish, self-centered person. She only thinks about herself. Every person that is taking care of her at her need are caring for her while she is only thinking of herself. Louise’s husband was said to be dead and with the sad news being given, “She did not hear the story as many women have heard the same, with a paralyzed inability to accept its significance” (Chopin 516). People are bearing with Louise to help her and she decides to go into a room alone.
Smitty let go of his fear and let everyone know he was not weird different strange or an alien like they made him look he was just a boy with a closed life and, Ginny had changed that . There was problem between Ginny and Smitty she wanted Smitty to understand that everyone has a hard life but you could not just let it be like that. Ginny wanted him to do something about it . She wanted to know why he treated her like he could not hear her or wanted to talk to her or at all talk Ginny had been mad to see what he would do to her and himself. Ginny did not see why Smitty would want to stay out in the quiet when there was a party and she wanted to go back in and she was mad, she did not know why she was babysitting Smitty .Ginny had said to Smitty that she did not have time to be babysitting him and that he should have been having fun, but then she saw him get scared of her screaming and telling him to look at her.