The readings this week were titled, friends and enemies. Upon first reading this headline for the week I was already intrigued as I had never read any studies that discuss enemy relationships. The topics covered in this week’s readings discussed how friendships affect social skills. In addition similarly to last week gender differences were discussed, specifically in regards to how boys and girls react to problem talk. The most interesting topic to read was in regards to how people may need enemies. I have always been under the impression that rivalries were healthy, but I thought holding hate towards another would be considered unhealthy. However, when the article framed it in as a mutual "hatred" it started to make more sense.
In the article written by Glick and Rose (2011) they examined friendships effect on the development of social skills. In addition, they examined whether having friends and friendship quality predicted changes in social strategies over time. This study also explored gender differences; they expected that girls would be more likely to incorporate helping or supportive
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The article discussed some of the pros and cons of having an enemy. I will first say I think the concept of studying about how enemy relationships work is quite interesting. However, I don’t know if I agree with some of the methods used to study enemy relationships. For example with the Scenario question “You are stranded on a desert island. Which three of your classmates would you hate to get stuck with on the island?” I feel like if this were asked to a group or class, this question could potentially foster bullying. The author mentions that rejected children often have higher levels of antipathies; I think that researchers should keep this in mind when collecting data. It is important to learn about this topic but we must ensure that it's not hurting participants in ways we might not
In the fictional novel A Separate Peace by John Knowels, the reoccurring message sent to the reader is the relationship of conflict and resolution. He uses the characters in his novel to take his message even further by giving example of how rivalry has its consequences, don’t incriminate someone when it will only cause destruction between both parties and to be honest with the truth so it doesn’t come back and hurt you. In A Separate Peace Knowles continuously shows rivalry as always having a consequence good or bad. In the novel Phineas, Gene’s best friend, is seen to the reader as a star athlete in, what seems to be, every sport he tries.
To start, friendship is one of the main keys in life. Therefore, friendship can overpower anything. This is showed in Freak the Mighty in chapter 6, page 15, when Freak is on Max’s shoulders and they are being chased by Blade and his gang, and they end up in the lake but there is so much mud on the bottom that Max’s feet get stuck and he can't move. Then the gang is throwing rocks at them.
A number of celebrities are addressing this subject, for the desire to educate others that there 's a more advanced level of dealing with individuals whom been cruel to you. The individuals whom become your enemies can unquestionably be reconciled with kindness. Authors even wrote on this matter. One of my beloved children book shares this subject; “Enemy Pie” by Derek Munson is when Jeremy Ross attempts to become free of enemies, his father comes to the rescue. The
The main focus throughout the duration of the book is bullying; tone, symbolization, and modern connections help provide the understanding that bullying is a never- ending issue. The villains and the hero of the world both have the right to exist, they both have a purpose and what we learn from them helps everyone
Belief in success In the book Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, he highlights key reasons on how to find success. Gladwell features Annette Lareau and her study about parenting styles affecting the success of a child. During the 1990’s, Lareau and a team of grad students studied around 88 families from diverse settings. Black, white, middle class, working class, and the poor.
Beliefs The Importance of Being Hated by Chuck Klosterman mainly focuses on the importance of having. Klosterman says that there are two types of enemies 1) “nemesis: you kind of like your nemesis, despite the fact that you despise him and 2) archenemy: you hate the archenemy so much that you try to keep your hatred a secret, for you don’t what to give your archenemy the satisfaction of being hated” (Klosterman par 2). Klosterman states that “we measure ourselves against our nemesis, and we long to destroy our archenemies” (Klosterman par 1). He also points out that people who don’t have enemies and surround themselves with allies are losers and failures in life because “they don’t realize that life is--almost without exception--an absolute
Isabella Perez English 1 Honors Ms. Augustyn 4 December 2015 Competition in A Separate Peace Competition, specifically friendly competition, is one of the most natural factors in human relationships. While it can be used for pure fun, competition also inadvertently creates a healthy hierarchy between friends. Normally, the base of friendship itself is able to keep the competition from becoming overwhelming. However, John Knowles’ A Separate Peace suggests that self-doubt can cause the peace between competition and friendship to go awry and nearly ruin the most peaceful of relationships through Finny and Gene. Finny and Gene are introduced as two competitive, yet equal, best friends right away.
One major theme authors universally write their stories around concern the power of human relationships. Though writers may take different paths to communicate this, the strength that comes from these unique connections that exist between individuals resonates with everyone. Authors clearly articulate through a myriad of rhetorical devices that maintaining relationships is a fundamental part in personal growth and allows for a stronger sense of self. In finding companionship and comradery. people become capable of evolving and arriving at better understandings of who they are.
Do you now dislike someone who was your friend before? Or do you have a friend whom you disliked before? Every type of relationship changes. The article “My enemy, My friend” mainly talked about Zelco’s changing relationship with Zoltan Dani who shot him down during the Bosnian-Serbian conflict. In other words, it illustrated how an enemy becomes a friend in the end.
A friendship that is built on the foundation of jealousy, envy and competition is a toxic, corrupted relationship. Some people find motivation behind jealousy. It can be healthy and suitable to a certain extent; however, if one trespasses its borders the outcome will be chaotic. The same idea applies to competitiveness. It is awfully dangerous for people to live their lives constantly consumed by rotten emotions, because they only end up hurting and poisoning their relationships with others, and also harming themselves.
Cut-off date 27 February. Part1: Essay. ‘Evaluate the contribution of a qualitative approach to research on friendship’. Part2: DE100 project report – Method.
In another experiment, it showed that females were more helpful. There have been observations that a person (either female or male) is more comfortable assisting a female than a male. Some people believe that women are kinder, comfortable, and helpful which is the reason why they tend to be assisted more than
Furthermore, it is possible that in mixed-gender families, the higher chances of comparisons between the two parents’ behaviours would reinforce specific ideas about gender roles than it would in families where parents are of the same gender (Endendijk et al., 2013). For example, it is often assumed in mixed-gender households that males are breadwinners of the family while females are caretakers, whereas in same-gender households, parents tend to be more open-minded about gender roles and do not necessarily subscribe to existing stereotypes (Sutfin, Fulcher, Bowles, & Patterson, 2008). Division of roles in terms of gender
Another point - instead of resting (as is recommended in a heart attack situation), we should physically move around, and actually do something which will use up our energy and the adrenaline created by the fight-or-flight reaction. We can focus on the concrete objects in our immediate environment to ensure that we stay in the present i.e. now and here! Other simple actions, like unwrapping & chewing a bubble-gum, counting backwards from 100 to 1, counting the number of people in the gathering etc., are excellent techniques to cope with the sudden attack. Engaging in something pleasurable, also helps us offset our anxiety and panic attack, since pleasure, anxiety and anger cannot be experienced at the same time. These are incompatible to each other.
Hook: (scenario)INTRO Imagine this: you are feeling down because you have an issue with your family and you need someone to talk to but there is nobody. The problem will get worse and worse, generating more sadness and self-hate towards your self. This is the scenario of a person who does not have a true friend to talk with. Friendship has a big impact on the well-being of a teenager life.