The Pros And Cons Of Forgiveness

Glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall. Trial and error are usually the prime means of solving life’s problems. Yet many people are afraid to undertake the trial because they’re too afraid of experiencing the error. Too many today have cultures of perfection: a set of beliefs that any failure is unacceptable. Only pure, untainted success will do. There is constant covering up of the smallest blemishes. The wild finger-pointing as everyone tries to shift the blame for the inevitable cock-ups and messes onto someone else. The rapid turnover as people rise high, then fall abruptly from grace. Every strength can become a weakness ,Every talent a handicap. Successful people like to win and achieve high standards. This

Forgiveness does not come easy for most of us. Our natural instinct is to recoil in self-protection when we 've been injured. Is it not true that when we ask people to forgive we ask them to suffer twice: the initial hurt, and then again as they wish the one hurting them well at their own expense?

How do we forgive when we don 't feel like it? How do we translate the decision to forgive into a change of heart?

We don 't naturally overflow with mercy, grace and forgiveness when we 've been wronged. Since forgiveness goes against our nature, we must forgive by faith, whether we feel like it or not. We must trust God to do the work in us that needs to be done so that the forgiveness will be complete.

Offenses are common, and the offender usually wants to be forgiven. But the offended is usually reluctant to forgive, particularly if the offender hasn 't learned anything from the ordeal. Indeed, experts say that forgiving those who have wronged us helps lower blood pressure, cholesterol and heart rate. One study found that forgiveness is associated with improved sleep quality, which has a strong effect on