Arranged Marriages Marriage is the union of 2 people, it is the beginning of a lifelong commitment. Choosing a wife or husband may be one of the most important chooses in a persons life, so wouldn't you want to be the one to choose who you're stuck with for the rest of your life? There are many reasons why I am against arranged marriages. 3 reasons for this is that there is no trust, it could be forced, & you don't really know the person. First of all there is no trust in an arranged marriage.
The largest issue within these relationships is competing interests. Parents are unsure how to be faithful to their role as a parent and concurrently view their child as an adult. The balance of the two competing interest is not taught and seldom practiced. In failed attempts at closing the power gap as the child emerges into adulthood, communicative interactive becomes strained because of honorific titles such as ‘mom’ or ‘dad’ being replaced by first names. Relinquishing the controlling component of a parent-child relationship is counter to the biblical principle of honoring a parent.
After marrying the love of your life you would hope for happily ever after. Unfortunately, life isn’t always a fairytale and in America where the divorce rate is 40 to 50 percent, according to the American Psychological Association, many do not understand the reasoning behind matrimony. The average length of a marriage is eight years, and finding a couple who surpasses this time span is rare. That’s not to say that love is dead in America, in fact, when people remarry (whether a new spouse or the same one) the marriage tends to last. In the beginning of “Chelsea Does Marriage,” several couples sit
One can tell by the reaction of Mary’s parents that they respected her opinion on who she wanted to marry however did not fully like the idea of who she was marrying. They wanted to let her decide who she would marry instead of following the puritan way and deciding for her who she would marry. This passage proves that Mary’s parents indeed decided not to follow the religion in this time. This was fairly uncommon in the eighteenth century as most of the times, the women’s parents would decide who they would want their daughter to marry and the daughter was not capable of deciding who she would live with for the rest of her life. Mary’s family did not follow religion when it came to marriage as Mary was able to decide to marry John Noyes as her first husband.
And although Janie conforms, she continues to question inwardly about love. Nanny did not believe in love, so Janie had little guidance in how one can find love. Janie does not realize until the end, that one must “go there tuh know there”(192). In Their Eyes Were Watching God, Hurston shows how society and influences can cause someone to hide himself and conform to the expectations of others. Janie was a strong person inside but conformity hid her from the rest of the world.
Since she would not cooperate with him fully, he would force her to do things that she did not like to do. For example, he made her marry him, which was not something she did willingly, but knew there was no getting out of this arrangement. Another reason Katherine changed is because back in the time period this story took place, it was frowned upon to not get into a marriage. Katherine came to this realization too. In the end of the story, Katherine’s substantial change occurred.
The marriage is never the couples decision. The family makes the decision for them. The couple should be able to make their own choices. In many cases the couple rarely knows each other before their marriage. This could result in the couple being unhappy.
This shows the absurdity that lies in blaming one gender of the equation since it requires male and female to create new life. However, it was very common to engage in premarital sex and when no charges were made, some people married out of wedlock. From then on, women were sought out to only raise children and their capabilities were limited to do housework. Besides physical strength, the main difference between a man and woman’s genetic makeup is the ability for women to be pregnant which doesn’t correlate to one’s intelligence. In early American life, married women were basically subjected to their husbands with no rights to own land, any amount of income they would make, would be given to their husbands.
This also informs of the internal conflict of loved ones such as Krebs mother and even returnee soldiers themselves. The use of the theme of conformity by Hemmingway paints a picture of stark differences that bring out conflicts to the central character Krebs. Readers are also informed by the difficulty of adapting to conflicting social norms such as religion and marriage that most people fit into. Krebs truly knows that he has been traumatized by the war, and even the conformity of family and religion cannot seem to understand that the best way for him to conform is taking no responsibilities and consequences such as those of
Marriage is a compromise; however, Louise becomes unwilling to sacrifice her new-found freedom. Marriage is inherently oppressive. Taking traditional gender roles into account, women submit and sacrifice more of their lives for their husband. In a healthy marriage, or any relationship, one member cannot have full autonomy, or else risk the relationship. Independence and relationships do not mesh