Chapter 6
21st century child and peer pressure- How can parents protect their children against peer pressure, bullying and other related social problems.
Peer pressure puts more strain on family bond than any other issue. Your child will eventually yield to certain decisions made for them by their peers, because they are afraid of not fitting into the group of friendship, or they are afraid that their friends will taunt them and make fun of them for not getting “cool”. Childhood should not be a carefree time, because schools and social lives can trigger stress in the lives of young children. It is important for parents to help their 21st children cope with stress and develop a skill and habit to handle everyday pressure.
Most kids may not initiate conversation with parents when they are facing peer pressure, but parents should try to open the communication line once they notice some changes in their children. Parents should understand what their kids worry more about, because such worries are the earliest symptoms of peer pressure, they include;
- Grades, and tests,
- Changing their bodies and appearances,
- Fitting in with their friends,
- The goals or scoring chances they missed at sporting events,
- The number of people who dislike or like them.
- The bullies they face often, and
- What their teachers tell them.
When a child is overwhelmed by peer pressure, there are certain symptoms they do show, these include;
- Sad and irritable mood with tearful feelings,
- Not
As a young child all you want to do is fit in and have friends. Some children are very affected
And if the kid starts doing what makes them happy the parents in turn may “disown them” because of this fear kids will try their hardest to seem normal to their
Teenagers actions are greatly impacted on the result of peer pressure and who they surround themselves with which can
Most people think that having lots of friends makes a positive impact on their life. However, a lot of people believe conformity has many negative consequences in society. A lot of time kids (anyone under 18) spend a good portion of their time at friends’ houses or playing video games. However, kids always get into drama and then later in their teenage years lose most of their friends. If they weren't spending time with people throughout their childhood, they could have been working.
They are very impressionable at that young age. Their teachers may be the only positive guidance in their life at that time too. Social/Emotional Development Some of the ways I would support the growing of social and emotional development would be to control my own emotions and behavior around them. I would be trying to teach them how to control
Peer pressure influences teenagers by trying to fit in with the rest of the kids that are doing the things that your are not comfortable doing. Laurie Halse Anderson the author of “speak” is saying that peer pressure is not something someone should go through because it causes people to make bad decisions. ` Melinda Sordino was peer pressured by going to the party and getting drunk at the party. (Halse). Anyone can be peer pressured, i was peer pressured, one day i was at a friends house and they pressured me to do ditch class,so i did and now it is my choice to do it or to not do it.
At a young age, parents tend to teach their child right from wrong. They teach you this to become responsible, so when your an adult you do not have to rely on them while making decisions. In George Orwell's Shooting an Elephant, we notice he wanted to do the right thing by not shooting the elephant but gave into peer pressure to fit in. The narrator felt the need he had to shoot the elephant because the people of Burma were frightened and he wanted to be their hero. Peer pressure can lead people to do bad things for what they think are good reasons but are actually not.
An accepting and healthy environment is needed. Many people face peer pressure because they are deemed uncool and are pressured to do uncomfortable things and things that they believe are not right. If everyone accepts everyone around them for their real selves and will not judge them, people will not commit unhealthy acts and develop undesirable bad habits. People need to surround themselves around healthy and positive company that will accept each other and have healthy core values.
As such, children develop a negative attitude to school as a result of depression. They develop a feeling of dissatisfaction and dislike towards teachers. They have strange behaviors in that they develop bizarre ideas to their peers, sudden mood swings and obsessive thoughts. Depressed children have an external locus of control to their actions. They tend to associate their temperament and weird behaviour with actions of other individuals.
Experiencing peer pressure is a way to learn how to overcome pressure and to discover ourselves. We can not become perfect, but we definitely become stronger, more confident and are willing to cope with difficulties. Exposure to peer pressure also gives us an opportunity to think about other people’s outlooks towards life. It is a chance for us to choose the best from what the masses do as well as lead us to make right choices in life. To minimize the bad effects of peer pressure, parential involvement plays a very important part – it promote healthy behaviors and decrease the chance to engage in risky behavior.
PEER PRESSURE Peer pressure, a term that may or may not have affected you when you were a teenager but as a teenager myself, peer pressure has definitely made an impact on my life, be it good and bad. In the age of 10 to 19, teenagers tend to have the most difficult times. Teenagers feel peer pressure everyday in their lives, whether it’s in school or outside. During the teenage period, teens try to find their identity and differentiate from their parents by joining peer groups and sometimes these peer groups may offer bad advices and negative choices to teens.
Bullying in Schools What seems fun and harmless for some students, is painful and degrading to others. Bullying has been a critical issue around schools, but before it was not as dangerous and know as it is now. These do not means bullying was not happening, it means it was not taken into consideration by parents or teachers. They thought it was just peer pressure or a kids game, and sooner or later the kids would be friends again. At one point, bullies think it’s normal to be mean and abusive to other students.
In the low self-control theory, the phenomenon of bullying is similar to many other kinds of social crime and considered bullying as a serious problem in relation to students’ safety in school and a threat to students’ academic achievements (Moon et al., 2008). According to this theory, parenting practices are said to have a significant effect on children’s self-control, which in turn affects deviant and criminal behavior (Moon et al., 2008). According to the differential association theory, bullying behavior is more likely the result of the association of children with delinquent environments. Several studies have examined the relationship between delinquent peer association attitude toward violence and bullying (Moon et al., 2008). In the general strain theory, three types of strain were proposed; strain as the actual or anticipated failure to achieve positively valued goals, strain as the actual or anticipated removal of positively valued stimuli and strain as the actual or anticipated presentation of negatively valued stimuli to individuals.
The numbers of bullied children are increasing as well as the victims, bullying don’t only affect the victims, but the bully’s and every one surrounding them (DecemberStone, n.d.). Bullying can affect the children personality, cases problems in the society, and it also gives a bad idea for the outsiders about our culture. Anyhow, it got to stop. We have to control bullying, and it have to start with those high school young people, even if its parent, teacher,
Usually everyone feels quite guilty with whatever decision he or she goes with. Like for example if you say yes, (and agree to skip school) that day, you would feel guilty and crummy you disappointed your parents, but on the other hand if you say no and make up and excuse you could feel left out because all your friends skipped school and you’re the only one here not having fun. Indirect peer pressure can seem as convincing as direct peer pressure. An example of indirect peer pressure is like when a friend of yours keeps on talking about a game that’s phenomenal, and you go buy the game after hearing what he said, means that you just gave into this type of peer pressure.