The Relationship Between Love And Love

FEELING HURT

When you get angry at someone you care about you often feel hurt.

TO FEEL HURT IS TO FEEL THAT SOMEONE, WHO SHOULD CARE ABOUT YOU AND YOUR FEELINGS, HASN’T BEEN THINKING ABOUT YOU AND YOUR FEELINGS

It is important to understand the relationship between feeling hurt and loving someone. You can only be hurt by people you care about. If a stranger says you are stupid you don't get hurt, only angry. If your best friend says you are stupid, you can get hurt as well as angry. This is because your best friend is supposed to be nice to you and to consider your feelings. When people say they are not angry, just hurt, it is because they feel the greatest wrong that was done to them was not think about their feelings

HOW DO YOU KNOW

Feeling happy is an emotional state that comes and goes. Happiness is long term state of contentment. Many people confuse the two.

DISAPPOINTMENT

DISAPPOINTMENT IS A FEELING YOU GET WHEN YOU WERE EXPECTING JOY BUT SOMETHING PREVENTED YOU FROM FEELING HAPPY.

It can sometimes be difficult to distinguish between disappointment and feeling hurt and often we are both disappointed and hurt. Let’s take an example. You get disappointed when your favourite band cancels a concert you were going to. You don’t get hurt because the band is not supposed to think about your feelings.

On the hand, let’s say you are expecting to go to your best friend´s birthday and you are really excited to go and he doesn´t invite you but invites all his other friends. Then you would be disappointed because you will be not enjoying yourself in the party. You would, also, be hurt because your best friend didn´t invite you and wasn´t thinking about your feelings

HOW DO YOU DISTINGUISH BETWEEN DISAPOINTMENT AND FEELING HURT?

Did you expect to be happy and it didn´t happen? No 0 Yes 1

Did somebody you care about prevent you from being

One of these feelings is boredom. If you are bored, you are not happy and you can´t find anything to do that will bring you joy.

TO BE BORED TO BELIEVE THAT YOU DON´T HAVE THE POSSIBILITY TO DO SOMETHING THAT WILL BRING YOU JOY

You can also be lonely. When you are lonely you want to be with somebody.

TO BE LONELY IS TO WANT A CLOSE INTERACTION WITH PEOPLE BY TALKING TO THEM OR DOING SOMETHING WITH THEM, AND TO BELIEVE THAT YOU DON´T HAVE THE POSSIBILITY TO DO THAT

You can, also, be feeling down. The difference is between being bored and feeling down is that if you are bored you feel the lack of opportunity for joy but if you are down you like you can´t be glad again. For example: If you are you are bored you wouldn´t be if there was a good film to watch or a good computer game to play. When you are down a good film or a good computer game doesn´t make you happy.

TO FEEL DOWN* IS TO FEEL THAT NOTHING YOU CAN DO CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY.

You can have all these feelings or some of them at the same time. You can be bored, lonely and feel down all at once.

* If you have been down for a long time, two weeks or more it is possible that you are depressed. If you have been down for a long time it can be helpful to talk to someone about it and see if you see need