The Secret Life Of Bees By Sue Monk Kidd

Facts That Can Ruin a Relationship between Parents and Children

In the book The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd, the writer tells a story of a young white girl facing challenges, struggling throughout her life, and trying to find out about the death of her mother. Sue Monk Kidd explains several different factors that can ruin a relationship between a parent and child, for example: the separation of a child from a father, when a father lies to his child and when there is no trust between them.

To begin with, the relationship between a parent and a child can lead to separation from each other when there is not healthy interaction with each other or when there is not enough support from a father to a child. First a father have to take care

For example, some parents dont educate their child appropriately, they dont guide their child to the right direction or they dont even discipline them. There have been cases where parent lie to their child because of a fault that they make and parents address their fault by lying to their child. For example, when they refuse to admit a mistake they have made. I think that its fair to lie on a child on whom she/he can think as an adult or see what is good or not because her/his mind think as a child not and adult of age 21 and over. The child could find out the truth and consequences could come on which it ruins a relationship. An example that Sue Monk mentions in the book about making a child to think wrong is when her father lies and tells Lily that her mother never loved her and that she ran away from her, You thinking your mother is your guardian angel, the woman could have care less about you..(pg. 39). I think that when a father lies to a child by not telling her the truth, he is just hurting his child. Why keep lying and not telling her the truth that her mother did love her? I think that a childs mother will always love more than a father because a mother will always be there the more if a child needs help. Also a mother takes more care because she had the child in her belly for months so it will hurt to her if she hurts a child. If

Trust is important in a relationship between a parent and child, because if the child cannot trust the parent, the child grows up with no understanding of trust. If a child needs to talk with a parent about something private with whom are they supposed to talk? Or what if a child needs to talk with a parent about puberty problem? In the book, we see an example of a child who doesnt trust her father because she found out that his father have been lying to her. Some children trust more in the mother than father because a mother is more kind and reasonable, also because the mother will know more about the need of a child. When children dont have trust with their parents they turn to their peer which is not always a good idea. Sometimes its a good idea to turn to adults who might help us or give us advice because adults already have experience. T. Ray does not help his daughter because in the book we see him as a cruel father who he dont even know what Lily needs and a father who misinterpret his daughter just because the daughter went outside the house, he immediately thought that she was with a guy. In the book Sue Monk Kidd gives us an example of Lily feeling better with August Boatwright because she is the only woman who can listen to her and helps her is she needs help not like T. Ray ignoring her and not taking care of her, Mr. Owens you would be doing Lily and the rest of us a favor by leaving