As parents, we want the best for our children, and we hope they could achieve the best for themselves. However, along with other factors such as school, peers and social media, we may unwittingly be nudging them towards perfectionism, which, according to an article by assistant professor Thomas Curran of University of Bath and associate professor Andrew Hill of York St. John University, is "an irrational desire for flawlessness, combined with harsh self-criticism." They add that "on a deeper level, what sets a perfectionist apart from someone who is simply diligent or hard-working is a single-minded need to correct their own imperfections." Today's society evaluates young people in a number of new ways that weren't prevalent before. Everyone
Saying please and thank you show we do not take people for granted (Traditions). Otherwise, we would not really be respecting ourselves. These same tradition ensure children have at all time good role models to follow. It teaches them right from wrong and acceptable behaviors so that they are ready to enter the real world. Traditions are a balancing act, we can decide to retain them, change them or discard them completely.
This is the stage that Erikson called “school age”. They will learn to observe how the work can be done and engender the feel of responsibility. Children will confident and industrious if their initiative is reinforced or guilt by their teachers to complete their task or schoolworks. If this initiative is limiting by their parents, they will feel inferior and starting to doubt their own strength and ability. Erikson said that successful experiences give the child a sense of industry, a feeling of competence and mastery, while failure gives them a sense of inadequacy and inferiority, a feeling that one is a good for nothing (Sharkey, 1997).
There are three reasons why people may not want to have self-confidence within themselves and have a negative approach to their lives each day, firstly people may just derive utility from thinking well of themselves, and conversely paint themselves with a poor self-image by running themselves down and worrying the way people may judge them each day, this may link back to how they were brought up by their parents, therefore it is important for parents to be a good role model and develop general self-confidence within their child at a young age, secondly believing rightly or wrongly that one possesses certain qualities or abilities in a certain situation can may make it easier to convince others of it also, finally confidence for an individual own abilities or talents and efficacy can help the individual undertake more ambitious goals and persist in the face of adversity, therefore they will take more risks in life and will not be afraid to participate in certain events, thus the main reason why we emphasize the motivation theory is because it has a broader explanatory power, furthermore it yields an endogenous value of self-confidence that responds to the situations and incentives which the individual faces whether it be a team sport or an individual sport, in a way that can account for both “can-do” optimism
A mentors purpose is to exceed a child’s goals and guide them in the right direction (Corbitt). Counselors can also create a feeling of safety and stability for a child who has lived a nomadic life. School and other routinely rituals can oftentimes feel strange and stressful to children who have not experienced stability. Consistent positive relationships formed at school can be the key to a child’s motivation and success. Although, at the end of the day kids must be self motivated.
Bruner looked at the theory of self-efficacy which shows that children should be encouraged to accomplish goals however not everyone has a strong sense of self- efficacy so an individual’s sense of Self- Efficacy will always change the way they approach goals, task and challenges; young people with a strong sense of self- efficacy will often face challenges and problems head –on as well as find it easier to recover from setbacks and disappointments yet those with a weak sense of Self- Efficacy will find it harder to do those things so will often focus on their failing. Self- efficacy is important for a child’s development, young people should be encouraged to do things with as much enthusiasm as possibly but they shouldn’t be pushed to do
One of the concepts they are less likely to be familiar with is “concerted cultivation parenting” –active, planed and visible management of children’s educational opportunities-, that at the end “plays a role in the intergenerational transmission of inequality”. It is true that parents work in different ways to help their children throughout education. From the start, what parents worry about is what school will give their child the best education there is in order for him or her to learn and become the best. However, in some cases, is not as easy as it should be, because there are factors that change the outcome, being segregation one of
Although, toddlers have little control in the world, this is when they start to feel they have some control, and are expected to exercise it. If they are unable to develop certain motor skills, they will develop shame and doubt about their inability to develop
However, certain questions on these examinations could have another debatable answer, but students aren’t given the opportunity to explain and defend why the other answer could work just as well. Cookie-cutter and superficial questions that have set answers deny students the ability to truly think and express their reasoning and thoughts. Teaching and instructing young children to search for the right answer is fallacious. Certain test questions have the possibility to attain two right answers or no right answer. A pensive child may choose an answer that is credible or could be proven conceivable through explanation, but instead, the answer is judged as “wrong.” “ As a teaching tool, the tests are deeply flawed because they quash imagination, creativity, and divergent thinking.
It is hard to see a student struggle everyday and not look at them in a negative way. I begin to expect bad behavior so it makes me prone to see their bad behavior more than others. This is definitely something I struggle with and want to work on, patience with kids. I believe my most important strength is my willingness to learn and try new things. I want to continue to improve as a staff, coworker, leader, and teacher.
From the time they are born, children are being taught that they are “winners” no matter what. They are being praised for the simplest accomplishments and being rewarded for things they should already do. If a parent is the first person to make an impression on the child, and their impressions are misguided and unrealistic this could be detrimental to the way kids see the world. They now believe that
Difficult work is what needs to be given to students to help them learn and the process of making mistakes. Students need to know that making mistakes is sometimes ok. Teachers need to know that it is ok to give students difficult work. This is to the best of their ability to learn. Giving them easy work would cause a lack of knowledge and would be difficult for the children later in the future. Hard work is for the better of the
Children are not Clueless to Right and Wrong Children are very important in the world today. Making sure they are stable and on the right track should be essential to all humans. Although some ads or commercials might influence children to make a not so good decision, it is ridiculous to ban all ads that may have negative effects on them. Although many ads may have harmful effects on children, kids are not clueless to what 's right and wrong. Because some ads are not good for kids, this helps them learn with decision making throughout their life.
The children are not able to open themselves on others peers or adults. It may effect on their behaviour against their peers – they may be more childish, aggressive, they may have problems in knowledge acquisition and with grades. It is important not to leave a child alone and let teachers know if there is something wrong in child’s behaviour. Teachers will have more understanding and will try to support a
In the article "The secret to Raising Smart Kids" I unaware of the complexities that came along with how to raise a child to have a passion for learning. Carol Dweck offers reasoning why students should be taught that success comes from effort, rather than how naturally brilliant or talented they are. Teaching professionals, and also parents should all become aware of the different types of praise can vastly effect a child 's mind set. Student should be welcoming towards a challenge rather than call it quits. This process of teaching students to rely more effort, and have more of a growth mind-set should become part of the teaching program, this could dramatically create a difference in the behavior of students struggle in school.