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The Stereotypes Of Love: The Need For Love

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Introduction
“Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death, jealousy is fierce as the grave. Its flashes are flashes of fire, the very flame of the Lord. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man offered for love all the wealth of his house, he would be utterly despised." (Song of Solomon 8:6-7)
Above is bible verse about Love. Love is a word that many have attempted to define. For instance, Dictionary.com defines Love as “a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person or a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.” As humans, we all have an intense desire to be loved and nurtured by another. It is believed that the secret to a happy life is when we know that we are loved. With references from Carol Travis’s article “Women As Love’s Experts and Love’s Victims” I wish to expound on how gender plays a part in a relationship, what Tavris describes as the notion of "woman as intimacy expert" as a stereotype, how this stereotype affect gender role, behavior and problems experienced by men and women in their personal relationships. …show more content…

This statement is supported by the fact that women for instance have the desire to receive affirmation of the love their spouses feel for them. Women desire to hear “I love you” said to them by their spouses on a frequent basis. They feel unloved when this is not said as often as they want to hear it. This article clearly backs this up. In the case of Travis’s friend Roberta, she questioned if her husband Henry truly loves her. She stated that “the last time he said “I love you” is back in 1974”. Men on the hand understand love and express it differently. Henry, in attempt to express what his feelings are towards Roberta, stated that, “I vote with my feet. If I didn’t love you, I wouldn’t be

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