In “The Favorite Child” by Ellen Weber Libby, the author shows how favoritism can have a negative effect on the favored child as well as the unfavored child. Throughout the essay, Libby explains how parents favoring one child over another can result in both the favored and unfavored child experiencing depression in their life. There are many ways that favoritism can impact the unfavored child in a negative way. First off, the unfavored children have never received affirmation from their parents so they often live their lives looking for validation. They grow up insecure and don't feel that they are lovable.
The children are attached, but only on a “superficial level” (Robin). Furthermore, studies have shown that foster children have a higher chance of severe insecurities and attachment disorder (Harden). These disorders cause complications in future relationships. The long-term negative effects of this is the foster children maintain their suspicious and untrustful manners which makes it difficult for new bonds in relationships to form (Robin). As a result of attachment issues foster children tend to feel uneasy in the home they are placed in.
Insecurity is the uncertainty or anxiety of oneself which an abundance of teenagers have been found to struggle from. Sometimes, a person's insecurities can cause them to be someone who they are not. However insecurities are usually caused by someone mocking you of your differences, which eventually causes themselves to try to exemplify someone they believe is better than them self, instead of expressing their differences. In A Separate Peace, John Knowles exhibits a teenage boy, Gene who is strained with insecurity because of jealousy and a lost Identity.
equipment may last the nursery just as long as more expensive equipment and resources would. To move on to psychological barriers, they are more related to parents rather than children, this barrier can consist of parent’s phobia of not being able to trust the staff with their child and there for thinking that there child is in danger. A psychological barrier cans latter impact the child as they may also pick up negative feelings towards the nursery causing them to have a lack of enthusiasm when attending nursery, the child may also appear to be clingy and unhappy at the thought of being away from parents in addition to this shyness and a lack of confidence may be more persistent in the child’s behaviour which will lead to the child being more dependent on their carer. Parents will also be affected by psychological barriers as it may result in their behaviour to turn antisocial and in many cases they will often be prone to interfering and phoning up the nursery multiple times just to double check.
This causes these children to not be active citizens, thus not helping the community. This completes the circle when these people have their own children, since they didn't help improve the community, their children will have to face the same hurdles as
Another unfortunate aspect of the affect diathesis-stress model is that it indicates the child, adolescent, and young adult are not provided the opportunity to flourish as some of their peers. Instead diathesis-stress is associated with growing up in an extremely negative, oppressive, and counterproductive environment during a child’s most informative years (Berger, 2014). Not only does anxiety disables an individual to properly regulate their response to everyday cycle of events but the effects trigger comatose genes and hormones to create psychological, biological, and neurological signs of future problems at an earlier age. Furthermore, the biological overload of hormones creates a void in an individual’s self-regulation ability of emotions
Some negatives of a society that accepts unwinding could consist of unethical unwindings. For example, a parent who is viewed as overly-protective, can unwind their child because of the slightest mistake. When a parent who gives their kid some freedom and isn’t so hard on them when something goes wrong, is less likely to unwind a child. With that said, more children would deem it unfair that their friends parent aren’t unwinding them for the same thing, causing more kids to run from their homes, and their families. Another negative outcome of unwinding is that it is not ethical in a case where a parent can choose to end a child’s time on earth for whatever reason they want.
Children are traumatized from being moved home to home and never feel a sense of belonging. Being in the system can cause emotional, social, and life skill problems that can affect a child future. Many studies have shown that kids who are in Foster Care develop emotional, social and life skill problems that will affect them long-term, that will cause problems in their future as an adult. Some may often not be able to learn the basic life skills that will help them as a functional citizen in society.
As summarized by William Flexner (2005), parents performed crucial roles in the growth of a teenager. Youngsters need the feeling of confidence that comes from parental faith. Parents laid a foundation for moral and personality development of the child. They provided the emotional security, which is the very source of the child’s trust.
Mistrust. Trust vs. Mistrust is a stage in infancy from birth- 2 years old, and its all about an infant “gaining trust in self and environment vs. feeling mistrust and wariness of others.” So, if an infant “develops a sense of trust as a result of being looked after, attended to when needed, and loved by its parents” then will grow up being happy and healthy, as well as possibly having a secure attachment with its parents. However, if the infant “develops a sense of mistrust as a result of being neglected or poorly treated, they will display a lack of interest in their surroundings causing them to become unhealthy and possibly have depression when older.” Also, as it feels neglected then it will possibly grow up as an insecure attached child.
From the moment a child is born, he or she has basic needs for comfort and affection that should be met. Children that are not properly nurtured early in life do not form quality attachments with adults and learn that they cannot be trusted to meet the child’s needs. Reactive attachment disorder can develop when the child does not form loving, secure, and stable attachments with others, caused by inadequate or inconsistent care, maternal depression or separation, abuse, or neglect, among other things. As the child ages, this can lead to a myriad of difficulties, some examples being issues regulating emotions and behavior, a lack of cause and effect thinking, a desire to be in control, poor peer relationships, lying, and a destructive, impulsive, and manipulative nature. It is believed that children with reactive attachment disorder have the ability to form secure attachments, but this capacity has been compromised by their experiences early in life.
Their anger can be displayed towards themselves or others. They have difficulty learning to make new friends and have poorer relationships with same aged children. All these children seemed to be less involved in extracurricular activities. Children of divorce may be less likely to learn how to cooperate, negotiate, and compromise. If children are exposed to high conflict from parents, they may learn to model the poor communication they have
The rising deaths and DCFS cases is a testament to the disservice our nation is doing to neglected and abused youths. Once kids are placed in the foster care system, they are often moved from one placement to another which may negatively impact all aspects of their lives that are critical to success in later life such as school, social relationships, and environmental/community influences. This constant separation and loss may lead youths to feel hopeless, and resent social interactions as they feel that social relationships are extremely fragile. This affects group treatment as individuals may drop-out of treatment due to a new placement, or decline to actively participate as they feel hopeless and feels distrustful of everything around them. When children and youths cannot trust their caregivers for reassurance, they have no where to turn but the public.