Grief and Loss Grief has a powerful effect on everyone’s lives. The heartbreaking feeling of losing someone close to you, like a family member or a significant other, alters how we view ourselves and act. Sometimes coping methods cause people to do things and make choices that they usually would not. This is illustrated in the films, The United States of Leland and The Fundamentals of Caring, where grief and loss are very prominent themes.
Have you ever realized that a place you have treasured all your life is actually not as perfect as you imagined? That’s what happened to Jacqueline Woodson. As we grow up, our outlook on life changes and sometimes that can be very scary. In When A Southern Town Broke A Heart by Jacqueline Woodson, the author introduces growing up and experiencing change as a central idea in the story. When Woodson was a child, she wanted to think that segregation was a thing of the past. Instead, she realized she was living in a town more flawed than expected, with many racist people. At the end, Woodson no longer feels secure in a town that used to be the safest place possible. By observing how her character changes over the course of the plot, it seems evident that Woodson is trying to convey to the reader that when growing up, one becomes aware of new things that used to be hidden from them.
Rubenstein’s Upper Hand Over China “Rubenstein’s making a point to Li,” Noah was saying. “We may not be a great power anymore, we may be into you for sixty-five trillion yuan-pegged, but we’re not afraid to use our troops if our spades act up, so watch out, or we’ll go fucking nuclear on your yellow asses if you try to cash in your chips. Keep the credit rolling, chinos.” (Shteyngart 160).
The argument of these chapters of A Year of Magical Thinking focus on how we perceive we would deal with grief/death, and how Joan Didion actually deals with. It also covers the fact that moving forward with life, after a death, has to be a conscious decision. Also, it is a decision that can only be made by those who are grieveing. (Didion, 2005) I agree with the fact that grief is an abstract topic.
It gives the reader the sense that the main character may be experiencing some depression because as it is stated she is waiting for her feelings to surface, and she might be feeling down that she is not reacting as normal people should be. She is convincing herself that she is not worthy and she doesn’t love her father, even though on the inside she loves him . The main character needs to realize that she is taking it in her own way. Furthermore, the second grief in the story is the
When I was nine years old (2010), death touched my family through my older sister, Margot Kate Jackson Fowler, known by many as Katie Fowler. This affected me in tremendous ways which will stay with me for life. Whenever I see or hear of death regarding family members, I draw instant connections to the death of my sister. When guddu and Saroo were separated that night, not knowing that it would be their last moment together; they didn’t say goodbye. I can relate to this on a personal level as I never got to say goodbye to my sister.
It is first and foremost the grief of one person over the death of his son. Here the author accepts that he has grief because he has loved his son and that son is no more. As much he loved his son, so much is his grief. When we go through this book keeping in mind Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’ five stages of grief, we find that the development of the thoughts of the author is also almost the same.
Everyone with a family cares for each other, even when they are dying or want to die. Sometimes when family members are dying, it brings the family close together, which is a good thing. But sometimes the one family member feels left out or they don’t what is happening in their life, so they want to die, which is not always the best answer. “The Hitchhiker” by Lucille Fletcher is a play about a son that is going to California for a trip. “ An Occurrence At Owl Creek Bridge” is a short story that is about Peyton who died hanging from a bridge.
However, in none of these three stories is the loss identical. These three stories present loss as a loss of meaning of life, loss as a physical need, no longer fulfilled, and loss as a loss of will to live. All three are loss, but none of them affect their ‘subjects’ in the same way.
In “Mid-term Break,” the family, friends, and neighbors are grieving the death of the young boy in their own personal ways. Heaney pictures the mother by describing her mourning as “angry tearless sighs” (Line 13). This quote shows that the mother’s form of grief is responding to the accident in anger and almost disbelief, which, according to Julie Axelrod, is considered the denial and isolation stage. Heaney depicts the father crying at the funeral of his son, which is the complete opposite of that of his wife. In Frost’s poem, he portrays grief in the line that reads “so Eden sank to grief” (6).
When people are traumatized by an event they are pushed to experience the five stages of grief. The “Gospel”, by Philip Levine and “the boy detective loses love”, by Sam Sax both use characters that are going through one of the stages of grief. Levine and Sax both explain the thoughts and process of what a person thinks when they go through these stages with imagery. Levine uses symbolism, a sad tone, and a set setting in “Gospel” to illustrate that grieving takes you into a depth of thoughts. Sax uses anaphoras, an aggressive tone, and an ambiguous setting to convey that grieving takes you into a tunnel of anger and rage.
These aspects of the play work together to explore ideas related both to grief and acceptance. One major theme in this play is that different people grieve in different ways in order to accept a loss and be at peace. The four people at the funeral each let go of the past in their own ways.
The attitudes to grief over the loss of a loved one are presented in two thoroughly different ways in the two poems of ‘Funeral Blues’ and ‘Remember’. Some differences include the tone towards death as ‘Funeral Blues’ was written with a more mocking, sarcastic tone towards death and grieving the loss of a loved one, (even though it was later interpreted as a genuine expression of grief after the movie “Four Weddings and a Funeral” in 1994), whereas ‘Remember’ has a more sincere and heartfelt tone towards death. In addition, ‘Funeral Blues’ is entirely negative towards death not only forbidding themselves from moving on but also forbidding the world from moving on after the tragic passing of the loved one, whilst ‘Remember’ gives the griever