Mairs herself doesn’t fully comprehend why she decided on this title, but she believes that she wants others to see her as a “tough customer”. A person who “fates/gods/viruses have not been kind”, yet still can accept the brutal truth. By claiming all this, Mairs makes the reader realize that she’s a unyielding individual, yet also appeals to pathos by invoking feelings of sympathy from the reader. Also, one would likely agree that
“...We often take responsibility in a way that goes beyond what we can reasonably be held responsible for”(Sherman 154), says Nancy Sherman in “The Moral Logic of Survivor Guilt.” Sherman believes that people blame themselves too much when something goes wrong in a dangerous situation; and even when something happens that is out of their control, they cannot forgive themselves for the outcome of the event. Should people in life-or-death situations be held accountable for their actions? Someone might argue that people should take responsibility for what they do, even in survival mode. However, in life-or-death situations, people should not accuse other, and make them feel remorse for their actions, because, in survival mode, a person wants to save themselves before anyone else. To start, Nancy Sherman says that people take too much responsibility for what happens under their watch even though they could not have kept it from happening.
Time and time again, Tita expresses her fatigue and distaste for these arduous chores. At first glance, it may seem as though Mama Elena is a merciless tyrant who only lives to torture Tita. However, Mama Elena assigns these tasks to Tita without any malicious intent, believing that these tasks are meant for the youngest daughter to fulfill, as she is a faithful adherent to family tradition. She expresses her appreciation for Tita in her own unique way, as she is not very fond of or accustomed to expressing her emotions openly. Her frank attitude, coupled with her lack of sympathy makes it so that her actions are misinterpreted by the reader as well as other characters.
And another conversation is that “I am too smart to cheat….It is under me” (157).Even though Kim’s mother suffered loneliness ..she is such a bold character to suffer and sacrifice though she got hardships and rejection from Aunt Paula. . “You may need to change your dreams. My little heart, listen. But sometimes our fate is different from the one we imagined for ourselves.
The most noteworthy conflicts were balancing motherhood and her role as a political figure. For example, during her tenure as an activist, strangers and colleagues benefited from her affection, time and devotion. Whereas, her children did not and this ultimately negatively impacted her children's lives in their failed social relationships. Another role conflict that she experienced was her role as daughter-in-law and mother. Often, in public opinion Eleanor was branded as a bad mother, which was an unfair observation from outsiders which weren't privy to her authority being emasculated on a daily basis by her mother-in-law.
While Dewey Dell and Cora follow societal standards since Dewey Dell allows men to control her and Cora takes on her assumed role as caretaker of her husband and children; Addie Bundren defies patriarchal ideals by maintaining her own desires and confirming that motherhood and wifehood are not fulfilling. Truly, female attitudes towards the principles of a male dominating society differ within As I Lay Dying, which demonstrates how although manipulation can be employed to restrict the freedoms of people within cultures, there will always be admirable people who defy societal
However the story masks this obviousness fact by illustrating some of Edna’s questionable actions. Some of Edna’s most obvious decisions immediately question her weakness to handle pressure. Edna’s inability to show compassion and care for her children challenge this normalcy for a mother of the time period; Edna considered her children “like antagonists who had overcome her; who had overpowered and sought to drag her into the soul's slavery for the rest of her days” (Chopin 115). The children almost seemed like a burden, or a detriment to her. Edna’s doctor visit nearly foreshadows this mindset, where the doctor notes that
Tan and her mother carry serious animosity and bitterness towards each other leaving no space for things such as compassion. Overall, Tan has a a very problematic relationship with her mother. While Chua and Lulu have a fairly normal with each other with usual squabbles that a mother and child would have. Slight annoyance and frustration between a caring mother that just wants to see her daughter succeed is a typical type of relationship could describe the tone of Chua’s
And as time goes by, we tend subconsciously know that we have the excuse of only being human, we tend to neglect exactly how we have gotten ourselves into a situation that has negatively impacted our life with our significant others’. The troubles that are faced require a variety of responsibilities that couples generally need to apply to their problems in order to come out on top of a bad situation. In doing so, it allows us to feel
aren’t both important interactions? familial relationships are most important because (community, unity, progress, trust) To ignore our emotional instincts in order to fulfill moral duties goes against human nature and can costs us