Significance of the Study
The researcher believed that this research would be beneficial to the following:
For counselors, therapist and psychologists. This study can provide additional knowledge about forgiveness therapy and its applicability for abandoned and neglected elderly in the Philippines. It could also give them a background about the experiences of elderly clients undergoing forgiveness therapy which could help them in developing ideas about interventions that uses forgiveness.
Government and non-government facilities could use the results of this study as basis in designing interventions that would address the needs of the elderlies, especially their issues due to past hurts which may affect their current mental, emotional and physiological conditions. This may also help them develop an appropriate caring approach and environment
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The instruments used were the Enright Forgiveness Inventory-Short Form, which is a standardized foreign made instrument with a Filipino translation and the Process Model of Forgiveness Therapy of Dr. Robert Enright as the intervention program.
Definition of Terms
For better clarity and understanding of the study, the following terms are defined:
Abandoned Elderly. This refers to a senior citizen who was deserted by his/her family for more than six months and is incapable of providing his/her own basic needs.
Communicable diseases. These are diseases that can be communicated from one person to another, like pulmonary tuberculosis and pneumonia.
DSWD-NCR. It is an acronym for the Department of Social Welfare and Development-National Capital Region.
Elderly. This refers to an individual aged sixty (60) years old and above.
Forgiveness Therapy. It is a form of intervention that centers on the act forgiveness wherein the goal is to increase positive thoughts, feelings and behavior towards the
Finally, Kor expresses the importance of forgiveness. “Anger and hate are seeds that germinate war. Forgiveness is a seed for peace. It is the ultimate act of self-healing. I look at forgiveness as the summit of a very tall mountain” (Kor and Buccieri 133).
Victim compensation is a governmental program that seeks to award victims of crime with monetary reimbursement or certain tools aid them begin the healing process. The people eligible for this kind of program are articulated to either be victims of various crime such as murder, rape, theft, assault, threats to life and in some instances burglary. Family members and the dependents of homicide victims are eligible to this compensation. Persons who have the responsibility for funeral preparations can be awarded as far as they can apply for this fund. Often, such victims are in dire need of medical attention and treatment, occasioned by the atrocities done by the act of crime of another.
We can also support the children by creating a safe and welcoming environment, allowing them to feel comfortable to be able to talk to staff if they have any problems. The younger child, however can be supported by ensuring she has clean clothes when she comes into the setting, so that she is not comfortable. We could support all children and mum by monitoring the children's behaviour, learning and development more regularly, making it more efficient to act upon if something begins to slip, such as their development in health and self care. Within this case, it would be crucial to support self care skills by making activities to improve the children's knowledge on, for example the morning routine (getting dressed and brushing teeth for example).
Taking time away from forgiveness can deepen our understanding of the world, giving us perspective on our challenges. Tori Rodriguez, Author of the article "Negative Emotions are Key to Well-Being," says, "Attempting to suppress thoughts can backfire and even diminish our sense of contentment. " Here, author Rodriguez suggests that forgiveness can cause us to hide our negative emotions and only focus on the good instead of letting ourselves truly accept the
Learning How to Forgive Forgiving someone do not remove the guilt of a person or a group who makes mistakes. Forgiveness is an unexceptional theme that society has since early times in the history of humanity, and it is a easy target for individuals of a social group to judge. The theme brings up religious effects, which influence many actions and what believers do. When it comes to family, the society’s finger of blame is pointed at parents who fail their responsibilities in raising their children.
Why to Forgive A tragic loss is one to never be expected. The thought “What if” travels through the mind of the survivor. But can’t help feel guilty for the victim. What if the survivor had done something different?
While forgiveness keeps peace, it’s meaningless when the action needed to forgive is done over and over again; consequently, the rebated forgiveness turns into cold acceptance. It is from testing forgiveness that forgiveness loses its importance. We see this as Jeannette’s own forgiveness begins to wear thin at a very young age. Jeannette had just turned ten when she begged her father to quit his drinking. While he was able to quit drinking for a few days, he soon crawled back, sucking on a bottle of beer like a baby does a bottle of milk.
We are humans and a majority of us have dealt with heartache, pain, broken promises, along with the joyous things like dreams, aspirations, and successful futures. Humans mess up and make mistakes, but we have to remember that forgiveness is a very prestigious and powerful thing. Forgiveness affects people’s lives in positive ways through the hardships, difficulties, and struggles of life. There comes a time when forgiveness should not be available to some individuals. However, this depends on the past situations that have occurred in your life as well as other individuals.
“I learned a long time ago that some people would rather die than forgive. It’s a strange truth, but forgiveness is a painful and difficult process. It’s not something that happens overnight. It’s an evolution of the heart.” (Kidd)
1. I feel that forgiveness is not for the other person, it’s a process that provides you the energy and the self-confidence to move on. One reason why is forgiveness is not for the other is because in my experience, forgiveness is a situation where serious harm has been done to you physically or mentally. The next steps are finding a way to relieve your conscious of the harm caused.
Humans are social creatures, we have a desire to belong, and a need to connect with others and feel that we are part of a group. With older people there is often the feeling that there is some kind of disconnect between them and wider society. We encourage them to retire at 65 so that the younger population can move into the workforce(Jönson,2012), and then these retirees are directed to go on cruises designed just for seniors or to move down to a retirement community in California. We segregate our elders to seniors activity centres which we cheerfully tell them will be fun because they will be with other old people, and when they are no longer able to age in place(Wiles et al.2012) we package up a small amount of their belongings and place
The overall score received for the Heartland Forgiveness Scale (HFS) was compared with the overall score for the Mental Health Continuum Scale (MHC), State-Trait Anxiety Inventory (STAI), State-Trait Depression Inventory (STDI) and Positive Relations with Others (PRWO). Table 1: Coefficients of Correlation between Forgiveness, Positive Mental Health, Trait Anxiety, Trait Depression and Positive Relations with Others Positive Mental Health Trait Anxiety Trait Depression Positive Relations with Others Forgiveness r r r
The Dalai Lama believes one should forgive but not necessarily forget (DalaiLama, 129). He values the past and to use the past to our advantage so no reoccurrence will happen in the future. When evil takes hold, and allows itself to grow it begins to consume ourselves. (DalaiLama, 129) As our world, has evolved, as society changes we have allowed ourselves to forget one another.
Through this thesis paper I intend to prove that it is the feeling of remorse in people which drives them to redeem for their sins. Remorse gives rise to redemption and fuels constructive action. Remorse once truly felt, convinces individuals to make up for the sins they have committed. It gives them the power to atone for their sins and thus achieve redemption. The degree of remorse that
Forgiveness is the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven. (Hawkins, 1994, P. 206) My personal understanding of the parable ‘The Prodigal Son” is that it portrays the importance of reasoning and forgiveness. The main characters in the parable are two sons and a betrayed father. The father remains constant throughout the parable, although he has being betrayed by his younger son.