Causes Of Conflict In Relationships

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“A true relationship is two imperfect people refusing to give up on each other.” This statement is more a fact rather than a quote. No relationship is perfect. Like everything, a relationship has to go through its own ups and downs. A healthy relationship is the one which goes through the tough times and emerges stronger than before. Conflicts portray realism and in fact relationships without any fights may be filled with tension after a point of time. Overcoming a hurdle in a relationship can create a deeper understanding, mutual respect, and closeness among the two people. However, several unresolved conflicts can put the very heart of the relationship in danger, so much so that the couple becomes doubtful of their commitment to each other…show more content…
This usually happens when one partner is dominant over the other and constantly nags his/her partner by pinpointing, scolding and passing sarcastic remarks. Most often than not it is the cumulative annoyances that rile up in a person that makes him/her believe that their partner is undeserving of respect and form a habit of being sarcastic around them. Also, the thought of making your partner adjust to your standards of living could make you more egoistic and less empathetic towards your partner. Consequently, a rift is created between the couple and the targeted partner must bear with the other. Along with the quality of nagging, being defensive in nature also stimulates fights and criticism. The fact that you are not able to accept your mistakes and make a sincere effort to work on yourself has a lot of say in your relationship. Many times one uses harsh language or improper tone because they are in a bad mood or are under a lot of stress. This often happens during the period of parenthood. In this case, it is ideal to calm down and make specific requests instead of throwing around negative criticism. A study has shown that people who respond to their partner with sour facial expressions are likely to get separated within four years. The only solution here is not to judge your partner harshly and analyze your inner critic before you say something or express yourself through an eye-roll or a…show more content…
To know what is going on in our partner’s mind, communication is necessary. Open and honest communication is an essential component of a strong relationship. People who aren’t able to express themselves freely in front of their partner, or avoid certain conversations for the fear of creating a rift, often suppress themselves and bottle up in a soon to turn destructive relationship. Not being able to communicate clearly can create anger and make you feel incompatible with your partner. This may also lead to misunderstandings and resentment. Moreover, prolonged miscommunication ultimately leads to many unresolved conflicts which are very dangerous for a relationship. Assuming that you don’t need to converse with your partner as you know him/her well is a big mistake and can play a big role in deteriorating your relationship. For example, you think your spouse knows that you are angry as he forgot your anniversary. He takes your silence to everything being fine. You two are on different pages altogether, and not landing on the same one soon may result in a conflict. Also, using harsh language or tone results in miscommunication and vexation. On the contrary, people who are clear about their feelings with their partner can connect with them on the same emotional level. This establishes a deeper connection between the two people which then reduces the possibilities of major fights in
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