Battle Hymn Of The Tiger Mother: Transactional Analysis

Tiger Mother, which is different from the traditional ‘Tiger Father’, is a new term developed in recent years due to the changes in gender stereotypes. It also used to describe the Asia parenting style. Tiger Mother includes negative parenting and positive parenting which mean they are harsh and have high-expectation to their children. Simultaneously, they are supportive and caring. The main characteristic of them is strict with their children. They tend to make different rules and give emotional threats to their children. Because of the desire of wanting their children to be the best, they push their child to learn many talents/skills in different ways, for example, music, academic and sports. However, they never premeditate about their child interest.

Moreover, they expect exorbitant level in the academic success and non-academic achievements for their children. For instance, playing sports and performing music

According to Eric Berne’s transactional analysis, the Tiger mother is using Parent Self which is presented to be critical and forceful. She sets up several roles for her son and makes her son cannot rebel her order, on the other hand, the son must follow her words. For example, in the video, when Tiger mother noticed Jerry was playing smartphone with his cousin, she used Parent Self to express her anger of his behavior. Then she wants the son to use Adult Self back in order to be factual and obey her. However, Jerry played as Child Self, which is rebellious and told her the desire that he wants to play games. Unfortunately, Tiger Mother kept using Parent Self to reprimand him. As a result, the conflict occurs and both was not satisfied in the