1 4 Life positions
People’s opinions differ from each other and will cause a certain amount of conflict between them that manifest themselves as an individual’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviours (Berne, 1964). He defined transactional analysis as “the method for studying interactions between individuals”, and identified three alter ego states that are present in every person, namely the parent, child and adult that is briefly described below.
This type of behaviour is the result of our upbringing and education during the first five years of life and is evidenced by anger or impatient body language and expressions and words such as always, never and other words of a critical nature (Berne, 1964). Modern transactional analysis theory…show more content… Separation/departure
Departure is about the separation of the hero from the normal world. This separation is symbolic of an infant’s separation from his mother and the scary feeling of such separation.
This is the main part of the story where the hero is initiated into true heroic stature through various trials and rites. The hero’s true character emerges through battle.
After battling in the initiation stage the hero returns cleansed and in triumph to deserved recognition. This also may be through various trials and tribulations.
Kaufmann (2013) compares leadership to that of the hero’s journey and says that leadership starts at the edge of your comfort zone. He says that a leader aims high, makes sacrifices, and gives back, the same as a hero does and that the way to successful leadership leads you away from the familiar, serves your community and winds through uncertainty that causes anxiety and fear but is the gateway to growth. He identifies four virtues that embolden the hero’s spirit:
• Focus: leading from choice and purpose rather than from habit;
• Courage: walking toward the fear that you’d rather walk away…show more content… Effective leaders bring out the best in others: A great leader leverage off the best qualities from the people around them and challenge them to improve with confidence to achieve their personal goals.
2. The best leaders inspire with their words and actions: Great leaders lead by example and would not expect others to do what they are not prepared to do themselves. They appeal to people’s emotions, using images, stories, metaphors, and other ways that move people to action in achieving common goals.
3. Great leaders are genuine and authentic: These leaders know who they are and they are not afraid to let others see their core values, their strengths, and their weaknesses. They are transparent and let everyone know in a way that is seen as “real” and genuine.
4. Effective leaders have a professional presence: Great leaders have a way of being “in the moment”, both in a group setting (on stage) and in individual interactions. They pay attention, listen, ask great questions, and make everyone feel like there are being heard and valued. When they do speak up, they command attention – everyone pauses and pays