Children are able to develop into adulthood hole they are seeing the responsibility their parents experience. The children brain in poverty is different from other children because they witness so much violence, housing problems and family issues. These children feel like their is no hope for the future in it can lead to not continuing. This can be extremely hard for a child to achieve success. Not only do they feel like their is not hope but they also feel like there is no going back.
When each of the risks are examined together, it becomes clear that the concept of open adoption is unfair because it stirs many unnaturally occurring emotions, situations, and distress. Open adoption is unfair because it stresses the relationship of adoptive parent and child, and makes vulnerable children cope with unnecessary stressors (Berry 128-129). One of the “biggest risk(s) of open adoption postulated by most adoption professionals is that it will interfere with the process of bonding between adoptive parents and child” (Berry 129). Whether through one-sided openness, challenges from contact, or withholding of information, open adoption cultivates unnecessary stress and worry. In a closed adoption, where the adoptive and biological parents do not have contact, the child does not have the burden of information, meetings, or dual standards that are present in an open
“Among effects of divorce on children are negative emotions like bitterness, stress, emotional pain, anxiety, fear, feeling betrayed and loss of self-esteem.” It is normal for a child to feel these different emotions because of the impact of his/her parents separation. Another article Children’s responses to separation and parental conflict. “High conflict typically includes significant levels of anger and distrust.” Child’s response depends on how big the impact of the situation to him/her. Like on the statements and researches that other authors and articles said parent separation leads to a roller coaster of emotions to children, they can’t even trust themselves because of the lack of parental motivation in their early stage of growing. The number of affected teens is more likely higher than those who took the separation positively cases in other places such as early pregnancy and so on are highly mainstream and increasing.
It is impossible for them to trust anyone that easily because of the past experiences that they had. The destruction of trust between the children and their abuser is because of the incest that happened in the family. The family is the most important source and support to the child for their confidence and security. But because of the incest, the bond and trusts between parents and children are broken and the child cannot trust their own family. When the most important source; family betrayed them and cannot be trusted anymore, the child often feels that it is not possible to trust anyone in this world.
This can lead to juvenile involvement in crimes. Secondly, factors associated with parental conflict and discipline to include abuse, nagging, harsh and erratic discipline makes the home very uncomfortable and wayward, thus pushing children to seek comfort from peers. Thirdly, deviant parental behaviors and attitudes such as parental criminality, parental violence and tolerance of violence form a high tendency for crime involvement. Lastly, family disruption as a result of chronic spousal conflict or marriage break-up can leave the children to the hands of their peers for upbringing and in most cases would expose them to criminal activity (Loeber & Stouthamer-Loeber,
In this paper, I will argue and show parents how spanking and physically disciplining our children can have negative and detrimental consequences because it causes psychological damage, a lack of trust between child and parent, and when it is not done in the right mind set it can lead to more serious matters such as child abuse. “In 2012, a national survey showed more than half of women and three-quarters of men in the United States believe a child sometimes needs a "good hard spanking. "” Some may argue that spanking helps the child realize that their behavior is wrong and needs to be fixed, when parents discipline physically it might be a quick fix to stop the behavior, but as time goes on it does not only harm them physically but mentally and socially. While I agree that when a child’s behavior is wrong, we need to help them fix it, but I disagree that it should be done by physical punishment. Studies show that when kids are spanked or physically punished they tend to act out in the same way and choose to be aggressive like their parents.
Rules and following them are the most important things to an authoritarian parent. In this style parents raise their child to follow every instruction they give them and to obey every rule imposed. Failure to obey and follow these results in punishments. Authoritarian parents fail to explain the reasoning behind rules and when kids ask questions instead of explaining and actually answering the question they normally respond with “because i say so”, meaning they are not responsive to their children, even though they have high demands for them. Kids raised with this parenting style normally fear their parents and consequently are dishonest with them when they do something wrong.
It becomes clear that the harsh treatment has had a negative effect on her psyche. In some episodes, she is depicted as being emotionally disturbed and fragile, something that is derived from her desperation for approval, love, and affection from her loved ones. The issues facing Meg makes her a more complex character who transcends the requirements attached to the role played by a quintessential elder sibling. Middle children in typical American families are usually seen as excellent negotiators, as they are individuals who are not used to getting their way, and therefore, have to survive as skillful manipulators. However, the middle children may also suffer from esteem issues due to the lack of attention or uniqueness, and usually dislike conflict resulting in them being taken advantage of by those close to them (Salmon and Schumann 17).
The characteristics that Adler attributed to people according to their birth order are as follows: the firstborn children receive a lot of attention from their parents, but then they will sadly suffer the dethrone by their siblings, whom they will overprotect; they are prone to further problems due to the loss of prior privileges and to the supposed responsibility for taking care of their siblings. Middleborn children neither lived the dethrone nor were consented, although it is common that they feel out of place or become rebellious. The youngest children are aiming to being arrogant, consented and dependent on others because their siblings have always helped them, so they will have greater difficulty adapting to adult life. Only children never lose their supremacy; they are independent, self-centered and have no problem on being alone, but they find hard to share and compete with others. Finally, the twins; the one who is born first is usually the dominant; they are confident because of their closeness, but they find it difficult to be alone and have problems when they separate.
The child then becomes inadvertently trapped in the middle of the fiery feud between the parents, forcing the strain of the relationship directly onto the child’s shoulders. They are used as a sort of stepping stone to heighten to animosity between the dueling parents, especially in a custody battle.. The weight of the conflict being inflicted upon them can contribute to deleterious effects on children, which include, but are not limited to, anxiety, depression and the manifestation of physical sickness (2). In reality, divorce has the most serious effects on children involved but their issues are most commonly neglected (“How” 1). Due to parents consistently believing that their actions are always justified, they shrug off any of their child’s problems as their own doing (Direnfield 3).