My mom, dad, and brother are the three people that I can always count on and trust their opinions. They have always been in my life, helping me grow and develop as a person. Everyone’s family is a little different in their own ways, so I know my cultural identity has to be different from the people I surround myself with. My cultural identity is kind of shaped around what my parents believe and preach. They were my first educators in life so obvious my identity is based off theirs with some exceptions.
Introduction Family is a very broad aspect, I was bought up by my grandparents, Kalala and Akileo I have grown up to be very family orientated, and everything affects family. Everything I say and do has an influence on my kaiga, without their love, support and their hard work I would not be who I am today. Toku kaiga means not only parents and siblings but also my extended family, ancestors who are not here in person. I gained different perspectives from some family members and how their view of Kaiga is affected by different aspects. Kaiga My aunty (46) became very emotional and yearned to go back to Tokelau when discussing kaiga.
In my immediate family I would consider my mother and stepfather as the caretakers. Another family member who has made a big impact on my life would be my brother who has a big age gap from me, and his daughter who is my niece. Now that I am in college, I have come to
It means choosing to love each other even on those days when you struggle to like each other. It means never giving up on each other!” (Dave Willis). In the novel The Giver by Lois Lowry “family units” are assigned by the community elders. The adults apply for a spouse once they are married for three years and approved they may apply for children. The children who are born to “birth mothers” are given to their family and named at the December ceremonies.
Ntamako Bazega never got married after my grandfather died a strong single black woman raised her children and she was able to see all of them complete their education and until now she continues seeing them succeed in life. Grandparents are a blessing because they get to spoil you, they talk to you giving you knowledge and wisdom, they advise you on what to do in life and I consider that a blessing. Every time I visited my home country I would go to the village my dad was born at and see my grandfather’s burial site and I always find that place peaceful. I like to believe that my grandfather is always there with me spiritually. My dad is surprised on how much I love a person that I barely got to grow up knowing.
In such a family, all the questions in four generations, especially the entry of children into marriage, settled patriarch. The main purpose of marriage is considered the birth of sons. The fact is that during a family sacrifice his ancestor played by eldest grandson, and bowed his father gives him a report on family affairs. If there is no male offspring, then there will be nobody to make remembrance of ancestors. They become angry, hungry spirits.
Uncle Preston told me that when my mom was born, he thought his plenary life had been annihilated, but I had to demonstrate to him that if she hadn 't come then I would have never come and our friendship would be nonexistent. My uncle had a lot of medical problems he was even in a wheelchair, but he never let that get in the way of having fun and going to church and everything else that he enjoyed. He taught my cousins and I a lot of things. He taught us to never give up even when you 're told to. We were always focused on everything he said.
After that, all depend on the taste of your father/spouse, style and your imagination. I grew up with a father who always points out that there is no need for gift on special days. He always stated,‘’If someone is special for you, he/she is always special, you don't need a special day to make him/her happy‘’. However, I decided to surprise my father by preparing a package for him that would probably embarrass him. Getting inspired by the gift package I prepared for my dad, I prepared a small TOP 5 list for children who are thinking about what to get, and for mothers who would cooperate with them for this purpose.
As I say I may not be an academic yet I continue to fight each day because I know that when I look back you have always been right behind me every step of the way, I can't begin to thank you enough. Further more, I promise to you as my grandparents that I will be the best man that I can possibly be, one day I'll become a great husband, one day a great father, one day like yourselves a great grandfather together alongside a great grandmother to hand down your wisdom and teachings that I hold forever close to my heart. I love you both ever so