Here I referred as men and women, it mostly represent the actual gender. Sometimes it gets vice-versa like whoever speaks or communicates like I have mentioned earlier, then they will come under that category. Thus I want to conclude my essay by saying our society plays a major role in making the mind of men and women to think in a particular way and if they try to change their view , then they are made fun of their ideas instead of thinking why only few changes when everyone goes in a single way. It’s not necessary to follow the society when you are having your own view and know the way to
Socio-linguist Deborah Tannen demonstrates how men and women communicate differently in her essay “Sex, Lies and Conversation: Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?” In her observations of communication styles, she discusses the way in which men and women communicate leads them to conflict because they have different understanding of their partners’ role. She also explains male and female communication differences not only cause ineffective conversation, but also push couples into a dilemma in their relationship; however, as men and women better understand the differences, their relationship improves. In the first part of her essay, Tannen discusses men and women do not have enough effective communication, which damages their marriage. Tannen illustrates a small talk that gathers men and women. During chatting, one woman is quiet, but her husband is talkative.
“The Politics of Muscle,” an essay written by Gloria Steinem, is successful in effectively comparing and contrasting how society's standards implies that there is a difference in strength between men and women. Through the use of different rhetorical claims such as pathos, ethos, and logos, as well as a great deal of subjective and objective claims, Steinem establishes credibility which allows her to create a well-crafted essay. Although, the essay can be perceived as biased since it does not include a great deal of information on the perception of strength on men, its intended audience is women therefore, that aspect does not affect the overall quality of Steinem’s writing. In fact, it only strengthens it considering she expects her audience to share the same opinions and feelings as her. These reasons explain why overall, Steinem does a very good job of persuading the reader to think differently about the perception of women’s strength.
In accordance, Holmes (1995) explains also the way language is used by males is different from that of females : Most women enjoy talking and regard talking as an important means of keeping in touch, especially with friends and intimates. They use language to establish, nurture and develop personal relationships. Men tend to see language more as a tool for obtaining and conveying information (p.2). Moreover, men and women tend to use offensive language differently in a mixed _company.This is reiterated by Coates (2004), who mentions Gomm’s research (1981) in her book which shows that “ both men and women swear more in the company of their own sex and male usage of swear words in particular drops dramatically in a mixed_ sex conversations ” (p.97). In general, males use weaker expletives in the presence of females and they tend to use them sometimes as a strategy to dominate during mixed_gender interaction.
Men normally use this reason as their only reason to communicate and use the least number of words to make a point. Gray (2002) argues that “the big difference between men and women is that men primarily use language to convey content, while women may be using words for other reasons as well” (p 28). Talking to make a point like Tannen’s report talk is straight to the point and uses facts and logic. The second reason to talk according to Gray is talk to give and receive emotional support. Women use this reason to communicate
Body Language: How to read others’ thoughts by their gestures is a multimodal text written by Allan Pease. Pease wrote this book in the 1980’s during a time when more women were joining the workforce and the book is described as a “self-help” book. The purpose of this book is to inform the reader on the subconsciousness nature of their gestures, but Pease uses the book as a way to clarify the contrast between the man and the woman. I believe that this book is more directed towards the male audience as it focuses primarily on gestures more associated with men and often uses images of men when demonstrating the gestures. (formal).
In her article “The Power of Talk” Tannen states “Women and men tend to have different habitual ways of saying what they mean, and conversations between them can be like cross-cultural communication: you can’t assume that the other person means what you would mean if you said the same thing in the same way”. In other words, the way of expressing ideas for men and women can be so different that it is comparable to cross-cultural communication. For example man are usually straightforward when telling their thoughts, while women often talk with hints and expect man to understand what they mean. The comedy “White Chicks” is about FBI agent brothers Marcus and Kevin who were assigned to escort celebrity sisters to Hamptons, where they should be
Women are perceived to be mostly nurses then surgeons. Or in a workplace setting, when women use more of a assertive, confident tone, they are called pushy or bossy. But when men use that kind of tone they are seen as a leader. Brining the idea that women should be obedient and let men take the role. Sexual orientation microaggression example would be people saying “gay” to their friends (Gonzalez, 2015).
When a man showed flattery to a woman, he had to show it with a certain dignity and elegance. . A book called The Dignity of Manners for Men in the eighteenth century mentioned the behaviors the between men and women by stating, “ Revolutionary-era conduct writers did not think of the relationship between women and men the same way they thought of the relationships between class and age inferiors and superiors. Very little of their fairly plentiful advice to women about encounters with men conformed to the standard suggestions for proper behavior with superiors” (Hemphill 108). The statement proves that behavior between sexes, especially higher social classes meant a certain behavior was expected toward women from men in superior class.
Though men are entering into what was a predominately female occupation, they are measuring their patient interaction off of a feminine standard/scale? We can find the same standard in waiting professions. It is pointed out that many associate waiting with the majority in this field being female, and male wait staff are looked at differently and placed on the same feminine scale. One thing I want to critique though, with the new age of different sexual cultures unveiling, we must understand that these specific ideations no longer describe us in these occupational settings. First, we must do away with phrases such as: male nurse, female waiter, etc.
Socio-linguist Deborah Tannen illustrates that communication differences between men and women in her article “Sex, Lies and Conversation: Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other.” Within men and women desire different expectation, they fulfill their roles in certain way. Tannen reveals male and female communication differences are a frustrated problem, which not only causes ineffective conversation, but also pushes couples into a dilemma in their relationship. However, once men and women understand the differences, their relationship improves. In the first part of her essay, Tannen discovers “lack of communication” damage marriage. Tannen opens up her essay with a story about a small talk that gathers men and women.