Wrong Snap Judgement By Heather Dubrow

Heather Dubrow once expressed, “It’s very easy to listen to one comment and make a snap judgment.” Upon first hearing this while sitting on my couch on a gloomy Saturday morning, it instantly had me thinking, and I was not fond of it because it struck deep reminding me of when I made a wrong snap judgment. Nine years ago when my mom, and dad gathered my sisters and me in the family room, and solemnly expressed their love for us three kids, while explaining how they have to get a divorce. My immediate first question was, “Do you guys still love each other.” To which they explained that they did, however, they were not meant to be together anymore, but that they still had a love for one another. Fast forward around six months later when my father introduced his co-worker

Now she is in a relationship with my father! My sisters and I immediately felt a rush of emotions, confusion, happiness, sadness, every emotion we could feel. Later that day when my dad brought us back to our mom's house we immediately explained to her what we just found out. Upon our emotionally rushed explanation, my mother was upset almost angry and, we asked her why she was so upset? I mean why would she be, he was happy with her. After she explained to us in the nicest way possible that my father had an affair with this woman and that she was no good, we fed into my mother's anger taking it upon ourselves to be angry too. I felt like I needed to hate this new woman in my father's life. I mean, after all, this is the woman who split my family apart, right? I spent the next three years of my life loathing this woman, all the time spent hating her while trying to keep a good relationship with my mother and father made me absolutely miserable. After years of being miserable and angry I decided to give the ‘evil’ woman a chance, I sat down and I talked to her and I learned that she was not, in fact, a terrible