This is one of her fears, not to be accepted by the American society, because that means she will never leave behind her parents` tradition, a tradition that she does not respect or desire for her. Second of all, she is in disagreement with her Chinese upbringing. She feels as if she does not belong there, that she is the black ship of the family: ``I thought every house had to have its crazy woman or crazy girl, every village its idiot. Who would be it at our house? Probably me.
Rayona feels that Ida does not care about her well-being and prefers to not have the responsibility of watching over her. Rayona yearns for Ida’s affection and love. Rayona loses hope in her family relationship with Ida as she expresses a bitter feeling of being neglected. This lack of trust caused by the unknown information of Rayona shows these secrets are amplified by how they are kept. Ida choosing to not tell Rayona more about herself and spending time with her creates a gap in their relationship.
2) So, Mathilde would rather not be around or visit her good friend because when she comes home she feels sorry for herself for she does not have all the things her friend does. When she does this, she is not only affecting herself, she is affecting her husband, and her friend. Her friend does not get to spend time with her anymore, and her husband has to deal with her bad mood. In conclusion, Mathilde is a self- absorbed character that never learned her lesson. She makes multiple mistakes throughout the story, yet she blames them on other people.
Sally had a negative effect on Esperanza because she is jealous of her. They are the same age so Esperanza wants to be just like her at that time so she had nothing to work for. Alicia is the best role model for Esperanza because she is going to college so that she can get a good job and be successful. Marin is crazy about boys and is wild, she is a good role model because she teaches Esperanza how to have fun but she doesn’t teach her about more important things like getting a good job. Young people need to have role models to guide them to adulthood and so they have someone to look up to.
She didn’t share the same interests of fleeing and running away from the neighborhood. Instead she felt that she needed to first make herself a better life. By working hard at school, she believes that her hard work and success would lead her out of the neighborhood. All Alicia really wants is a better life than her mother had. She is a role model and a good friend to Esperanza, Esperanza confides her feelings of “un-belongingness” to her and teaches Esperanza that she has a responsibility to her home and her
“Knowing that she cannot improve herself well by following her family and society imprudently, Esperanza is well aware that she will be unable to manage to have her own home or freedom if she does exactly what others do” (Kalay). Having friends while going through puberty seems essential in a young girl’s life, but Esperanza does not feel affixed to the girls who she spends time with, intensifying her loneliness, which makes finding her own identity even harder. Just like Esperanza wants a “real” house of her own and a true identity, she also wishes for friends that she feels connected with. “Someday I will have a best friend all my own. One I can tell my secrets to.
Being stuck in the ways of life before, and having change could be difficult for many to take on. There were different kind women during this time. The new age kind of women and the more modest women. New age women were more about pushing the limits of being a women. The more modest women feared the new age women and what would happen to the morals.
She wanted to leave and she knew she could do it. She wanted to go to college, referring to the “bags of books and paper” emphasizing the need for a better educating, similar to that of Junior. Her community can’t hold her down. She knows that there will be no opportunities to come if she chooses to stay at home rather than to leave, and she picks to leave. She decides to “come back.
The kids and Anse violated her aloneness which she cherished. She did not view her children as her own but as Anse’s. To get revenge on him, she had an affair with Whitfield and ended up having Jewel. Her affair was not done in love though, for she did not believe in love. It was done out of her deep hatred for
I have had a very difficult time adjusting to college because I knew how to take advice about asking for help and not actually asking for help when I needed it. During my freshman year, this was a great problem and this resulted in me ending the year with a low GPA and losing my scholarship. The wake-up call came when my strong mother broke down after I told her I had lost my scholarship and that she had to pay out of pocket for me to attend an expensive institution. Although I could have dropped out and attended the community college near my home, my mother reminded me that this was my one and only shot at a college education. For the next two semesters, I worked hard and brought my GPA above a 3.0 which helped me regain my scholarship.