With marriage freely people have a chance to know each other better before marriage, understand their partners’ priority, and last but not the least they can marry with love. Many people would argue that youth make many mistake when they want to choose their life partner and it resulting in depression and lack of confidence. Moreover, they cannot trust their feelings any more. Or in an arranged marriage parents trusts the family they choose for their children so, it is good when parents choose their partners for them because they know their children. It is true that youth may find some of their experiences unpleasant and unsuccessful but, finally, they would find a suitable spouse and their experiences help them in their lives.
A marriage needed the support of two families, and as such, it must offer something of value to both sides. Those who are poor and at the bottom of the class ladder had little and expected even less so it is unlikely that they arranged marriages with the needs of the parents in mind, but the aristocrats and the upper classes did, and young girls were in no position to fight their parents even on something as important as the choice of a marriage partner. Over the years, there was an increase in women’s economic power and in their status in society, but a father’s right both in theory and in practice to choose at least the first husband of a daughter remained constant throughout the Republic and the Empire. Unlike mating which was polygamous, marriage in ancient Rome was monogamous in which a Roman citizen was only allowed to have one spouse at a time. This rule distinguished ancient Greek and Rome from other civilizations, in which first-class males typically had multiple wives.
In the Victorian Era, women are divided into two part, wealthy and poor classes. Because of the class status in the 19th century, marriages did not mix, so wealthy women would marriage with wealthy man. Wealthy women want to marry with wealthy man and take part in their husband's life and interests, like Mrs. Ingram. Generally,wealthy women did not know how to cook or clean properly because their servants took care of the daily chores. They spent their time wandering and reading book instead of doing houseworks.
These women did not work to sustain the families but rather stayed at home to take care of them. These days, however, roles have changed. Women have been granted equal opportunities as men in the society. The modern woman can work and sustain herself and the kids. This independence has allowed women to leave the unhappy marriage they are living in, and still provide for themselves and her kids, which has made the marriages lose their meanings.
Before the civil war women had somewhat of an education. During the civil war women had to find jobs or maybe even try and make their own job, because men had to fight and women never knew if they would see the again. Although women had jobs, their salaries and kinds of jobs were very limited. Most jobs wanted men to work and not women. In the nineteenth century education started becoming more available.
The pursuit of “the one” or “other half” often leads to unrealistic views of relationships as they automatically fill the void and make their lives complete. This poses a problem because an individual is already whole to begin with. They are enough and worth more than what they think. Among the top 3 reasons for divorce are lack of commitment, too much arguing and infidelity (Hawkins & Fackrell, 2009). Individuals who fall out of love or marriage question their worth as they were not good enough.
Men wouldn't let them do anything for they thought that it was a woman's job to stay home, have kids, take care of the house etc. Also to be part of society you couldn't have a job you just had to hold a post or a lady could volunteer her time for a worthy cause. The Nightingales were still new, but well known and they were wealthy. But to be a part of society they would have to have
That’s a lot of work for someone who doesn’t think their wife is sick, or doesn’t care about her. He had to pick up their whole life. He had to move his job and their new baby, not to mention, it was probably rough on Mrs. Gilman’s condition. Her condition is surely a little hard to handle, even being a doctor, but like any doctor he was trying to persuade and reassure his wife to not think of haunted houses and scary wallpaper. “Instead, she [was] to eat well, exercise in moderation, and rest as much as she [could]…” which is what any doctor would have recommended (Haney-Peritz 115).
In the very end of the story, Miss Leeson barely survived because she could not afford money to fulfill her needed; she was not able to buy desideratum or even food to feed herself. This story shows that women at that time who decided to be alone, without marry to a guy, could not be survival and her life would be misery because the job rate for women was so little. At that time women had to marry in order to survive in society. According to Dollar, Gatti (1999), “ there is less investment in women’s health than in men’s, legal rights of women in the economy and in marriage are weaker than men’s rights, and women have less political power”. Moreover the reason why women did not have a lot of job was because most of the societies were underestimate the ability of women.
In the 1930s, women did not have as many options for the workplace because men were preferred for most jobs because they knew they needed to support their families; although, employers also wanted to employ women because they did not have to pay them as much money. “You must do the things you think you cannot do.” said Eleanor Roosevelt (BrainyQuote).One always has to believe in themselves no matter what. Women today do not get paid less than men. It all depends on the job. So, as one can see, the world has changed quite a bit since the 1930s.