“Growing up happens when you start having things you look back on and wish you could change.” This quote by John Green shows that coming of age is a time for both discovery and regret which we all must take. Coming of age is when one evolves as a person and experiences a new perspective that impacts them. Lily from the book The Secret Life of Bees By Sue Monk Kidd. finds a new identity that doesn’t revolve around her father's actions and perception of her. Instead, she found a connection with her mother that opened her independence and bravery. Juliet from Romeo and Juliet By Shakespeare experiences love, specifically through romantic love. She shows a lot of emotion and loyalty to Romeo which impacts her as a person resulting in her own death. …show more content…
Finding a new identity increases greater self-awareness and has people recognize behavior types that end in different consequences. Throughout Secret Life of Bees By Sue Monk Kidd, Lily discovers her true identity once she left her isolated home and learned the true story of her mother. At the beginning of the book, Lily was described as immature, and naive, but curious. She wanted to know more about her mother and life beyond the peach stand but was constantly scolded for those aspirations. The memory of her mother's death haunted her and made her want to think of another possible truth. She took all the blame at a young age where it was hard to turn the page and move on from such a traumatized past. ‘“I’m staying here, I said. “I’m not leaving,” The words hung there, hard and gleaming. Like pearls, I’d been fashioning down inside my belly for weeks.’ This quote by Lily shows how she had become experienced. After everything she had endured with her Father and the countless times she’d been abused. She can now stand up for herself and not be afraid. Because of this, she will now live with …show more content…
In the beginning, Juliet was a shy innocent girl who always obeyed her parents. The quote by Lord Capulet, “My child is yet a stranger in the world, she hath not seen the charge of fourteen years. . ." shows how she was immature and not ready to endure all of the love she had with Romeo. However, Romeo brought passion and excitement into Juliet’s life. He challenged her to think beyond what her parents wanted. This ended in Juliet becoming more confident and her desires changed. “I will not marry yet, and, when I do, I swear It shall be Romeo, whom you know I hate, Rather than Paris.” This quote shows Juliet refusing to marry Paris which is also her disobeying her parents. After this refusal, Juliet grows her independence and defiance of her family’s expectations. As she falls in love with Romeo these traits increase. Their passionate love and impulsive decision to savor their relationship ends in death. To add to this, Romeo and Juliet never fully matured because they just wanted to focus on being together forever. No matter what came in their way, their relationship was always the priority. To sum up, experiencing love changed Juliet by making her more independent and self-assured. Her love for Romeo helped her to better understand herself and her own emotions. At last, it gave her a sense of purpose and meaning in
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The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd is a novel about Lily, who runs away from home to Tiburon, after she and Rosaleen, her “stand-in mom” were arrested. Lily killed her mother at a young age, and she feels guilty about it. When Lily and Rosaleen are at Tiburon, Lily finds a picture of The Black Madonna at a store, which was the same picture that Lily’s mom had. This leads them to a pink house, where they meet August, June, and May. August is the oldest and is seen as the leader of the house. Before each chapter of the novel, there is a quote.
Lily arrives at the Boatwright sisters house and sees the statue of the black Mary for the first time. While she is viewing the black Madonna, she gets mixed feelings of hating herself and adoring herself and begins to feel guilt. “Everything about that smile said, Lily Owens, I know you down to the core. I felt she knew what a lying, murdering, hating person I really was. How I hated T. Ray, and the girls at school, but mostly myself for taking away my mother”(71).
”(Kidd 256). Lily is a very deep character who holds a lot of guilt, sadness, and hatred over herself for what happened to her and her mother. But as she grows more mature and finally learns the truth she knows she has to accept it for what it is. She's able to work it out herself and realize there is a place for her in the world. She never was able to accept who she was until
If it were not for T-Ray harshly revealing how her mother had left them, Lily never would have ended up at August’s house or developed into the stable and confident person she became. T-Ray’s brutality made Lily realize that she had to leave to save herself. In this moment she realizes her strength and independence could lead her to new opportunities. This proves to be a turning point in her life, and ultimately her growth as a young woman, as she ventures in hopes of finding something better. Similarly, near the end of the book, as August is telling Lily about her mother, Lily finds out that her mother had only married T-Ray because she was pregnant.
Lily remembers being very close to her mother, and Lily was only four years old when her mother died. Lily was really depressed and mad at herself because she knew that she was the reason that her mother died. This quote states that “Lily is sustained by her wit and latent strength of character but at the same time by a profound need to make sense of powerful and confusing memories concerning her mother, Deborah, who died when she was four years old”(Monk Kidd). Years later when she was working in the peach stand, T-Ray came out and told her that she didn’t kill her mother but that her mother ran away and abandoned her. Lily says that “I lay in bed and thought about dying and going to be with my mother in paradise.
Lastly, Lily finally builds up the courage to stand up to her father. She does this by saying, “I said I’m not leaving” (296). For Lily’s whole life, she was blamed for her mother’s death especially by her father. He is a terrible father to her because he mentally and physically abuses her, and makes her feel
Tired of lying to August, Lily decides to tell the truth to her, and find out about her mother, Deborah, hoping to hear exactly what she had pictured. As Lily unfolds the truth about her mother’s past, she becomes frustrated learning that she wasn’t up to her expectations. Lily wishes that her mother had “been smart enough, or loving enough, to realize everybody has burdens that crush them, only they don't give up their children” (278). Furious, she believes her mother is a blind and foolish person who doesn't know what love is. Hurt by the truth, Lily realizes that “once you know the truth, you can't ever go back and pick up your suitcase of lies.
Romeo and Juliet’s deaths are caused due to the scientific nature of love, and its ability to change someone as well as being young and reckless. Being in love can cause fully developed adults to forget who they are and what they stand for. As the author of Doc C states, “Romantic love is an obsession, it possesses you. You lose your sense of self.” (Doc C).
14) In this quote from the book at the very beginning one is able to see that Lily had this admiration and longing for her late mother and just wanted a sense of her to remember her by. Throughout the story one is able to see that as Lily comes to learn who her mother was and what she did she starts to create some sort of hatred towards her mother. The way she thinks about her mother changes as she comes to hear all the events that played out in her mother's life from a character named August who was important to Lily’s mother and Lily herself. “ “I guess one day it finally dawned on her: oh, yeah,
By the end, she found her voice and chose that her parents opinions were not her opinions. She decided that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with Romeo and she would risk her relationship with her family in order to do so. Juliet says, “Romeo, Romeo, wherefore art thou Romeo? Deny thy father and refuse thy name; Or if thou wilt not, be but sworn my love, And I’ll no longer be a Capulet.”
Her physical identity didn’t go through extreme change, but her mental view of it did. She wasn’t in a situation where she was capable of loving herself before she left, but later, she was, and it opened her up. Lily’s flower ‘bloomed’. She was able to be secure and confident in her physical appearance like she never was before, because of her newfound identity. ANother example of self-confidence and security as a result of finding identity is shown through the behavior of the bees, and the change in said behavior as Lily’s identity progresses.
She saw that having the support from other women encourages and comforts her. She experienced a love like no other. Lily begins to feel empowered. More empowered the she has ever felt with T.Ray. We watched her grow into a new person, with confidence and support from
Juliet tells Romeo, “How camest thou hither, tell me, and wherefore?/ The orchard walls are high and hard to climb,/ And the place death, considering who thou art,/ If any of my kinsmen find thee here (II.,ii, 62-65) Romeo risked his life for the person he loves, which shows a shift in maturity. “I would not for the world they saw thee here” (II., ii, 74). Juliet tells Romeo she wouldn’t let anything happen to him, which also shows a shift in maturity. The revenge, love, and secret marriage caused Romeo and Juliet to grow up quickly and become more of an adult and make more decisions on their own.