Losing a loved one is something no one wants, but that is exactly what happens to Kate Braestrup in her memoir “Here if You Need Me.” Braestrup’s husband, a state trooper, was on his way to work when a truck rammed into the driver’s side of his cruiser. Kate loved her husband so much that in honor of him she decided to pursue his dream to be in the ministry and ended up as the chaplain for the Maine (game) Warden Service. “Here if You Need Me,” by Kate Braestrup uses her grief, supportiveness, and affection to show that awful things happen for a reason and life will be okay in the end. As soon as Braestrup found out about her husband, naturally, she went into a state of grief. The book shows us how she gets over that grief and finds joy in …show more content…
The main point of her book is that bad things happen to people, but there is always someone there to help them get over the bad things whether it be God, a chaplain, or a close friend. She implies this in many of the cases she has been to, including her own. “Mrs. Levesque will put me to use as witness, as crutch, as Kleenex, as proxy for Jean-Pierre-a temporary substitute for all the neighbors, church folk, friends, and family members who will soon come bursting through her door to share her grief” (96). It is shown here that Braestrup comforts a woman as she mourns over her lost husband. Someone was there to hold her and even when Braestrup leaves, more people will come to hold and comfort her. “I was no longer a stranger-I had held him in my arms, had his snot on my lapels-so he spoke frankly” (110). Braestrup is talking to a brother who just lost his sister due to her depression. She was there for him when he broke down, the moment he needed someone to hold him; if she had not been there, he would not have been able to live peacefully knowing that his sister was in a bad …show more content…
She cares for her children with all her heart, supports the people she works with, and comforts the people who have lost family. “‘I’m not really here to keep you from freaking out,’ or grieve or laugh or suffer or sing. It is a ministry of presence. It is showing up with a loving heart. And it is really, really cool” (119). This shows that Braestrup feels good helping people, even if she the person is pouring their hearts out to her and all she does is listen, she is helping. “’ I think one reason I like working with crisis and death is that all the complicated and complicating tools of our natal tribe-the intellect, rational analysis, the all-pervasive irony-all these are useless…’” (204). What Braestrup means here is that when she is at a case, things like education and money do not matter and all that does is the love a person has for their loved ones. This shows that she has affection, because she enjoys watching other people care for each
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She is considered an outcast. This is because everyone believes she called the police on a party in the summer. Little do they know she was sexually assaulted by a fellow classmate Andy Evans . This books message is that nothing is hopeless. Good things can come out of a bad situation.
“ ‘You didn’t have to make Ben die,’ I muttered before I began to cry.” In the novel The Red Kayak by Priscilla Cummings, Brady, the protagonist, uses many different methods for coping with the challenges he faced such as the death of Ben DiAngelo. Some of the times where the reader saw how Brady coped with the intense situations he encountered were after the accident, when he discovered what J.T. and Digger did, and during the separation among his friends. The first time the way Brady’s coping method was shown was after he discovered Ben’s death when Brady was stressed out. Brady blamed himself for what happened to Ben, and he kept all of his feelings boiling up inside.
I was interested to see how she coped with life after a child’s death. But I feel like I didn’t get a very personal account. The story read more like a written statement than an insightful and reflective interpretation of what happened. Bobbi Gilbert takes you through the series of events paragraph by paragraph, day by day, citing exactly what transpired. This way of writing removed me from the story and I never felt connected to the family the way I would have hoped.
The book exemplifies this by sharing how people were taunted by the loss of family members. An example of this is seen when a woman named Mrs. Schachter lost half of her family and the way in which she coped with it. The original text shares,
And stopped her from playing piano for a while. But after feeling joyful and confident in the end of the book, she played the piano again. This shows that know matter what happens, you can always overcome it. Just like Billie Jo did in the book.
The fact that she can walk away from all those terrible experiences with love for her parents is incredible. Another thing I loved about this book is how it represents her parents, with all their faults, and their poor mentality, at its worst, without anger, or really any judgment, just with the love. If she had been bitter in her description it would not have been as amazing. This memoir was written with forgiveness making me respect her for not only surviving such a strange childhood to become a successful, but for being able to view her past with
She explains how happy, but conflicted because her parents refuse money from her and live as homeless people. She writes the memoir to work through her feelings and share’s her story. Some topics that I could identify in the text are: poverty, teenage pregnancy and child rights. The issue of poverty is portrayed from the beginning of the book to the end.
When people are traumatized by an event they are pushed to experience the five stages of grief. The “Gospel”, by Philip Levine and “the boy detective loses love”, by Sam Sax both use characters that are going through one of the stages of grief. Levine and Sax both explain the thoughts and process of what a person thinks when they go through these stages with imagery. Levine uses symbolism, a sad tone, and a set setting in “Gospel” to illustrate that grieving takes you into a depth of thoughts. Sax uses anaphoras, an aggressive tone, and an ambiguous setting to convey that grieving takes you into a tunnel of anger and rage.
To reassure herself that God is there for her instead, in her final moments Granny thinks: "God, give me a sign! For the second time there was no sign. Again no bridegroom and the priest in the house. She could not remember any other sorrow because this grief wiped them all away. Oh no, there's nothing more cruel than this—I'll never forgive it.
As a patient who was paralyzed for months, Mrs. Baier relied on others daily. She expressed how team members who treated her without compassion made her stay more difficult in the ICU; however, those who expressed compassion and sympathy made the stay more
The book revolves around Lisa and her family's grieving process and how they cope with Jimmy's loss. Dealing with the loss of a loved one can be a challenging experience, and also dealing with it while sticking to your roots and traditions in modern society can be difficult. When Lisa first learns about Jimmy's disappearance, she experiences a lot of emotions, which include shock, disbelief, and confusion. She could not stop thinking about their childhood, the moments they shared, and the love and laughter that filled their home. Lisamarie’s grief affected her everyday life and really took a beating on her well-being and her identity: “Everything blurred and slid together, and I shook and felt like I was going to throw up” (122).
The story begins with Mrs. Mallard getting the news that her husband had died in a terrible train accident. At first Mrs. Mallard was racked with grief for the loss of her husband. As the story progresses, Mrs. Mallard says, “There was something coming to her and she was waiting for it, fearfully. What was it? She did not know.”
People are tired, weak, and sick, and they need a strong young girl to help take care of them. She has proven her helpfulness in a lot of different events throughout the novel. For instance, she helped take care of her mother who fell ill early into the story. She took care of her the best she could, all by herself. Evidence in the text states,” I took two extra clothes press and hurried upstairs to watch over Mother...