Growing Up In A Strong Family

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Family is one of the most important parts of life growing up. A strong family is what growing children need to be successful and have a bright future. Growing up in a family that is weak, does not have strong family ties and is violent leads to problems for the children and the parents, which is seen in Hillbilly Elegy and Evicted. Violence in families can affect children greatly, it can lead to second generations of poor communication between spouses and can be overall unhealthy for those living in that environment. J.D. Vance is immensely affected by his mother 's violent outbursts and multiple relationships. From the start J.D.’s mother was in and out of relationships and marriages, her second husband was Vance’s biological father, but in…show more content…
When fighting they would yell at the top of their lungs and even got physical when Larraine bloodied Glen 's face with a phone. This was normal however because the next day they would apologize and be back to their brutal love as Desmond described it (118). Their yelling grew so loud that they were even evicted from their homes. Relationships pair with violence and this affects not only those in the relationships, but those around it. Parents that aggressively fight, portray an unhealthy affiliation with their spouses and this sets a bad example for others. Violent parents or violent relationships cause pain to those near and those in the relationship. Violence is seen in both books, but is greatly touched on in Hillbilly Elegy by J.D. Vance. Since unhealthy parent relationships happen when a child is young, the connection could be made that the people in Evicted, had violent parents and is a cause for their situations they are in when Desmond writes their…show more content…
Vance wrote a book about his life, a lot of it being influenced by his mother’s ations, which was seen with his health, mentally and physically, and his drop in education in high school. The lives of those in Evicted, are a result of family violence. Crystal Mayberry grew up in a family that did not care about her or her education and she dropped out of school. If she was to examine her ACEs she would have a multitude that led her to where she was in. Rural or Urban does not matter in the case of family violence and what it brings. Vance and Desmond would both agree that a weak family, full of violent and uncaring parents leads to a life of struggle and poverty for the children and those in the actual
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