Some may think that it is Friar´s fault, for making the plan to get Romeo and Juliet married. And it can also be said that it is Benvolio 's who helped Romeo meet Juliet by taking him to the party. However, this is not true because it is Romeo who follows through these plans or advises to make these plans due to his unwise decisions. Afterall, he asked Friar to marry them ¨I’ll tell thee as we pass, but this I pray: That thou consent to marry us today¨ (Shakespeare 2.3.63-64). He requests Friar to get them married while Friar is not happy with him falling in love with another person all of a sudden.
Second, he arranged Juliet’s fake death. Third he didn’t get the note to Romeo fast enough. Friar Lawrence is the most to blame for the events that occur in Romeo and Juliet because, yes R&J came up with the idea of marriage, it was the friar that followed through with it, and married them. If the Friar had not agreed to marry them, then who knows what would have happened. They could have run away and gotten married somewhere else where they could have lived happy and in peace, or they could have just not gotten married and live completely different lives.
Romeo and Juliet want to get married so Romeo goes to Friar Laurence. “Then plainly know my heart's dear love is set on the fair daughter of the rich Capulet (2.3.57-58).” Romeo and Juliet love each other a lot so they choose to get married without thinking of the consequences. Even some of the smarter people in Verona make huge mistakes. Even the friar who gives the advice doesn't think before he makes his decision. Maybe he should have listened to his own advice.“ till holy church incorporate two in one (2.6.37).” Friar makes them happily married without thinking what will happen to him.
Perhaps the character who played this biggest part in the tragedy was Lord Capulet, Juliet's father. There are several reasons why Lord Capulet is to be blamed for the deaths of Romeo and Juliet. His decision to force Juliet to get married, his contribution of the family feud, and his decision to change the day of the marriage. The main reason I think Lord Capulet is to blame is because he forced Juliet to get married. Him forcing Juliet to get married only left Juliet two choices and that was to either run away or get married, and of course we all know that her getting marred to anyone but Romeo wasn't an option.
Fate is just a way to be rude to someone with a reasoning behind it. The family feud is also responsible for the deaths of Romeo and Juliet. Juliet struggles with knowing the difference between loving Romeo and that he is an enemy to her family. Juliet’s family wanted Juliet to marry Paris so she had to hide her love for Romeo; knowing her parents weren’t going to be supportive for her relationship with Romeo. If there was not a family feud Romeo and Juliet wouldn’t have to hide there love for each other.
It has been argued, that the major reasons for Romeo and Juliet’s deaths are the involvement of Friar Lawrence, fate and foolishness. Their love ended early without much thought by either character. Juliet’s condition was not communicated in time to Romeo by Friar Lawrence, and Lawrence’s fail to inform Romeo only made the situation worse. Lawrence’s suspicions of Romeo’s feelings, and his decision to reaction to Romeo and Juliet’s pleas with irrational thought put the couple in danger. These reasons should be considered responsible for the death of the star-crossed
Go, get thee hence, for I will not away. [Exit Friar Laurence] (5.3.155-160) Friar Laurence is the most to blame as he secretly marries the lovers, he hides Romeo, and he provides Juliet with the sleeping potion; moreover, he leaves the emotionally vulnerable Juliet when he could have forced her out of the tomb with him. His failure to speak with the parents and seek to ameliorate their hatred and his other actions go completely against his religious vows as well as being unconscionable. When Juliet 's father insisted that Juliet marry Paris, she could have been honest and told him why she could not marry Paris; instead, she beats around the bush and asks to delay the marriage instead. Romeo, when he saw Juliet in the tomb, did not have to take the potion.
The friar should be pardoned because he told Romeo to take it slow and he says that he will marry them because it might end the feud. The nurse should be punished because she helped the two people who were not supposed to be together stay together. She also knew about them and did not tell anybody. Old Capulet should be punished because he forced Juliet to marry Paris and threatened to disown her. This put a lot of pressure on Juliet to find a way to not marry Paris.
Everything from that point on did not go well at all. Being that Friar also married the couple secretly is also why he should be punished. Friar should be punished because if he had asked for permission to marry the couple none of this would have happened. Juliet’s parents may have been more understanding then making her marry Count Paris. Friar should have also had a better plan than what had happened with the vial he gave Juliet.
Friar Lawrence was the man who married Romeo and Juliet, but he also made the sleeping potion for Juliet. Both of these topics related to the negligent decisions of Friar. To marry the two was the first idea in Friar Laurence 's mind. Friar agreeing to marry the couple without family consent was the first of terrible decisions. Romeo and Juliet came knocking on Friar’s doorstep, ready to get married.