Do you know anyone who is going through depression? Do you know anyone who wants to commit suicide? Have you ever thought that there is a way they can get better from depression? " Tears Of A Tiger" By Sharon M Draper, shows us the perspective of a teenage boy named Andy after a life-changing incident happened. The author portrays the story of how Andy turns away from friends and family because of the incident that caused him to have depression.
Living as a Chinese-American, the narrator had to take on American attributes in order to be accepted -- for example, while normal Chinese women spoke with strong and assertive voices, the narrator adopted a whisper in order to appear “American-feminine. ”(1) As a result, however, her shy demeanor caused her to be an unpopular outcast. She saw herself in another Chinese-American girl at her school, as they had certain, negative similarities. “I hated the younger sister, the quiet one.
Dear Mrs. Amy Chua, As an experienced (seasoned) mother of four, having recently read an excerpt from your book “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” I unconditionally disagree with your perspective on this idea. Your ideal parenting method is unacceptable as it damages self-esteem, confidence, and creativity. It truly scares me to think that the content of your article may persuade amateur parents to mimic you and your “tactics”, which would be an absolutely tragic plummet in parenting standards, sending us back to the 1900s. I understand that you believe that the best way to raise a child is through an intense regimen consisting of limited leisure and long hours of study. However, you must recognize that there is much more to childhood than this.
American lawyer and author, Amy Chua in her essay, “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior”, compares and contrast the stereotypical success of Chinese children versus the children of Western. 70% of Western mothers said that “stressing academic success is not good for children”, while roughly 0% of the Chinese mothers felt the same way. Chua’s purpose is to the point that Chinese children repay their parents by obeying them and making them proud, but Western parents don’t have the same view of children being permanently indebted to their parents. She adopts a formal tone in order to explain Chinese children’s success, in her intended audience, Chinese parents. Chua achieves her purpose through the use of anecdote and selection of details.
Kieu Tran’s solemn tone reflects on the hardships that Americanization has caused Asians through the context of “the stereotype that Asian parents always hit their children” and how “Western culture and customs have destroyed the Vietnamese family structure”. Tran expresses how Americanization has given asian children more freedom, but in turn it has devastated the structure of a close-knit family. The U.S. is the land of the free, where people are protected by the law, and hitting your children is unjust. However, in asian culture, it is natural for a child to be reprimanded through spanking, hitting, or other forms of punishment. It ensures that children of asian parents will try their best to not make the same mistake again.
The patriarchal mindset in China for thousands of years has remained and intensified in the Tang and Song eras. In all social classes, the household was run by a patriarch and the role was passed on to the eldest son. The burden of providing for the family and making all the decisions remained in the hands of men whereas women had the burden of becoming a homemaker and mother, and particularly the bearer of sons to continue to the patrilineal family line. Such gender roles were reinforced by neo-Confucian ideals which promoted the male hierarchy. Specifically, upper-class women had freedom to pursue different activities and even professions beyond homemaking.
Excerpts from ”The Violin”taken from the memoir “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom”, written by Amy Chua, and “Jing-Mei-Woo” taken from the novel “The Joy Luck Club”, written by Amy Chua, both differ in tone and mother-daughter relationships .In the memoir, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom”, Chua and Lulu seem to be much calmer when confronting problems, abstaining from physical confrontation and using a more verbal approach. While in Tan’s novel, Tan and her mother’s relationship is strained and focused on hostility . Chua opens her memoir with her recalling techniques on how to properly play the violin.
As a side note, it is important to realize that college to the Chinese community is essential; in order to create honor within your family, you must pass a series of intensive testing and attend university. Unfortunately, for Joy Zhou, the odds were stacked against her, and she was unable to meet the passing requirement. She immediately breaks into a series of ethos driven statements saying, “I failed my parents and myself. After that, I lost all confidence in myself.” In such a dark and devastated mindset, pulling together all the strength left in her heart, Zhou embarks on a journey to America with her mind set on opportunity.
How Different Culture Influences Parents’ Attitude towards Puppy Love In the book Not Under My Roof, Amy Schalet gives her interesting insights into the differences between parents-teenagers relationships with regards to teenagers’ sexuality. After reading this book, I find out that although American and Dutch parents have different attitudes towards teenage sex, both parents accept and even encourage their kids, who are still in high school, to have a boyfriend/girlfriend. This fact reminds me of the parents from China, who would extremely disagree with their children get involved in a relationship at such a young age.
Lenora Chu’s book, "Little Soldiers: An American Boy, A Chinese School, And The Global Race To Achieve," is about the differences between American and Chinese school systems. Chu and her husband moved to China from America and sent their son to an elite academy in Shanghai. Chu noticed that the Chinese educational system focuses children putting effort into every subject and teachers install a fear into children about completing tasks to the best of their ability. The Chinese used extreme methods to emphasize the importance of doing schoolwork perfectly and respecting teachers who use extreme measures. While the American educational system focuses on children’s talents and encouraging them to keep working instead of using force.
The article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” was written in 2011 by Amy Chua, who is a professor at Yale Law School in the United States of America. The article follows significant themes such as the upbringing of children and perfectionism. In the article, the author, Amy Chua, explains the differences between the upbringing of children by respectively Chinese parents and Western parents.
Connection to self; Tears of a Tiger The book Tears of a Tiger by Sharron Draper was a book of excitement, sadness, and anger all at the same time. The book was about a high school basketball team. The team had a star by the name of Robert Washington, Washington was killed in a car crash where he and his fellow teammates were in. All of the guys in the car was injured no one except for Robert Washington was killed.
A study investigated this exact scenario by comparing the parenting attitudes of Asian Indian mothers living in the United States with those living in India in a pool of fifty-seven mothers, 23 of which were living in the United, and 34 living in India (JAMBUNATHAN et al., 2016). The results from this study showed Asian Indian immigrant parents adopted an authoritative parenting style. This is because they believed by maintaining an authoritarian parenting style in the United States, they may be causing their child to accrue social disabilities associated with such parenting style. Also, the parents found European American parenting style balanced their traditional cultural expectations and values with the demands of the new, majority
As many Chinese-Americans grew up in the 1960’s, one women described it best in her multiple literary works. Bestselling, Chinse-American writer, Amy Tan in her autobiographic essay, “Fish Cheeks”, illustrates her humiliating experience at a Christmas Eve dinner at the age of fourteen. Tan’s purpose is to interpret the idea of how her mother cared for Tan deeply and wanted her to be proud of her Chinese heritage and family. She adopts a nostalgic tone in order to engage relatable thoughts and feelings in her adult readers. Even decades after the essay had been written, readers can still relate to the embarrassing situation that Tan had to face.
With the aim of understanding the effects of parenting styles on social behaviour of children, I have studied many researches and realised that parenting style has a major role in a child’s social behavioural development. Parenting style is over all style or example we took from our parents in bringing up one's children instead of a particular choice taken at a particular circumstance. This pattern develops the personality of the child. There are two fundamental components of parenting style, one is responsiveness that is the amount you're willing to give freedom to your child and the other is demanding that is the way strict you are or dutifulness you require.
