Forgiveness is all about finding closure, making peace, and helping oneself. Finding closure after forgiving someone who has hurt who is a rough thing to do but it can help someone move on. An example of not finding closure in terms of a relationship is when
We are humans and a majority of us have dealt with heartache, pain, broken promises, along with the joyous things like dreams, aspirations, and successful futures. Humans mess up and make mistakes, but we have to remember that forgiveness is a very prestigious and powerful thing. Forgiveness affects people’s lives in positive ways through the hardships, difficulties, and struggles of life. There comes a time when forgiveness should not be available to some individuals. However, this depends on the past situations that have occurred in your life as well as other individuals.
When I was younger, my parents taught me the difference between forgiving and forgetting. I believe that one can forgive without forgetting. When thinking about forgiveness, the first thing that comes to mind is the quote, “Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me”. Do me wrong the first time and I will forgive you, however, I will not forget what you did so that you cannot fool me again.
Everyone has heard the saying “nobody is perfect” and it is true we are all humans, we all make mistakes sometimes, but to what extent does someone stop forgiving when they have endured all the hardship a person gives them after they have been forgiven several times. There is a certain point in life when some people do not deserve to be forgiven because every time that person is forgiven, that person takes advantage it because that person knows they will be forgiven. There is one very prominent character in a story who fits the reason of why some people do not deserve forgiveness, especially when they've been given multiple chances to do the right thing. That person is Amir from the book the Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini.
One thought a person must look at to decide what course of action to take is why people choose forgiveness. A person might decide on forgiveness because they want to set themselves free from bitterness. Lindgaard explains, "Not forgiving someone is the equivalent of
The shared themes of "The Interlopers" and "To Forgive is Divine" is holding a grudge can hurt more than it helps, and forgiveness can allow wounds to heal and hatred to disappear. In the article "To Forgive is Divine," the author believes that "forgiveness frees you-it frees you to live without the weight of that anger and resentment. " The story "The Interlopers" Ulrich and Georg "...each prayed that misfortune might fall on the other" their hatred towards each other lead to each others death. This shows that holding a grudge can keep you from moving on with your life and hurt you in the end, but if you forgive you can move on and be
Forgive, not because they deserve forgives, but because you deserve peace. It’s not easy to stop blaming someone’s fault, especially for someone who do wrong to us. In the book The Sunflower written by Simon Wiesenthal, a survivor of the Holocaust during World War II, he described his conflict with Karl, a dying Nazi soldier who killed many innocent Jews and begging for forgiveness for his outrageous crime at the end of his life. At the end of this sad and tragic episode, Simon did not response to Karl’s request directly; instead he left us a tough question: “What should you have done?” Based on what Karl had done during World War II and his repentance, each person might have their own point of view about where should we draw the line of forgiveness.
Forgiveness “We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies” (Martin Luther King, Jr.). Why is it strenuous to forgive?
Forgiving someone is one of the best things you could do. However, for you to forgive someone, you must accept what has happened and be ready to move on. Forgiving someone gives them an opportunity to redeem themselves, and allows them to move on as well. By accepting the past, you might find reasoning within the mistakes of the others, and give you as better understanding of how you should act. Forgiveness is a large part of The First Stone, and within the story is a valuable lesson:
Christ said, “Forgive your enemies and pray for them” (Hillenbrand 405). Through this forgiveness, Louie was able to accept what had happened to him in the POW camps, and forgive his most prominent oppressor. For many people, forgiveness is a major part to a happy, peaceful life. Without forgiveness, many people would dwell on specific details in their life, and would not be able to move on.
What is forgiveness? Forgiveness can be seen from two different perspectives: the victim and the perpetrator. Victims ask themselves: When should I forgive? If I forgive, will I be frailer or stronger? On the other hand, offenders ask themselves: Will asking for forgiveness make me weaker?
The overall score received for the Heartland Forgiveness Scale (HFS) was compared with the overall score for the Mental Health Continuum Scale (MHC), State-Trait Anxiety Inventory (STAI), State-Trait Depression Inventory (STDI) and Positive Relations with Others (PRWO). Table 1: Coefficients of Correlation between Forgiveness, Positive Mental Health, Trait Anxiety, Trait Depression and Positive Relations with Others Positive Mental Health Trait Anxiety Trait Depression Positive Relations with Others Forgiveness r r r
The “perpetrator” then reflects on their comment and feels guilty for it then transforms their attitude so they aren’t the “bad guy” anymore. I believe that forgiveness allows the perpetrator a chance for inner transformation and “to escape the whirlpool of wrongdoing” (Matthieu Ricard- 236)that they may feel caught
What Would I do? There are many definitions of forgiveness. The dictionary defines forgiveness as “The disposition or willingness to forgive.” I agree with that, but I believe that forgiveness also lies in the hands of the victim and varies based on the crime.
It’s only a fortunate few who are given the chance to atone for their sins. Committed sins create problem between friend, family and others. Forgiveness is not an easy thing to do when things have gone extremely wrong. “To err is human, to forgive divine” (Charu. B) That means committing errors is human, to forgive is divine.