The Marital Indecision Cycle

Many couples do not talk openly about the matters of sex and romance, even today. This failure of communication leads to barriers and build walls ultimately it will bear upon the relationship in a negative way. If the woman does not communicate her likes and her dislikes, or her needs she will feel disrespected. A man who does not convey his desire he will be unsatisfied because he feels that his partner does not want to satisfy his needs.

However, many people think that with approval respect follows, and that’s not how it turns out in many cases. Society has made people believe that by being materialistic or by trying to compete with one another approval will eventually come. Even though this is what people may think, they sometimes forget that by trying to accomplish something they’re not, respect is lost tremendously in the process. I have never been the type to take offense or worry about what people have to say about me because I’ve always put myself and what matters first, you can call it selfish, but that’s how things get accomplished. Whether it has been helping those who are less fortunate, successfully accomplishing an educational goal, or just by being accepted for who I am, it has brought me self acceptance.

We have all at one point or another have been the person to sabotage a relationship, or on the receiving end of it–and we know that it doesn 't feel good. Good or bad most of people either don 't know how to articulate their feelings, or they have a hard time articulating how they feel about another person, especially to the person that they care about. Two people can really care about each other, but because one or both isn’t acting on those feelings the relationship may never have a chance to reach its greatest potential. Since most of us don’t know how to handle or express our feelings when we’re in love, many times we miss out on the wonderful experience that a loving relationship can be. As a rule most of us we’re not taught that love can be complicated, messy and painful, but love can also be exhilarating, wonderful and fulfilling.The main thing that someone should 've taught us was that whether

Often the abusive partner comes on strongly and quickly giving the partner lots of attention. Then, as time goes by, the attention gets more persistent. Isolation begins. "If you love me, you don 't need anyone else" is a message that the abuser states quite clearly, manipulating the other partner to spend less and less time with friends and family, while simultaneously eroding the support system of the victim. Incidents of abuse follow the same cycle as domestic violence.

It may not be able to address Mei Lin’s marital issues to a certain extent. Mei Lin came to the therapy presented with an issue regarding her relationship with her husband. Although Mei Lin has difficulties of her own, however, the issue of her marriage that she was presented with, may also be directly related to her husband. If this is the case, an approach that able to works on couple relationship may be of benefit. Another limitation of using PP for the case study is that the therapist may be trapped in over-relating the issues to the past.

Knapp proves that love at first sight is something but is not exactly true love. You can be attracted to a person physically in stage initiating (pg.284) and go through the experimenting stage (pg.285). Nevertheless, by the stage of intensifying (pg.285) finding that the relationship you had has begun to fizzle out because it has become less emotional. If a couple is able to make past these three stages they begin to integrate (pg.286) as a couple, this is where they find strength. A couple would begin to give up characteristics of themselves and actually become similar to their significant other.

People differ not only in their construct but also in the way in which they organize them. Organization of construct also serves to reduce conflict for the person. For example if a married man knows that his wife and family come first, even before his mother, then potential conflicts can be minimized. Doubts as to which construct is superordinate can be painful as many husbands have learned Kelly's individuality corollary proposed that Persons differ from each other in their construction of events.We have our own interpretations and subjective cons.No two people interpret events in the same way. Each of us experiences an event from our own subjective point of view.

If so, are you more likely to commit to a bad or sadistic relationship as long as no one knows about the relationship? Does a troubled relationship put you at ease, does it relax you, or does it stress you out stress, or not? Does any mention of

Suffering-- unfulfilled hopes, dreams, or expectations-- is unavoidable; one can try to minimize suffering, but it may have the opposite results since one has to become a shut-in: one has to shut themselves away from the world and keep social interactions to a bare minimum all to avoid being hurt. A lot of these shut-ins, including Oreki, are depressed and suicidal. Therefore, avoiding pain will just lead to pain--a catch-22 situation--; however, pain is essential because without experiencing pain one will never understand the true meaning of happiness. In fact, taking on challenges is a big learning experience. For instance, if I didn’t take English Honors, I probably wouldn’t have become a better writer.

Gratiano concludes that when people want something, in this case love, they spend too much time chasing it so when finally they can attain what they have always wanted, interest in the matter disappears. Therefore, Gratiano feels that often love is a waste of time because many relationships eventually run out of steam. Based on his attitude towards the subject of love, I feel that Gratiano could be both a good and a bad husband. He could either use his understanding of relationships to make sure he and his significant other do not make the same mistake as most. Or, his ideas could prevent him from ever