Optimal post-loss adjustment is posited to occur when the bereaved individual smoothly transitions or oscillate between LO and RO processes (Shah & Meeks, 2012; Stroebe & Schut, 1999). “The ones who best cope with death may be those who both embrace and avoid grief, at times feeling pain and at times finding ways not to” (Neimeyer, 2002, pg. 193). Oscillation can be achieved through a process of expressing grief by means of revisiting and retelling of the the story of the loss, holding conversations with the image of the loved one and to providing opportunity to structure future goals and restore contact with a new world (Neimeyer & Currier, 2009, pg. 355).
There are many different emotions, actions, and expressions associated with grieving, which helps the person come to terms with their loss. Not everyone has the same reaction to grief because every loss is different (American Cancer Society, 2014). The personal experience of dying or losing a loved one can be very difficult, especially if the death is unexpected compared to a person who has been ill for a long time (Kazanowski, 2014). Grieving includes the whole emotional process of coping with a loss and it can last a long time for some people. Grieving allows people to let the person close to them go so they can keep living in a healthy way (American Cancer Society, 2014).
2). A person might feel as there’s an abundance of things left unsaid, unfulfilled, and yearn for their loved one. The griever might wonder how they can go on living, when their world has been shattered. The book transitions into “suffering” and recognizes the feelings associated: numbness, denial, anger, panic, physical illness, and depression, and the griever is advised these are all normal reactions. Grollman dives into the feelings associated with suffering, and reassures the griever it’s normal to feel the way they do.
In that situation, family members who are present at the time of attempted resuscitation are at high risk for emotional and physical burdens.1On the other hand, being family present during resuscitation may help the family members understand that everything possible to bring the patient back to life has been implemented.1 In addition to quelling suspicion about behind-closed-doors resuscitation efforts and unrealistic expectations of such efforts, the family member's presence may offer the opportunity for a last goodbye and help that person grasp the reality of death, with the hope that the bereavement process will not be prolonged or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Although, the benefits and drawbacks of family presence during resuscitation have been argued since 1987,1 the potential benefits must be weighed against the possibility of stress induced in health care providers and an increase in the emotional burden on family members, as well as the risk of legal claims
Death is a part of life and while my patients are alive I would like to be a friend to them that way while they are alive they are as happy as they can be and I will know that I did everything I can to help them while they were alive. I think that not becoming attached to patients is a cowardly thing to do and selfish because they may need someone to talk to or ask questions to and if you are not there for them then you are not doing your job to the best of your abilities. While it would be sad being around a dying person it would not be uncomfortable. At that point I do not think my comfort matters. All my efforts should be turned towards that individual.
The caregivers are a crucial aspect in the patients last moments. The caregivers are there to help and support the dying, but many forget that they themselves need support in order to carry on. As death being something we can’t prepare for it becomes tougher when we know that for now there isn’t so much of a cure, just a few things to prolong it. Truschke in his letter strives to explain this matter when he writes; “No one is really prepared to deal with the nightmare of Alzheimer’s on their own” (110). His point is not only with dealing with Alzheimer’s disease itself, but can be looked at with all other causes of death and illnesses.
They suffer through the pain of not being able to hear their loved ones voice, or see their face for the last time (pathos). Death always seems to come at the wrong time, but like Andie, one must wait patiently for life to get back on track. While The Haunted House Project proves that new experiences reside in waiting rooms, life proves to be the perfect waiting room. Like Andie wishes for a different turn out in life, people long for a good outcome in life. While wishing fro change, Andie realizes photography helps one remember the good outcomes in life.
One of the ways that people seek peace is through the process of mourning of death. Death is commonly mourned, both everyday life and literature, allowing for the cast to express their true feelings toward another character, without them being present. This process is related to the way that death is personified because of the connection between them. Without the various characteristics and stipulations surrounding death, people cannot find peace through the process of
As it relates to an individual’s loss of something or someone of great value, grief, bereavement and mourning plays a significant role in the overall process. In situations where individuals encounter losing someone that they may considered important to them, they offend experience a normal process referred to as grieving (Howarth, 2011). The process of grieving is anticipated and natural. Persons tend to accept and apprehend their loss differently over time which varies from person to person. Additionally, there are various types of grief different people may experience when grieving.
This week reading allowed me to understand more about grief counseling and grief therapy. Grief counseling helps clients adopt healthy ways to face the reality of a loved one that has passed. Grief counseling adopt strategies such as increase reality of loss, face emotional or behavioral pain, solve any obstacles that can prevent the person from moving forward and finally finding a way to maintain a bond with the deceased. Grief therapy focuses on a deeper complexity involving grief. Therapy can continue any abnormality such as extended periods of grieving.
He lacks motivation due to limitations from his condition. He describes feelings of frustration, restlessness, and agitation. He is concerned about his future love life, and going through a big life change. Robbie J has positive behaviors and aspects that will be helpful in his treatment such as equipped to take responsibility for himself, he is sociable, and have family support. Given Robbie J problems with drinking, lack of motivation, and physical injuries, long term rehabilitation, join an Alcoholics Anonymous group, and continue family counseling is suggested.
“There are two types of death: the kind that comes too soon, and the kind that, though lamentable, at least feels age-appropriate.” And “When the very old die, however, the loss—while still terrible for their loved ones—doesn’t come with that same sense of unfulfilled potential.” These appeal to ethos in that they bring in the moral issue of how people for years have interpreted the effect of an unexpected death based on the age of that deceased person. Should society be able to say whether someone has lived his or her life to the
It is very important to have one because in an emergency situation (ex. a problem after surgery), many family members may have different feeling on what the plan of care of the patient should be and their emotions can cause them to overlook the wishes of their loved one. There are two main types of directives,
I, Chaplain Lee, am writing this letter to reach out to you to let you know that I am praying for you and your family. When we lose our loved ones, we have to go through the process called ‘Grief.’ The length of the grieving process varies from person to person but it lasts much longer than most people expect. Your loved one, our hero who fought for the freedom we so cherish, has made the transition three month ago. You may have learned to accept the loss and the pain may have lessened in intensity over time, but we all know that the sadness may never completely go away. It is normal to feel depressed, confused, or disconnected from others after the passing of your loved one.
Anticipatory grief offers the support system additional time to gradually become used to the realism of the loss. Individuals are capable to complete incomplete business with the dying individual. Some examples are, saying "goodbye," "I love you," or "I forgive you", “fair well”, “You’ll always be