The movie, Hope Spring presents a middle-aged couple whose thirty years of marriage, is being jeopardized by the lack of intimacy, connection and communication. As a result, Kay (wife) and Arnold (husband) are no longer sharing the same bedroom and they barely intermingle in a loving way. It is palpable that intimacy between Kay and Arnold is nonexistence. As a result, they have unintentionally created multiple barriers to connect intimately and those barriers are preventing intimacy from occurring in their marriage relationship.
Chapter two in the textbook Reflect & Relate an Introduction to Interpersonal Communication by Steven McCornack talks all about what “self” is and how to achieve complete fulfillment for one’s self which is also known as self-actualization. The components of self, as described in the book are, “ . . . self-awareness, self-concept, and self-esteem” (McCornack 39). Self-awareness is the idea in which one can take a moment to move feelings, beliefs, and other external influences aside and just evaluate oneself in a holistic perspective that is not skewed by opinions of others, etc. Having the ability to actually think about who one is brings a lot of power and mental stability in such a way that allows for improvement.
Interpersonal relationships can take form in many different ways and are everywhere, such as at the workplace, school, home, and even the grocery store. Interpersonal relationships consist of family, friendship, social, romantic, and online relationships; all of these relationships have one big thing in common: the element of communication. In the movie, The Notebook, the film primarily focuses on the romantic relationship between people named Noah and Allie. Upon meeting Noah, a poor man, and Allie, an upper-class woman, quickly fall in love, however, struggle with maintaining their relationship due to their social differences. The movie displays an array of interpersonal communication concepts, such as the social exchange theory, the declining
Tannen says in this article that a lack of communication is what is failing in relationships and is also what is leading couples to get a divorce. Now over the 25 year span that this article has been out we have came across many new ways of communicating with people. Which in a sense makes some of Tannen’s arguments not necessarily applicable to todays society. With communication being more modernized, i.e. texting, Facebook, and any other social media, one could say that Tannens arguments can’t really be applied. However if you take a look at what she says it can more then likely be used in conversation.
Now in days with the divorce rates so high the lack of communication plays a huge role on how we can start decreasing it. It’s hard to keep a relationships going when there’s no communication. Men and woman usually start to blame each other because of their problem in which lead to divorce but the source of the problem was their own knowledge on how to understand each other needs when communicating. Woman are used to having a different way of communication with her peers and it’s hard for them to think that they can’t talk to her husband the same way they would talk to their girlfriends. Then a man thinks he can use the same methods he uses when talking to his friends when he’s speaking to his wife.
This theory was made by Michael Argyle (1925- 2002), who was a social psychologist. In the late 1960s he studied social skills, body language, non-verbal communication and interpersonal behaviour. In this study, he found that non-verbal signals can be much more important and useful than verbal communication when trying to trigger peoples’ attitudes and feelings. His research showed and found that the stronger the relationship between the people communicating so with close friends for example the much better eye contact. However, when the relationship is not very strong so when speaking to a stranger people don’t have very good eye contact and they tend to look away when talking.
Tannen notes, "These differences clarify why women and men have such different expectations of communication in marriage" (411). From the wife's perspective, talking is a sign of intimacy required to maintain the marriage. Through this perspective, she sees marriage as being able to open up to someone while still being loved. On the contrary, most men view communication in marriage dissimilarly from their wives. From the husband's perspective, talking represents one's social status and independence.
Assignment # 3- Cause and Effect Essay Manuela Martin English 102-GW1 Spring 2018 Professor S. Pathak 01 March 2018 Lack of Communication in a Relationship One of the most fundamental elements of a healthy and strong relationship is communication.
Communication: The Secret to Healthy Relationships “Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life.” This quote from Tony Gaskin, a 38 year-old motivational speaker and life coach uses a lot of his research regarding relationships. However, Tony Gaskin is not the first person to think this. Around 407 years earlier lived the great William Shakespeare. He used his play Romeo and Juliet to express the theme that communication is vital to success.
In addition to being one of the most entertaining shows to binge in the background of daily life, The Office is considered to be one of the more quotable comedies the 2000s brought us. The show’s compilation of lovable and often stereotypical characters provided us with nine seasons worth of memorable tomfoolery, character development, and one-liners. But for the purpose of this paper we will be looking beyond the plethora of “Worlds Best Boss” mugs and “That’s what she said” jokes, and taking a cold, analytical look at The Office to determine what the show offers in regard to interpersonal communication. In the first episode we are introduced to the shows connotation of conflict as we observe Dwight Schrute demonstrating a competitive conflict style in his reaction to Jim Halpert’s solidifying Dwight’s personal belongings in a jello mold.
Pronatalism is the nearly universal cultural belief that couples should reproduce. People with this mindset also often have preconceived ideas about people that do not have children. This cultural mindset is what leads people to begin asking a newly married couple when they are going to have children. Having children is something that is expected of a couple, it was and to some degree, still is the norm. But, times are changing and some couples are choosing not to have children or to at least delay the age at which they have children.
She emphasizes the recognition of “cross-cultural” communication is beneficial to repair the conversational issues (Tannen 264). She proposes couples to improve their relationship by learning differences, adjusting conversational styles, and changing attitude. Learning differences is crucial to couples at the beginning of improvement, which helps couples to achieve mutual acceptance. Ideally, couples change their communication patterns according to their partners’ preference.
Their conversations becomes shallow, and what little communication is actually
Interactions with others are an unavoidable part of today’s society. Communication with others occur daily, and without fail. Though these intercommunications cannot be helped, it is up to people to maintain a relationship. It is a choice for one to stay in a committed relationship with another. These relationships don’t necessarily mean an intimate affair with a significant other, rather they can be with family, friends and acquaintances as well.
(Charoenthaweesub Rath, Mathurada; Hitchcock, John, 2012), good communication within the families promotes good relationships among family members. Therefore, family relationships among families of different culture group maximize openness and minimize fear of difference. The interview result revealed that family relationship is base for good family management, financial management, and child- parent communication and related issues. If family relationship is broken and not understandable family communication both in the same family of different cultural group it face problem like miscommunication among family members.
