When it comes to contemporary male gender roles, it is becoming further accepted that men are nurturing and expressive. Unfortunately, there is still a large amount of traditional male gender roles. Men are to be considered as aggressive, rational, and demonstrate instrumental traits, or task-oriented (Cohen and Strong 125). Also, men have been traditionally raised up as dominant over women such that men are to provide for their family, and express dominance over the household. In William Pollack’s book “Real Boys,” he uses his research to help show the struggle men of all ages face in order to fulfill the gender roles set by families and society.
Aside from misogymy, men are also expected to be: less talkative, less social, less expressive, brave, aggressive, physically built, strong, and many others. What is important from these values are how they are all the opposites from how women are supposed to act, thus giving a gender based role predictions. These gender differentiations are toxic in each of its underlying gender, however this paper is only going to discuss about how it affects the male side. All of these are stereotypes which are being imposed by society on us and strengthened as role differentiation gets into play in later parts of a boy’s life. The socialization of these values are not only being given directly from each of the boys’ parents, but also learned from interacting with their peers, and even bigger yet, medias.
Out of all the reading we read, the one that stood out to me was “Male body image in America” by Lynne Luciano. This reading stood out to me the most because in the society we live in this is the type of things people expect from men. Men would get surgeries, stay in the gym and buy many grooming things to keep up with society spectations of them. In the third paragraph (page 30), Lynne mentions about the four imperatives for men today. The four imperative were that “men must be men”, “second, men must be completive and constantly demonstrating their success”, “third, they must be detached and impassive”, lastly “they must be willing to take risk and confront danger”.
They are expected to be strong, to objectify women, and keep their emotions in check. Young boys are evaluated for their masculinity by his father and eventually by peers, bosses and other males; seeking approval from other men, afraid for being exposed as vulnerable, weak, or soft. As an adult, males continue to try to dominate his world, which excludes other groups such as women, non-white men, and homosexuals. “Our fear is “not fear of women but of being ashamed or humiliated in front of other men, or being dominated by stronger men” (Kimmel, 86). American men spend their entire life proving and demonstrating their manhood in order to prove their masculinity of not being like a woman (Kimmel, 86-87).
Well, this song does highlight some emotional and typically feminine aspect a man have, it should be ignored that some pretty strong stereotypical masculine messages are also being portrayed through this song. The very first line of the song “well I never once back down from a punch” automatically plays into the idea that men are violent. It portrays the idea that men must never back down from physical altercations or they could be seen as less than a man. The artist even shows examples of this during the music video by using men from the military as his focus point.
Rainsford argues about the humanity of Zaroff he responds with “Life is for the strong, to be lived by the strong, and, if needs be, taken by the strong. The weak of the world were put here to give the strong pleasure. I am strong. Why should I not use my gift?” (Connell, 8).
Hence the title suggests that being ‘tough’ is a disguise or mask or front that many males define themselves by to gain the respect of others. For the documentary, several young men from different races, ethnicities and backgrounds, were asked what terms are used to describe what “manly” is and what terms are given to those that are not considered “manly.” The response that a “real man” is strong, powerful, respected and tough; then using terms such as “girly,” “bitch,” “queer,” and “fag” to describe someone who was not a “real man”. The importance of bringing attention to the way masculinity is perceived and putting the spotlight on the pressure boys and young men deal with to conform to the mold of what a “real man” is and to be “just one of the
Whether it was a sin, or if it was made fun of, they stayed who they were. Anthem takes a disagreement between an individual and his society to a whole new level. The society in this book controls every part of its members’ lives, from their daily schedules, to their sexual partners, and even when they’re allowed to smile. They are told that they only exist to serve their community. It’s society which chooses what their occupants will do for the rest of their lives, assigning them
Masculinity. "As boys, we are told to be brave" MASCULINITY is a popular word in the society since the beggining but we really know what does it mean masculinity. it is traditionally though that masculinity are traditionally thought to be typical of or suitable for men i mean men behavior or they way that a men has to behave, in other words we can detire masculinity as a set of attributes, behaviors and roles generally associated with boys and men. Since what constitutes masculinity has varied by time and place.
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