It was in that same year, 2002, that I watched my grandmother succumb to a lengthy battle with ovarian cancer. My grandmother worked as an LPN for nearly twenty years, and it often said in my family that I took after her in more ways than just physically:; I had inherited her work ethic and her sunny disposition, her tendency to always look on the bright side of life even when things got rough. I was her firstborn granddaughter, and we were very close; growing up, I could remember her crispy-pressed scrubs that always smelled like a combination of starch and her favorite perfume, and the hard candies she kept in her pockets, both for her patients and for me.
Unfortunately, her cancer went undetected for many years. I always wondered why, as an LPN, she wasn’t diagnosed sooner, why none of us knew until it had spread to her abdomen. But it had always been my grandmother’s way to look after everyone first and herself second. It was that selfless dedication that had inspired her to go to nursing school, a poor, single mother raising four children in the heart of one of Los Angeles’ toughest neighborhoods. It was that selfless dedication that inspired me, and when my grandmother went into hospice, I saw the same selfless dedication mirrored
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We all felt the loss of her warmth and presence keenly, but none more than my mother, who suffered through an intense period of depression in the months following. This was my first experience with death, and I can clearly remember the sadness and confusion I felt during and after my grandmother’s funeral. Trying to come to grips with losing my grandmother was difficult enough, but I found myself having to take on the responsibilities my mother’s depression had rendered her unable to do. Though my mother eventually recovered, I had no idea at the time that watching her struggling with depression would be an augury for my own personal battles with
The Amedisys Hospice service that I work for is special, loving, kind and caring; which we provide comfort and support for our patients, which are facing life- limiting illnesses for each family member and loved ones. The reason I chose the topic to write and tell about my story to tell; is because I am a Hospice aide that I experience each week days. I travel from home, to home, work at facilities, and work in the office some. There are lots of our patients choose to be home for their comfort of their illnesses; and some that aren’t able, or do not have the time for their loved ones; they chooses the facility’s such as the nursing homes, not stating that they do not want to care for them in their home, because they have busy schedules or what
Death is not so light a concept as to glance off of those it does not take. Oftentimes, when death claims someone close to you, it seems easy to fall into a lethargic pit of despair, contenting oneself only to dwell on the morose incontrollable nature of the universe. I know I felt this way, especially with the guilt laid upon me with the death of my brother. I do not claim to know anyone else’s grief, or to know the best way for anyone to deal with the loss of such a beloved girl. I do know, however, that “when you lose something you love, faith takes over” (Tan 2166).
I felt fortunate to have attended the session with Bonnie, an epitome for an ideal hospice care provider. She demonstrates an ability to connect anyone in personal level and with full attention; thereby, making both the recipients and their family feel cared. As she shared her experience, it was reflected that she made sure the care is provided to the patients spiritually; and other needs are also taken care of. Bonnie joined hospice care after realizing the previous career of a social worker was not fulfilling. It was inspiring that she reflected it is never too late to change a career trajectory.
The past year I have seen how much of a big difference hospice makes. I have seen how patients and their families become attached to their hospice team. I have witnessed all hospice team members working together to be supportive to families when their loved one has passed. I never knew how much of a difference hospice can make until my time at Homestead. I saw how the entire hospice team cared for each and every patient and wanted to make the patient’s last days the best they could possibly be.
My grandma, at the time, was sick with a liver disease. Throughout the whole trip, my grandma cried from the pain the infection caused. My mom stated, “It was agonizing. I couldn’t do anything for her except just to watch.” Nevertheless, a Vietnamese doctor escorted my grandma throughout the entire journey.
In all my experiences as a nurse, I’ve realized the importance of communication, providing holistic care to an individual and empowering them with the knowledge to manage their health. When an illness strikes a person, it affects not just his body, but also his mind and spirit. The art of communication is invaluable to patient interaction and establishing a therapeutic nurse-patient relationship, that facilitate coping mechanisms for patients, moreover it prepared myself as a nurse to meet their individual needs. Furthermore, there is at the moment an insurmountable demand for survivorship care as a result of the advancement in technology and medicine, which made living beyond life expectancy possible for increasingly more people. Living after cancer treatment is not free of complications as there are acute and chronic side effects of treatment that requires constant monitoring and attention, and this information spurred me to shift my focus from palliative to survivorship care.
There are unlimited ways to express healthy emotion. As everyone experiences this, loss is understood as a natural part of life. However, we can still be overcome by shock and confusion, leading to prolonged periods of sadness or depression. The sadness typically diminishes in intensity as time passes, but grieving is an important process in order to overcome these feelings and continue to embrace the time you had with your loved one.” (Nordal PhD, Katherine APA).
When I was nine years old (2010), death touched my family through my older sister, Margot Kate Jackson Fowler, known by many as Katie Fowler. This affected me in tremendous ways which will stay with me for life. Whenever I see or hear of death regarding family members, I draw instant connections to the death of my sister. When guddu and Saroo were separated that night, not knowing that it would be their last moment together; they didn’t say goodbye. I can relate to this on a personal level as I never got to say goodbye to my sister.
Mary’s sixteen month training made her a greater nurse. This training made it possible for her to be asked to speak for the NACGN, become a member of that association, and later become a member of the ANA. Mary’s active membership in the nursing associations, and her outstanding work as a nurse made it possible for an award to be named after her. It is because of Mary that women of all races who aspire to be in the nursing profession can make it through like Mary
The paradigms of thanatology have spanned many years with models of death and dying undergoing many changes and attempts to comprehend coping with loss and grief (Roos, 2012). Greenstreet (2004) maintains that grief is an inherent human response that can be defined as an individual’s personal reaction to loss, and can encompass many dimensions including emotional, physical, behavioural, cognitive, social and spiritual. In order to underpin such a concept as grief a Swiss-American psychiatrist, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, proposed a theoretical liner process to promote death awareness to the public which illustrated that dying people will progress through five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance (Buglass (2010). Subsequently
After the sudden loss of my oldest brother in 2011, my life changed in the blink of an eye. While trying to overcome this heartbreaking experience was one of the most challenging things ever faced with, his death soon turned into a true inspiration to me. Not only do I cherish all the memories I was able to share with him over the years, I soon came to realization that tomorrow is not a promise to anyone and to live life to the fullest. With this being said, having the opportunity to have an impact on someone everyday whether through communication, actions and/or attitude to help heal is something very powerful to me. Nursing is a profession that allows individuals to open new doors to learn something new and making the best of everyday for each
When news came to me that my mom’s biopsy results revealed cancer in her uterus, I grew even more unmotivated and my days in school would drag by. After the news, I would constantly be pushed by someone to get dressed and go to practice. My mother’s bad news hit me like a truck. All of a sudden I felt I could not do anything to help her and my days seemed longer and longer than ever .
Standing over the coffin, smelling the crisp cool air, seeing nothing but black clothing, and hearing sobs in the distant, I learned what grief was. Grief is the time your body takes to accept that someone is gone, experiencing heartache, pain, and sadness. Which is what I saw in everyone standing over my father, yet everything in your body, mind, and entire being brings you back to the moments they were alive. When I think of you now, I picture a father, a painful illness, but most of all I think of memories.
I watched my mother fade away slowly as she was battling pancreatic cancer. I looked after her everyday as best as I could; however, the feeling of my eventual solitude was unbearable. The thought of my mother’s imminent demise made me feel like my heart was being continuously stabbed. Watching my mother suffer was one of the hardest things I have ever had to go through. After her passing; something changed in me, darkness filled where love once was.
It was this day that I got the call at 2 a.m. that my mother had passed away. Her fight was over. The experience of watching my mother slowly perish to a debilitating illness is an ordeal that challenged and changed me profoundly. As I reflect on what I learned on this journey, two things are apparent.