Hekker concludes by mentioning that being a housewife is a heroic job if and only if the works that a housewife does is for children, husband, and house of someone else. On the other hand, in the article "Paradise Lost", which was written in 2006, Hekker describes her new life and opinion about housewife after her divorced. The author clarifies that the purpose of her article about the satisfaction of being housewife is to defend her job not to persuade other mothers to leave their
William Fairbairn is known for postulating that libido unlike what Freud said is object seeking and not pleasure seeking. He said our search for relationships is more primitive than the desire to gratify them. Fairbairn’s structural model proposes, “that the libido is not primarily aimed at pleasure, but at making relationships with others.” Fairbairn’s internal objects are formed directly from actual experiences with external objects. For Fairbairn, badness is the internalization of parents who are actually depriving or rejecting. His development theory describes how the infant works on his dependency to the mother through developmental stages.
Cultural myths can also obstruct our way of thinking. When I was growing up, I view my family as the “model” of perfect family: my dad, my mom, and my siblings. This is a cultural myth because I believe the “model” family consist of those things. To other cultures, like in Asia, having your extended relatives living with you in the same house is part of their “model” family. It is very hard to overthrow these cultural myths we have when consider the way others raise a family.
The Family Systems Theory Family systems theory is a framework for understanding families and their strengths and dysfunctions. The strengths identified among family relations can be used to help solve existing problems. The same applies with problems identified. The family system theory is based on Bowen’s theory which argues that people cannot leave independent of each other’s network of relationships. People within a family are connected emotionally, which affects their overall well being and social relations and behaviour.
What happens if the relationship ends badly? Dewane (2010, p.18) also maintained in her article that dual relationships are sometimes inevitable and unavoidable. She described circumstantial factors in which dual relations may be considered appropriate for some social workers; situations including when therapeutic relationship has been terminated for some time, the client’s history, vulnerability, and current mental status. The author urged clinicians to consider these questions when deciding to enter into dual relationships: How will the power difference change in the therapeutic relationship? How long will this dual relationship last?
The theory looks at many aspects of the family such as atmosphere, constellation, and goals, plus, respect is given to both children and adults. In this system interventions are suggested for children and adults. The limitations of the Family Systems Theory are, too much is focused on homeostasis at the expense of change and patterns at the expense of unpredictability. Moreover, on the system at the expense of the individuals. A positivistic intellectual tradition that puts the researcher outside the system in search of strengths and limitations of the theory of the family (Turner & West, 1998).
‘Traditional structural theories, Functionalism, Marxism, and Feminism assume the family being explained is the traditional nuclear family, this is not relevant any more, there is family diversity, changing gender roles and changing relationships between parents and children’ Using the extract evaluate the usefulness of Postmodernism for an understanding of the family (20) The postmodernist view on family is that we have broken away from modernity (traditional families) to postmodernity which contains negotiated families. A negotiated family is the idea that we negotiate and get what we want from a family, and the whole of the postmodernity view is that us an individual have a choice about what type of family they form a who is in it, the main theme is that there is more diversity in today’s families. Post 1980 was when postmodernity came about, and some of the types of families that emerged from this include same sex parents, lone parents, cohabitating couples etc. Within these negotiated families, many things have changed, and one of these include joint gender roles. Today within family’s males and females share the roles that need to be performed, whereas in the traditional families there were separate gender roles as the woman stayed at home and looked after the children and the male went to work and was the main bread winner.
Not only, did Mrs. A. J. Graves support the pastoralization of housework and gender spheres so did Catherine Beecher. Beecher argued that housework was hard work, but believed women’s work in the home administered the gentler charities of life. Boydston writes, “Beecher enjoyed the new standing afford middle-class women by their roles as moral guardians to their families and to societies, and based much of her own claim to status as a woman on the presumed differences between herself and immigrant and laboring-class women.” For middle-class women, women were given more of an influence in their
Niko Kolodny, author of “Which Relationships Justify Partiality? The Case of Parents and Children”, says that a child’s responsibility will only take place if the parent has met their responsibility (60). Contrary to that belief is mine. In my culture it is part of morality and your self-worth to care for your parent even if the history of encounters has not been pleasant or give reason for partiality. Although, to contradict my argument, Kolodny brings
Person-centered therapy developed in the 1930’s by psychologist Dr Carl Rogers (1902-1987), person-centered therapy divided from the formal role of the therapist highlighted in psychoanalysis. Carl Rogers emphasised the humanistic perspective as well as ensuring therapeutic relationships with clients promote self-esteem, authenticity and actualisation in their life, and help them to use their strengths (Seligman, 2006). He propelled a way to deal with psychotherapy and guiding that, at the time (1940s – 1960s), was considered greatly radical if not progressive. In the late 1960s, person-centered therapy got to be connected with the human potential development. This development, going back to the mid 1900s, mirrored a modified point of view