However what Nea does not understand in all her youth and idealism , is that sourdi does not want to be saved: She willfully accepts her fate and her marriage to Mr.Chhay because she finds financial stability and a secure future. Since the beginning of the story Nea believes that she is saving or protecting Sourdi from the expectations of her mother and Mr. Chhay. The mother and the uncle have fix a marriage with an older man named Mr.Chhay. Sourdi is a young girl that has a boyfriend name Duke, But her mom really dosen’t cares what Sourdi thinks or wants. So Sourdi meets Mr.chhay and she feels uncomfortable in the
Put me down easy, Janie, Ah’m a cracked plate” (Hurston 20). Nanny is successfully able to convince her granddaughter through her own traumatic experiences and make her feel “sympathy” as she tells Janie she doesn’t want her life to be spoiled like her own life was. At first, Janie refuses to marry Logan Killicks. Nanny being the older one, defends herself by saying “put me down easy” since she can no longer care for Janie and only her wish is for Janie to get married and be protected from the dangers she and her own daughter faced. By calling herself a “cracked plate” Nanny further elucidates that she went through many hardships in her own life and wants to do the right thing for her granddaughter by
She comes with a new attitude and news she has changed her name form Dee to Wangero. She changed her name because she thinks her family doesn’t value their heritage, so she changed it to keep it alive. She also comes back to ask her mother for quilts when it had already been promised to Maggie. Dee thought Maggie can’t appreciate the heritage behind it, but their mother hopped that Maggie would use it for everyday use, exactly what Dee didn’t want. In the end of the story Maggie and her mother sits outside on the yard watching Dee drive away.
The mother cares so much about her son that she does not want him to see her getting upset in his final days. “She held a ghost smile between her teeth, and in her eyes memories.” When it says ghost smile it shows that she does not want to show her child that she is upset about the situation of his death, because as you know children do not like it when they see their mother upset. Also when it says the memories in her eyes it refers to the flashbacks of the good times they had together presumably before they got put in the refugee camp. This is therefore another reason for her to be hiding her
In the book, Lindo Jong was forced to marry the boy chosen for her by the matchmaker. This meant she had to give up her happiness to fulfill the promise she made to her mother that she wouldn’t shame the family and she did everything in her power to keep that promise. Her daughter, Waverly Jong, did not have the same devotion to the meaning of the word “promise”. Amy Tan wrote, “A daughter can promise to come to dinner, but if she has a headache, if she has a traffic jam, if she wants to watch her favorite movie on TV, she no longer has a promise (Tan 42).” The younger generation does not apply as much devotion to the smaller things in life as their moms did because they did not grow up in the culture that the older
The mother at the end of the story agrees that they should be used for everyday use. “Maggie can’t appreciate these quilts! She said. “she’d probably be backward enough to put them to everyday use.” (walker). This shows that dee really wants the quilts but not for the reason her mother wants.
Lena wanted to use her husband 's insurance money for the children to follow and achieve their dreams. Lena is extremely worried about Walter 's obsession with money and Beneatha 's lack of faith in God. Still, she stays supportive of her children and still loves them unconditionally. Her nurturing personality is symbolized by the way she treats her houseplant. Just like her family, Lena 's plant lacks the necessary resources to flourish.
It is very important for the daughter to have a voice; it is okay that the mother is trying to prepare her daughter but she is not teaching her to be independent, intelligent or strong, but to live in fear of making a mistake or disappointing her mother. It is important for a kid to have free will and make his/hers life choices. This is why controlling your daughter on things like how to smile, how to walk and what not to sing is not healthy; just like the mother in Jamaica Kincaid’s prose-poem “Girl” does to her daughter. Nobody is perfect and a girl should not live her life trying to not upset and disappoint her mother on her every move. She should be able to be happy, have a voice and live her life to her
Constancia is made known to the reader as a socially-caring teenager, arguing over taking her “embarrassing” grandmother to church, “[Her] father [decided] that he should stay home with my mother and that I should escort la abuela to church. He [told] me this on Saturday night as [I was] getting ready to go out to the mall with my friends.’No way,’ I [said].” (Ortiz Cofer 1). Constancia is reluctant to take her grandmother to church, since she believes that it is something that would ruin her social status among her friends. Though, even when Constancia takes her grandmother to church, she still feels to protect her social status than to help her poor grandmother, who is lost. Constancia ends up learning of her grandmother’s hardships, and drops the selfish character, saying, “That’s when I’m sent to my room to consider a number I hadn’t thought much about—until today.
The mother puts too much pressure on the family to do what her family did. I can understand that the mother didn’t want to be alone, but as a mother you should want you kids to do better than you did and want them to succeed in life. When her only son was going to school , she said; “ I never though a son of mine would choose useless books over the parents that have you life”(Macleod 18). It shows how the mother was putting so much pressure and guilt
Even though the process of getting that meal is disgraceful, she choose to hide this ugly truth for her children and hold up the shameful feeling in her heart. Angela’s begging behavior may looks like she is forced by poverty, nonetheless, that’s not the only reason. With the heart of a mother, Angela loves her kids. So she doesn’t mind to sacrifices her dignity when the time she knows the family need
but was also afraid she might lose her if she didn’t let her go. Zitkala-Sa mother let her make her own decision this is an important piece of a mother and daughter relationship. Zitkala-Sa 's mother has taught her so much not to be involved in a place that she doesn’t belong. By letting Zitkala-Sa to make her personal decision, her mother is not interfering or controlled in her daughter 's life. The poor little girl, was looking for a bright future and a better life.